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Defining Sensuality

Sensuality is an appeal to the senses. Sensuality relates to or involves gratification of physical, especially sexual, pleasure. It consists of an indulgence of appetite. It is devoted to or preoccupied with the carnal appetites or fleshly desires. Sensuality is pleasurable and sexy. It is about giving pleasure to the body and senses rather than the mind. It often is used in a sexual context, but is not exclusively sexual in meaning. In other words, sensuality can be sexual, but it doesn’t have to be. Anything that makes you feel physically good can be sensual. Examples include titillating images, pleasant sounds, tantalizing fragrances, delicious food, balmy air, cool wind, having a massage, bathing, hugging, flirting, teasing, eating peanut butter, beautiful music, dancing, drinking wine, smelling flowers, and watching a sunset.

How to Kiss a Woman

Alexandra and Veronica

Love Me Tender

Freenbecky: Kissing Scenes

When Abbie Met Emmy: Lesbian Romance Short Film

Defining and Identifying Libido Type
Too Close: Gia and Linda

Scream by G Flip

Dani and Sophie: L Word Generation Q
Heaven by Troye Sivan and Betty Who

Kalinda and Lana: Say I Am

Floating Novelties

Sam and Mon : Take My Breath Away
LeSbo NainA: Pure Leabian Page

Dancing Scene: Max and Sam

FreenBecky: Love Scene

Sexual Signature

Sensuality as a sexual signature is the ability to fully experience (and enjoy) one's senses. Smelling, tasting, seeing, hearing, touching, and feeling combine to awaken the body and can strongly contribute to a sexual connection. It may simply be a matter of the sexual style (or sexual pattern) that you and your partner prefer. Do you feel excitement with your partner when things are fast, rough and intense?  Or when things are more slow, tender and gentle?

The term “sensuality” has often (and falsely) been confused with “sexuality” only. However, your sensuality is about how in tune you are with your senses (sound, sight, smell, taste and touch) and how all of them help to arouse sexual desires. Feeling sensual will contribute to the intimacy of your sexual experiences, but more importantly, it will allow you to enjoy life’s pleasures on a new level.

Sensuality is a holistic physical experience and couples are encouraged to embrace it. It’s about being present, connecting with your surroundings and with your inner self. We should all learn to explore our levels of sensuality.

Valentina and Juliana

Freen and Becky: Scene From Loyal Pin

Black Queer Writers: Queer Sensuality

Mon & Sam: Dangerous Woman

Heart Love

Addicted to Your Kisses
15 Kinds of Gay Kissers You'll Encounter in the Wild

Tina and Bette: Nights in White Satin

Two Lovely Ladies
Jessica Jones: Kiss and Cello Scene

Different Types of Hugs

FreenBecky: Romantic Interludes
Faye and Yoko: The Way They Kiss
Juliantina: Sexual Tension
Pink and Mari

Sensual vs. Sexual: Understanding the Differences

Info: Having Sex

Flor and Jazmin

Rock and Archie: Rescue My Heart

Girls Kissing
 

Sensuality and Intimacy

Sensuality in a relationship is a fundamental element that enriches the connection between partners, fostering intimacy, understanding, and emotional fulfillment. It encompasses a range of experiences, from physical touch to emotional connection, and plays a vital role in nurturing and sustaining a healthy relationship.

First and foremost, sensuality serves as a powerful means of communication between partners. Through touch, gestures, and other non-verbal cues, individuals can convey their desires, affection, and emotional states. This form of communication transcends language barriers, allowing couples to connect on a deeper level and understand each other's needs without the need for explicit words.

Furthermore, sensuality cultivates intimacy within a relationship. Physical touch releases oxytocin, often referred to as the "love hormone," which promotes bonding and trust between partners. Whether it's a gentle caress, a warm embrace, or an intimate kiss, these acts of physical affection create a sense of closeness and security, strengthening the emotional bond between individuals.
 

Sexy, Sensual, or Intimate?
Aida and Alba

Senorita: Sensual, Cute, Romantic

Tango Dance Scene: Salma Hayek and Ashley Judd

Traits of the Sensually Awake Woman
Iris and Mardou

Freenbecky: Sensuous
Tom Goss: Breath and Sound

Info: Falling in Love

Bollywood: Two Indian Ladies
Freen and Becky: Sensuous Kiss

Kisses Under the Mistletoe for Yaz and Nicolette
Sensual vs. Sexual: Understanding the Differences

Morgan Wade: Fall In Love With Me
Ji Soo and Yoon Ju

Nofar and Sarit: Sensual Bachata Dance

Freen and Becky: Bath Towels
To Love Somebody

Aisha and Yiren

Beneath the Layers: What is Sensuality?

Moreover, sensuality enhances the overall quality of the relationship by promoting mutual pleasure and satisfaction. By exploring each other's bodies and desires, couples can discover new ways to experience pleasure and intimacy together. This exploration fosters a sense of adventure and excitement, keeping the spark alive in the relationship and preventing monotony or boredom.

Importantly, sensuality also promotes self-awareness and self-confidence within individuals. By embracing their own sensuality and exploring their desires, individuals can develop a deeper understanding of themselves and their needs. This self-awareness not only enhances personal fulfillment but also enables individuals to communicate their desires more effectively to their partner, leading to a more satisfying and fulfilling relationship for both parties.

In addition to its emotional and psychological benefits, sensuality also has physical health benefits. Regular physical touch has been shown to reduce stress, lower blood pressure, and boost the immune system. Moreover, intimate relationships have been linked to increased longevity and overall well-being, highlighting the importance of sensuality in promoting both physical and emotional health.

Sensuality plays a crucial role in nurturing and sustaining a healthy relationship. By fostering communication, intimacy, and mutual pleasure, it strengthens the emotional bond between partners and enhances overall relationship satisfaction. Embracing sensuality allows individuals to connect on a deeper level, promoting self-awareness, and fostering personal growth. Therefore, couples should prioritize sensuality in their relationship, recognizing its importance in building a strong, fulfilling, and lasting connection.

Sam & Mon: Romantic Scenes
Gay Love

When Abbie Met Emmy: Lesbian Romance Short Film

Mia and Pauline

Sam and Mon : Take My Breath Away

Two Lovely Ladies

Morgan Wade: Fall In Love With Me

Love Makes You Crazy

FreenBecky: Romantic Interludes
Film Clip: Village Affair
Dalida: Salma Ya Salama

Girls Kissing

Tell Him by Brian Justin Crum and Matt Bloyd
Juliantina: All Kisses

Freenbcky: Kissing Scenes

Embrace Your Sensuality: Body Awareness
Paris and Rebecca

15 Kinds of Gay Kissers You'll Encounter in the Wild

Moves by Bright Light Bright Light

Nina and Manuela

How I Learned to Stop Yearning and Tell My Crushes How I Really Feel

Sensual Synonyms

The notion of sensuality conjures a variety of perceptions. Depending on the context, sensuality can have a positive or negative connotation. Let's consider some of the synonyms associated with the word "sensual" .....  carnal, fleshly, luscious, lush, indulgent, decadent, sensuous, titillating, seductive, tantalizing, luxurious, voluptuous, animal...

Sensuality as carnal or fleshly is defined as having a relation to the body. Used in this way, it more often connotes derogatorily an action or manifestation of a person's lower nature. It describes a person who is a slave to bodily or fleshly desires. It is about gratification of the senses for the sake of aesthetic pleasure. It is an indulgence of and abandonment to physical appetites as ends in themselves.

Sensuality is also about experiencing seduction and sexual temptations. It focuses on the indulgence of a bodily desire or pleasure. It commonly implies sexual appetite with absence of the spiritual or intellectual. It refers to animal desires focusing on the physical as distinguished from the rational nature of a person. It is about leading a mindless animal existence.
 

Addicted to Your Kisses

What is Your Sexual Style?
Alice and Nat

Carmilla and Laura: Beautiful Moments

Sam & Mon: Love Me Like You Do
Traits of the Sensually Awake Woman
Kissing With Passion

Pure Lesbian Blog

My Partner and I Aren’t Having Sex: How Can I Still Foster Intimacy?
Judas Kiss: Set Me Free

Queer Salsa

Freenbecky: Sensuous

Eva & Uli - Definition of Love
Different Types of Hugs

Sensual vs. Sexual: Understanding the Differences

Two Ladies Dancing
 

To Love Somebody

Frankie and Nicolette: Try Me

Izzy and Emma

Tango Dance Scene: Salma Hayek and Ashley Judd

Multifemslash: Into You

Alternative Orgasms: New Ways to Hit the Spot

Mon & Sam: Dangerous Woman

Dieux Du Stade: Gods of the Stadium

Michael and Ben

Juliantina: Speechless

LeSbo NainA: Pure Leabian Page

How I Learned to Stop Yearning and Tell My Crushes How I Really Feel

Ellen and Vera

More Beautiful for Having Been Broken

Love Makes You Crazy

Sensual vs. Sexual: Understanding the Differences

It can mean making love to your partner and being mindful of not only the actual intercourse but noticing the touch of their hand, their breath on your skin, or their smell. Sensual love is experiencing both the moment and the physical presence of your partner. Connecting on an emotional and mental level.

Discerning the difference between being sensual and being sexual can be a little confusing at times as they are often used in similar contexts. Sensuality can be experienced on its own but sexuality requires sensuality. This is because we experience the eroticism of sex through our senses. It is helpful to understand the difference between the two as having insight into what they look like and how you can engage in them can improve your relationship with your partner and with yourself.

Sensuality is experiencing the world through your senses; through touch, taste, smell, sound and sight in a way that is pleasing. Sexuality refers to the physiological responses of being sexually stimulated.

Tia and Nadine

Blame it on the Girls

Bollywood: Two Indian Ladies

Two Lovely Ladies

FreenBecky: Romantic Interludes
Kisses Under the Mistletoe for Yaz and Nicolette

Sam and Mon: Take My Breath Away

Girls Kissing

Heloïse and Marianne: Sensual Tension

Dieux Du Stade: Gods of the Stadium

Sara and Lexus

Alternative Orgasms: New Ways to Hit the Spot

Kissing You, Loving You

Tango Dance Scene: Salma Hayek and Ashley Judd

Somebody to Love

15 Kinds of Gay Kissers You'll Encounter in the Wild

She Means Everything to Me

Kang Ji-woo and Yoon Ji-woo

Infatuation

When we are being sensual, we are allowing our body to be mindful of the things around us in a way that brings us comfort, joy, and excitement. Sexuality promotes the desire for sex or interactions that promote orgasmic release and the desire to connect physically with someone with an end goal in mind. When someone is talking about being sexual they are usually referring to sex.

There is a clear distinction between being sensual and being sexual. Being sensual can exist on its own but you can’t experience and explore sexuality without engaging with your senses. Being sensual allows us to experience things as we interact with them, it allows us to notice if something feels, sounds or tastes good and lets us know if we want more of it. We can engage in our sensuality just because it feels good, with or without a partner.

Being sexual is different from being sensual because the intention of having sex is almost always present and that isn’t the case with being sensual. Sexuality is the act of engaging in physical behaviors to prompt intercourse and the sensation of orgasmic release.

Being sensual can come in many forms and fashions and there’s no one way to engage in it. It can mean making love to your partner and being mindful of not only the actual intercourse but noticing the touch of their hand, their breath on your skin, or their smell. Sensual love is experiencing both the moment and the physical presence of your partner. Connecting on an emotional and mental level.

Spain's Got Talent: Sensual Bathtub Performance
The Man I Love

Nina and Lisa: Something Wild

Zoe and Mal

Love Panky: What Kind of Lover Are You?

Info: Falling in Love

Freen and Becky: Bath Towels

Lora and Kate: Bed of Roses

Film Clip: Village Affair

Love Makes You Crazy

Black Queer Writers: Queer Sensuality

Heart Love

Freenbecky: Sensuous

Romantic Lesbian Love Story

Lesbian Couples in Love
When Abbie Met Emmy: Lesbian Romance Short Film

Faye and Yoko: The Way They Kiss

Two Ladies Dancing

Examples of being sensual include:

--Taking a shower or bath with your partner
--Giving a massage
--Going to dinner at your favorite restaurant
--Cuddling on the couch while watching a movie
--Listening to music together
--Talking about romantic feelings
--Reading a book out loud to each other
--Watching the sunset with your loved one
--Holding hands
--Hugging
--Breathing in your partners cologne/perfume

What is Sensual Attraction? One of the many types of attraction, even though this term isn’t used as frequently as sexual attraction, it is actually quite common and something you probably experience on a regular basis with a partner. Sensual attraction is when a person is interested in connecting with someone on a sensual level without the intention of having sex or being sexual. Instead, the intention might be to promote connection, relaxation, or to have fun.

[Source: Written by Samantha Bickham LMHC, Reviewed by Kristen Fuller MD, May 2023]

Morgan Wade: Fall In Love With Me

Sexy, Sensual, or Intimate?
Aida and Alba

Kissing You, Loving You

Juliantina: Sexual Tension

Girls Kissing

Reaching for the Moon: When Birds Kiss

Blame it on the Girls

Nina and Magda

Sam & Mon: Call Out My Name
Traits of the Sensually Awake Woman
Francis and Nicholas

Kisses Under the Mistletoe for Yaz and Nicolette

Scream by G Flip

Heloïse and Marianne: Sensual Tension

Bollywood: Two Indian Ladies

Addicted to Your Kisses

Passion

Passion, simply defined, is a strong sexual or romantic feeling for someone. It is a powerful or compelling emotion or feeling. It is a strong amorous feeling or desire.

Passion can be further described as a strong or extravagant fondness, enthusiasm, or desire for something.  It is a powerful and barely controllable emotion. It is an extreme, all-consuming, fascination, enthusiasm, or energy. Synonyms include affection, excitement, fervor, zeal, ecstasy, frenzy, rapture, and ardor.

Passion is a feeling of intense enthusiasm towards or compelling desire for someone or something. Passion can be described as an eager interest in or admiration for an idea, proposal, cause, or person. It can also be an enthusiastic enjoyment of an interest, activity, or person. And it can be a strong attraction, excitement, or emotion towards a person. It is an intense emotional heat or hunger. It is particularly used in the context of romance or sexual desire, though it generally implies a deeper or more encompassing emotion than that implied by the term lust. Sensual or romantic tension.

Passions are sometimes defined as penchants, inclinations, desires and aversions carried to a certain degree of intensity, combined with an indistinct sensation of pleasure. Your passion can be anything that simultaneously challenges you, intrigues you and motivates you.  It inspires fierce ambition and deep devotion.

Emily and Sue

Sam and Mon : Take My Breath Away

Bianca and Reese: I Can't Help Falling in Love With You

Thai Lesbian Love Fantasy 1

Freenbcky: Kissing Scenes

George Michael: I Can't Make You Love Me (Live)

Iris and Mardou

Addicted to Your Kisses

FreenBecky: Romantic Interludes
Seniorita: Sensual, Cute, Romantic

Tom Goss: Breath and Sound

Valentina and Juliana

Black Queer Writers: Queer Sensuality

FreenBecky: Love Scene

Michael and Ben

Nicole and Hot Aggressive Straight Girl

15 Kinds of Gay Kissers You'll Encounter in the Wild

How I Learned to Stop Yearning and Tell My Crushes How I Really Feel

How to Kiss a Woman

Pure Lesbian Blog

Sensual vs. Sexual: Understanding the Differences

Dieux Du Stade: Gods of the Stadium

Moves by Bright Light Bright Light

Aisha and Yiren

My Partner and I Aren’t Having Sex: How Can I Still Foster Intimacy?

Alternative Orgasms: New Ways to Hit the Spot

Freenbecky: Sensuous

Libido

What is libido?  The term was invented by Sigmund Freud.  It is defined as the psychic energy of the sexual drive as a component of the life instinct and derived from primitive biological urges (as for sexual pleasure or self-preservation) and that is expressed in conscious activity. It can be described as a drive, urge, desire, longing, passion, appetite, or lust.  Libido is a person's overall sexual drive or desire for sexual activity. Libido is influenced by biological, psychological, and social factors.
 

Francis and Nicholas

Gia and Linda

Sam & Mon: Earned It

Eva & Uli - Definition of Love

Yoon Bok and Jeong Hyang: Painter of the Wind

Sara and Olive

Reaching for the Moon: When Birds Kiss

She Likes Girls

Film Clip: Village Affair

Samantha and Taylor: Still I Fly

LeSbo NainA: Pure Leabian Page

Faye and Yoko: The Way They Kiss

Be More Sensual: Increase Sexual Confidence

When Abbie Met Emmy: Lesbian Romance Short Film

Zarah and Jenny

Lust

Simply stated, lust is a very strong sexual desire. Lust is a psychological force producing intense desire for an object, person, or circumstance. Usually intense or unbridled sexual desire.  Intense or excessive longing, yearning, appetite, hunger, craving, or eagerness, especially for sex. It's that sexual arousability you get when you glance at someone extremely attractive and you get momentary fantasies about having erotic sex with them. Sexual tension. It has nothing to do with love. Uncontrolled or illicit sexual passion. Lecherousness. Lasciviousness. Among the various manifestations of lust are: Lust for sexuality (libido); Lust for money or power (greed); Lust for food (gluttony); Lust for life (zeal, zest, enthusiasm).

Gin and Rose: Only Love Can Hurt Like This

Fragrances: Sense of Smell

Girls Kissing

Bollywood: Two Indian Ladies

Tango Dance Scene: Salma Hayek and Ashley Judd

Raquel and Malu

Spain's Got Talent: Sensual Bathtub Performance

Love Makes You Crazy

Samara and Umang: Indian Love

Somebody to Love

Beneath the Layers: What is Sensuality?
Dalida: Salma Ya Salama

The Photographer and Her Model

Kisses Under the Mistletoe for Yaz and Nicolette

Two Ladies Dancing

Thirst

Thirst (or thirsty) is new slang. It is the new usage of an old word. Like hunger, thirst is form of lust of or intense want of another person. To thirst for someone is to crave them or to yearn for them.  Another modern use of this slang term is to describe someone who is desperate or overly eager (almost to the point of begging). A thirsty person is constantly looking for a person to date. Thirst (or thirsty) can be defined as a desire, greed, obsession, or lust for an object or person characterized by over eagerness or obsessiveness that is obvious to everyone around you.

Horny

Horny is a slang term that means sexually excited or desperately wanting to have sex. It is an intense desire for sexual gratification. It means that you are in the mood for sex. Someone who is horny is sexual aroused or stimulated.  Synonyms of horny include turned on, titillated, hot, sexy, lustful, thirsty, salacious, and libidinous.

Relationship Behaviors That Enhance Sensuality

Below are the relationship behaviors that underscore quality relationships in general and sexuality in particular. If the partners in any relationship manifest them, they create a magical backdrop for any personal sexual style.

Timelessness - In order for lovemaking to be as good as it can be, both partners must be in the moment. The body and soul cannot be fully functional if either partner is living in the past or concerned about the future while they are concentrating on each other.

Lightness of Being - Passion expresses itself most beautifully when sexual partners can activate the children within them. Anxiety, insecurity, fear of being hurt, or pent up feelings of anger and suspicion, are feelings that bring people down. Joy, fun, and playfulness cannot thrive in their presence.

Resilience - At any time during courtship or sexual expression, words or actions can innocently happen that can turn someone off. It can be a simple misunderstanding or a new awareness that emerges during any intimate connection. It may be difficult for many people to bounce back when they are sexually open and vulnerable, but it is crucial to be able to explore what may have gone wrong and stay connected if it can be worked out.

Dancing Scene: Max and Sam

Dalida: Salma Ya Salama

Carmilla and Laura: Beautiful Moments

Sam & Mon: Love Me Like You Do
How I Learned to Stop Yearning and Tell My Crushes How I Really Feel

Chris and Mark

Types of Intimacy
 

Types of Lovers

--Giver - Selfless lover who constantly gives in the relationship.
--Taker - Constantly takes in the relationship. Always wants things their own way.
--Pleaser - Goes out of their way to please. Unconditional love. Gets pleasure out of pleasing their partner, even if it means giving up on something they want or like.
--Controller - Extremely attentive, but manipulative. Has lots of expectations, demands, rules, and restrictions.
--Selfish Lover - Always ask themselves “what’s in it for me?”

--Actor - Superficial and shallow. Pretends to care. All talk, no action.

--Drama Seeker - Wants thrills and excitement constantly. Picks fights and creates chaos.

--Straying Lover - Easily distracted. Always want more. Quickly gets bored with routine.

--Overlooker - Passive partner. Avoids confrontation. Turns a blind eye to problems and walks away from conflict.

--Helper - Constantly tries to help their partner become better, by supporting them or criticizing them. Behaves like a martyr who sacrifices their desires to help their partner achieve theirs.

--Compromiser - Doesn’t mind giving in for the happiness of the relationship. They give in easily in any argument or discussion just to keep the peace. Happily defers to the decisions of their partner.
--Possessive Lover - Untrusting of you and the rest of the world. Doubts your good intentions. Feels insecure and threatened by others.
--Jealous Lover - Feels jealous of your success and achievements. Has difficulty celebrating your good fortunes.

--Material Lover - More focused on wealth and luxuries than anything else.
--Brooding Lover - Lost in their own world almost all the time. They want space. They desire being by themselves for several hours. They almost always seem bothered by something.

--Loyal Lover - Devoted. Sticks with their partner through thick and thin. Possess moral principles. Does not cheat or stray. They are emotionally and sexually satisfied
--Passionate Lover - Intense. Almost always on a sexual high. Extremely energetic, enthusiastic, and adventurous.

--Romantic lover - Very caring, affectionate, and amorous. Sweet and loving. Demonstrative and expressive.

[Source: Love Panky]

Kissing With Passion
Sexy, Sensual, or Intimate?

Sam & Mon: Earned It

Heart Love

Multicouple Lesbian Fanvid: Cosmic Love

Sensuality and Senses

Truth be told, the more sex we have, the more often it can become a practice of moving through the motions and knowing exactly what turns you and your partner on and we engage the necessary sense needed to get us from A to B without really thinking about it. But guess what? We’re here to tell you that all the rest of those wonderfully underused senses are just dying to be tapped into, helping to enhance not only your pleasure, but your partner's as well. To this end, consider stimulus that is visual, auditory, aromatic, flavorful, and tactile.

Sight - Because sex is so often about touch, we often forget the importance of sight and the role it plays in turning us and our partners on. Visual stimulus can be very tantalizing and seductive. It can be something as simple as leaving the lights on and letting your partner watch you undress or purposely leaving the bathroom door open so that he/she can watch you rub down your body in the shower. Believe us when we say that knowing that his/her eyes are on you will do just as much for you as it does for him/her.

Sound - Utilizing your sense of hearing can come in so many forms that you might want to be careful not to overwhelm your senses. Acoustic delights might include spoken words, falling raindrops, chimes, ocean waves, music, and birds chirping. Start your evening out with some romantic mood-setting music and then, as things rev up, really focus in on the sounds that you and your partner are making (moaning, breathing). If the moment feels right, begin to whisper some of the sexy thoughts that are running through your head into his/her ear. We guarantee it’s likely to send you both crashing over the edge.

Different Types of Hugs

FreenBecky: Romantic Interludes
Connor and Oliver

Juliantina: All Kisses
Embrace Your Sensuality: Body Awareness
Dancing Scene: Max and Sam

The Man I Love

Sam and Mon : Take My Breath Away

Flirting

Flirting can be defined as playful banter between two people. This usually includes a conscious desire to flatter the one being flirted with. Flirting is a core aspect of many relationships today between a boy and a girl, a boy and a boy, or a girl and a girl. Nearly all accounts of flirting include subtle (harmless) sexual innuendos.

Flirting (or coquetry) is a social and sexual behavior involving spoken or written communication, as well as body language, by one person to another, either to suggest interest in a deeper relationship with the other person, or if done playfully, for amusement.

Moves by Bright Light Bright Light

Heloïse and Marianne: Sensual Tension

Two Lovely Ladies

In most cultures, it is socially disapproved for a person to make explicit sexual advances in public, or in private to someone not romantically acquainted, but indirect or suggestive advances may at times be considered acceptable.

Flirting usually involves speaking and behaving in a way that suggests a mildly greater intimacy than the actual relationship between the parties would justify, though within the rules of social etiquette, which generally disapproves of a direct expression of sexual interest in the given setting. This may be accomplished by communicating a sense of playfulness, teasing, or irony. Double entendres (where one meaning is more formally appropriate, and another more suggestive) may be used. Body language can include flicking the hair, eye contact, brief touching, open stances, proximity, and other gestures. Flirting may be done in an under-exaggerated, shy or frivolous style.

Flirting is being overly nice and friendly to someone. A lot of eye contact and smiling, teasing, and joking around. Flirting is an invitation to play. There is a hint, but no guarantee, of sexuality to it. Its function is to assess the viability of the recipient as a potential mate and/or companion in life’s thrilling dance. And the going out part? That’s the dance floor.

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Pride: Flirting Tips

Flirting or Just Being Nice
Little Gay Book: Lesbian Flirting
Signs Someone is Flirting With You
After Ellen: Essential Lesbian Guide to Flirting
Psychology Today: Flirting
Cosmopolitan: Women Flirting With Women

Foreplay

Foreplay is usually defined as erotic stimulation preceding intercourse. It is a set of emotionally and physically intimate acts between two or more people meant to create sexual arousal and desire for sexual activity. Although foreplay is typically understood as physical sexual activity, nonphysical activities, such as mental or verbal acts, may in some contexts be foreplay. Foreplay can mean different things to different people. Some common sexual behaviors that are considered foreplay are kissing, hugging, sexual touching, romantic talk, whispering, removing clothing, oral sex, certain sexual games, and role playing.

The average times spent on intercourse were 7 minutes and 12 minutes on foreplay for the couples in this survey. Another result of this survey was that the length of desired foreplay for men and women was about the same. In a global study of about twelve thousand individuals from 27 countries and 6 continents, physical foreplay was rated as "very important" for 63 percent of men and 60 percent of women.

Planned Parenthood: What is Foreplay?

Healthline: Things to Know About Sex and Foreplay

Sexy, Sensual, or Intimate: What is Your Sexual Style?

When I ask my patients this question, most of them believe that their personal sexual style is a blend of all three, and they just change the percentages depending on their current partner. Yet, when we take the time to thoroughly examine their sexual history, they are often surprised to find that they’ve developed a very fixed sexual pattern that has held consistent throughout their relationships.

If a person’s sexual signature has been successful in gaining and holding desirable partners, there is little reason to change it. But many people come into therapy wishing their sexual connections were more fulfilling, and don’t quite know why. They are concerned that they have consistently brought the wrong partners to them or their initially hopeful relationships have not had the sexual outcome they desired. They want to be more sexually successful.