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On the Right Side of History

What it Means to Love Your Country

Warning From Gov Pritzker

Danielle Kramer: Stochastic Terrorism
Facts vs Fantasy

South Park: What Would Jesus Say About Donald Trump?
Barack Obama: Reflections
Oh America

No Kings Protests Nationwide

Your Life Sucks?

What Radicalized You?
Jon Stewart: Violence and Republican Hypocrisy

We Still Need LGBTQ Pride

Immigrants: An Important Perspective

John Lithgow: Lessons on Tyranny

Someone Stole My Pride Flag, but No One Can Ever Steal My Pride
 

Stark Contrast: Eleanor Roosevelt vs Donald Trump
 

In the end, we are one world...  And that which injures any one of us, injures all of us...

Eleanor Roosevelt wrote these powerful words in December 1945 as she sailed to London to represent the United States at the first United Nations meeting: "In the end, we are one world and that which injures any one of us, injures all of us." Her vision of interconnected humanity, where national pride coexists with global responsibility, stands in stark contrast to the message delivered in Sept 2025 at the 80th session of the United Nations General Assembly by Donald Trump, who told assembled world leaders: "I'm really good at this stuff: Your countries are going to hell."

Roosevelt believed deeply that "Our own land and our own flag cannot be replaced by any other land or any other flag. But you can join with other nations, under a joint flag, to accomplish something good for the world that you cannot accomplish alone." She understood that patriotism and internationalism were not opposing forces but complementary strengths, and that human rights violations anywhere threatened peace everywhere.

In contrast, Trump's speech was dominated by attacks on allies and international cooperation itself. He has withdrawn the United States from multiple UN bodies, including the Human Rights Council, and today spent part of his speech complaining about not receiving a UN renovation contract years ago, snidely remarking that "These are the two things I got from the United Nations: a bad escalator and a bad teleprompter." He boasted about America being "the hottest country anywhere in the world, and there is no other country even close."

Video: Trump Addresses United Nations

CNN: Trump Takes Shots at UN, Climate Change, and Immigration Policies in Speech
PBS: Key Moments From Trump’s UN Speech
CBS: Trump Crriticizes European Allies in UN Speech: Your Countries are Going to Hell

Meanwhile, Eleanor Roosevelt spent her many years at the UN working tirelessly to build bridges, chairing over 3,000 hours of contentious deliberation to create the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. She believed, as she said at the Sorbonne, that "the struggle for democracy and freedom is a critical struggle, for their preservation is essential to the great objective of the United Nations to maintain international peace and security."

Trump's speech represents not just a different approach, but a fundamental rejection of the post-World War II order that Roosevelt helped build -- one based on the belief that we are indeed "One World" and that international cooperation, however imperfect, remains humanity's best hope for lasting peace. Where Roosevelt offered the world America's outstretched hand, Trump offered only a clenched fist and a mirror -- it was a graceless airing of petty grievances and bullying that sought to elevate himself by belittling others, embarrassing the very nation he claims to make great.

Roosevelt warned us that "It isn't enough to talk about peace. One must believe in it. And it isn't enough to believe in it. One must work at it." Today, we witnessed what happens when that belief is abandoned and that work is undone.

With such shameless displays of narcissism and vindictiveness coming from the nation's highest office, it's more important than ever for parents and educators to embrace Eleanor Roosevelt's wisdom that human rights begin "in small places, close to home" -- in our neighborhoods, schools, and communities. "Such are the places where every man, woman, and child seeks equal justice, equal opportunity, equal dignity without discrimination. Unless these rights have meaning there, they have little meaning anywhere."

When our leaders fail to model dignity, compassion, and respect for others, the responsibility falls to us to teach our children that true strength lies not in belittling others, but in lifting them up; that real patriotism means working to make our nation worthy of respect, not demanding it while offering none in return. The work of building "One World" must continue, even if it must now begin in our classrooms and around our kitchen tables.

[Source: Facing History & Ourselves, Sept 2025]
 

Trump is Insane

What it Means to Love Your Country

Dear Donald Trump: This is How a President Acts

South Park: What Would Jesus Say About Donald Trump?

Pete Buttigieg Perfectly Articulates GOP Behavior
Jon Stewart: Violence and Republican Hypocrisy
GLAAD: Trump Accountability Tracker

Reaction to Trump-Vance-Zelensky Meeting

Trump Starts His Term by Declaring War on the LGBTQ Community and Democracy

Bernie Sanders: Divine Right of Kings

Canada's Opinion of Trump

Australian View: US Becomes a Fascist Nation

Trump Emulates Hitler in Seeking to Erase Transgender People

Republicans: Fools and Hypocrites

America Chose the Monster
Lynae Vanee: Unchecked Domestic Terrorism

The GOP is the Party of Hypocrisy: How Did it Get This Way?

Charlie Kirk's Legacy

Not a hero...  Not a martyr...
 

Charlie Kirk is dead. Shot mid-speech while spewing his usual dogwhistle fascism to a gaggle of future January 6 cosplayers at Utah Valley University. Now, I’m not saying the world is better off without him, but the air sure as hell feels lighter.

Tell you what: Let’s not rewrite history just because this asshole caught a bullet. Charlie Kirk wasn’t just some “conservative commentator.” He was a pipeline of weaponized ignorance; anti-POC, anti-immigrant, anti-woman, anti-LGBTQ, anti-science, anti-decency, anti-everything-but-white-Christian-male-fragility.

He was an under educated, smirking, self-righteous sycophant whose greatest accomplishment was turning low-information rage into merchandise sales and tax write-offs.

And while I’m not here to throw a party over his assassination, because unlike him, I don’t celebrate or fetishize violence to win arguments, I’m also not joining the crocodile tear chorus.

I’m not lighting a candle, I’m lighting a match under every pedestal trying to martyr this poster boy for 8.5x11 grievance. Kirk wasn’t silenced for having “opinions” he spent his career making life harder for the marginalized, scapegoating the vulnerable, and wrapping fascism in a college brochure.

The only thing tragic here is that some idiot decided to make him a martyr. Now every grifter from Trump to Tucker Carlson gets to wail about “free speech” while they rewrite Kirk’s legacy from greasy opportunist to fallen patriot.

It’s nauseating. He wasn’t a hero. He wasn’t even a thinker. He was a human Twitter thread of bad faith and recycled talking points.
But here’s the kicker: nobody, nobody, deserves to be executed for being a dumbass with a microphone. That’s not justice. That’s societal collapse in real time. You don’t get to cosplay Rambo because you didn’t like what some snake oil peddler said about immigrants. That’s not how democracy works, that’s how civil wars start.

So no, I’m not mourning Charlie Kirk. And I’m not defending the shooter either. One was a coward with a gun, and the other was a coward with a platform, and the only thing they had in common is that neither had the moral spine to argue in good faith.

Rest in whatever, Charlie. You won’t be missed, but you should have been beaten in debate, not in a parking lot with a sniper rifle.

[Source: Posted by LA Times reporter David Freed, Sept 2025]

Charlie Kirk: The Harsh Truth of His Life and Death
Bernie Sanders: Support Free Speech and Condemn Violence
Response to the Charlie Kirk Shooting
Right-Wing Firebrand Charlie Kirk Dead After Shooting at University in Utah
Charlie Kirk Died in a Red State on Trump’s Watch: He Needs to Tone Down His Violent Rhetoric

Bill Maher: Who Are These Crazed Shooters?

Who was Charlie Kirk?
Charlie Kirk's Bigoted Words
Charlie Kirk Normalized Violence
We Must Not Posthumously Sanitize Charlie Kirk's Hateful Life
What Charlie Kirk Believed In: Here Are Real Quotes

South Park: What Would Jesus Say About Donald Trump?

Danielle Kramer: Stochastic Terrorism

Leaning Left

Standing up for the ones America keeps throwing away
 

I lean left because I refuse to worship cruelty dressed up as strength.

Because I’ve watched rich men laugh while poor kids dig through trash for food.

Because I’ve seen people die alone in parking lots because insulin costs more than rent.

Because I’ve seen “heroes” sleep on sidewalks while billionaires buy their seventh yacht.

I'm done letting strangers tell me what I believe.

I’m not a cartoon. I’m not a cult. I’m not here to argue with people who think empathy is weakness.

I want a country that protects the ones who can’t fight today.

The disabled. The sick. The elderly. The kids forced to be adults while Hollywood cashes the checks.

Facts vs Fantasy

Pink: Message to the President

What it Means to Love Your Country

Rev Dr Howard-John Wesley: Which Christianity?

Love Thy Neighbor

Molly: This is What I Believe
Bernie Sanders: Support Free Speech and Condemn Violence

Trump's Supporters: Never Trust Them Again

Is America a Christian Nation?

I'm Tired of...

A nation that leaves them behind isn’t strong. It’s rotten.

Healthcare is not a prize for the privileged. It’s a right.

I don’t give a damn if the system’s messy. I’ll still pay more if it means your grandma doesn’t choke to death on a medical bill.

Letting people die because they’re broke isn’t capitalism. It’s psychopathy.

I believe education should open doors, not lock people in debt for 30 years.

You finish school, you start life. Not a financial prison.

Don’t tell me it’s impossible when other countries already figured it out.

I’ve never met these lazy welfare monsters everyone cries about.

But I’ve met single moms working night shifts.

I’ve met old men eating one meal a day so they can afford heart meds.

I’ve met billionaires who pay zero taxes while workers on food stamps build their empires.

Therefore yes, I believe in fair wages. I believe in taxing the rich. I believe in homes people can afford.

If that makes me a communist, then maybe decency is the enemy of your America.

Facts vs Fantasy

On the Right Side of History

Warning From Gov Pritzker

What it Means to Love Your Country

Danielle Kramer: Stochastic Terrorism
Facts vs Fantasy

Molly: This is What I Believe

Barack Obama: Reflections
Oh America

I don’t hate Christians.

I hate laws trying to turn your faith into my prison.

Live your faith. Just don’t make it mine. You don’t want Sharia law? I don’t want Biblical law. Same fucking principle.

LGBTQ people don’t want more rights. They just want the same ones you already have.

If that threatens you, maybe the problem isn’t them.

Undocumented immigrants aren’t robbing your life.

Your employer is. The system is. The silence is.

We don’t need more cages. We need more compassion. And fucking honesty.

I don’t want a government in everything.

But I’ve seen what happens when profit runs free.

Lead in the water. Mold in schools. Babies choking on tainted formula.

No Kings Protests Nationwide

Your Life Sucks?

What Radicalized You?
Jon Stewart: Violence and Republican Hypocrisy

We Still Need LGBTQ Pride

Immigrants: An Important Perspective

John Lithgow: Lessons on Tyranny

Someone Stole My Pride Flag, but No One Can Ever Steal My Pride

Molly: This is What I Believe

You trust corporations to police themselves? That’s cute.

I trust them to lie. To slash. To hide the body.

The signs are not vague. The playbook is not subtle.

And history doesn't care if you're too proud to see it.

Systemic racism and misogyny are not opinions.

They're architecture. They built this place.

If you're not affected, listen harder. If you're offended, look in the mirror.

I don’t want your guns.

I want my nieces and nephews to live through math class.

I believe in political correctness because I believe in basic fucking manners.

If you know a word hurts someone, don’t say it. Not because you're afraid.

Because you're human.

Sustainable energy isn’t a luxury. It’s survival.

You really want your grandkids choking on smog while oil execs throw parties?

Then keep pretending we can’t evolve

Women aren’t a special interest group.

They’re half the damn population.

They deserve equal pay. Equal safety. Equal space.

And if that still confuses you, maybe check your humanity.

Bottom line?

I lean left because I don’t think preventable suffering is acceptable.

Not for profit. Not for politics. Not for your comfort.

I’m not here to play nice with cruelty.

Call me soft. Call me naive. Call me whatever makes you feel safe.

I’ll keep standing up for the ones America keeps throwing away.

[Source: Terri Wosley]

Facts vs Fantasy

Pink: Message to the President

What it Means to Love Your Country

South Park: What Would Jesus Say About Donald Trump?

Rev Dr Howard-John Wesley: Which Christianity?

Love Thy Neighbor

Molly: This is What I Believe

Bernie Sanders: Support Free Speech and Condemn Violence

Trump's Supporters: Never Trust Them Again

Is America a Christian Nation?

I'm Tired of...

Trump's Anti-LGBTQ Agenda: Straight Out of Hitler's Playbook

Reaction to Trump-Vance-Zelensky Meeting

Dear Trump Voters: Your Stupidity is Revolting... You Deserve Our Anger

After Ten Years After My Supreme Court Win, Marriage Equality is Under Attack

From Legitimacy to Uncertainty: Reflections on 10 Years of Marriage Equality and What Comes Next
 

"When activists fought for the queer community in years past, existing rights were not at risk. Our community had nothing to lose. We could only gain rights that society and laws had long denied us. In 2025, we stand to lose the rights we have achieved."

-Jim Obergefell

We’ll get through this. We’ve been through worse. These have been common refrains in the queer community since the November 2024 election. They are something of a balm for the fears we are experiencing under the current administration. With every hateful lie, anti-LGBTQ policy, or attack on human and civil rights, our community finds strength in knowing we have been through terrible times before. And every time, courageous people stepped up to create a better world.

From Legitimacy to Uncertainty: Reflections on 10 Years of Marriage Equality and What Comes Next
Jim Obergefell: 10 Years After My Supreme Court Win, Marriage Equality is Under Attack
Trump Starts His Term by Declaring War on the LGBTQ Community and Democracy

Scared for the Future and LGBTQ Rights

Trump Emulates Hitler in Seeking to Erase Transgender People

Frank Kameny, Barbara Gittings, and others fought against the Lavender Scare, a purge of queer government employees. Marsha P. Johnson was one of many who refused to back down in the face of police harassment at the Stonewall Inn. In 1973, thanks in part to testimony by Dr. John Fryer, a gay psychiatrist, the American Psychiatric Association removed homosexuality from their Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). Harvey Milk inspired millions to come out and break down harmful, untrue stereotypes of our community. ACT UP, founded by Larry Kramer and other activists, responded boldly to government apathy and antipathy toward the HIV/AIDS crisis. Evan Wolfson, Edie Windsor, more than thirty plaintiffs in Obergefell v. Hodges, and many others demanded affirmation of our right to marry the person we love.

Things feel different these days with the administration’s embrace and endorsement of fascism and Christian nationalism, implementation of Project 2025 strategies, and blatant assault on democracy. And the truth is, things are different than they were in the past. When activists fought for the queer community in years past, existing rights were not at risk. Our community had nothing to lose. We could only gain rights that society and laws had long denied us.

With their Dobbs decision, the Supreme Court rescinded a right that people relied on for 49 years. By turning their back on the bedrock principle of stare decisis, or precedent, this Court proved that they cannot be trusted. Did the justices in the majority lie during their confirmation hearings when they affirmed that they considered Roe settled law? What other conclusion can we draw from their actions?
 

From Legitimacy to Uncertainty: Reflections on 10 Years of Marriage Equality and What Comes Next
Jim Obergefell: 10 Years After My Supreme Court Win, Marriage Equality is Under Attack
Trump Starts His Term by Declaring War on the LGBTQ Community and Democracy

Scared for the Future and LGBTQ Rights

Trump Emulates Hitler in Seeking to Erase Transgender People

When the highest court in the land takes away one right, all other rights are at risk. We are fooling ourselves if we think otherwise. In addition to losing rights that we gained in the recent past, we are losing dignity and acceptance in our society. Instead of moving forward toward a more perfect union, our nation is reversing course and embracing the hate and ignorance of the past.

Our nation has long failed to live up to its promises of equality, equal justice under law, and the rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. Immigrants to the New World murdered Indigenous peoples, stole their lands, and used enslaved people to build our nation. Although the Civil War ended 160 years ago, people of color still experience subtle, blatant, and systemic racism.

Voting and civil rights are continuously under attack in our nation’s courtrooms and halls of power. The Equal Rights Amendment, first introduced in 1923 and reintroduced in 1973, has never been ratified and made law. Legislation and court rulings have curtailed or banned reproductive rights.

Throughout history, those in power have targeted, demeaned, and demonized Indigenous people, women, people of color, the queer community, immigrants, the disabled, non-Christians, and anyone else the majority considers an outsider. Those efforts continue today, led by those who put power, ego, and money above their duty to the public, their oath to the Constitution, and their obligation to treat others as human beings.

From Legitimacy to Uncertainty: Reflections on 10 Years of Marriage Equality and What Comes Next
Jim Obergefell: 10 Years After My Supreme Court Win, Marriage Equality is Under Attack
Trump Starts His Term by Declaring War on the LGBTQ Community and Democracy

Scared for the Future and LGBTQ Rights

Trump Emulates Hitler in Seeking to Erase Transgender People

Every marginalized community is part of our LGBTQ family, and the queer community must take that to heart. Racism, transphobia, misogyny, biphobia, anti-immigrant bias, Islamophobia, antisemitism, and more. We must rid our community of these cancers. When we discriminate against others, we succeed only in helping those in power who consider our entire community outsiders, unworthy, less than human.

It is wrong to hate others who differ, to ignore or discount the discrimination other members of the queer community experience. The queer community has long fought to be seen, to be valued, to exist on equal footing with others, so why would we ever deny those same things to another person? Far too many people in our nation willingly, loudly, and proudly engage in hate toward others. Although history repeatedly shows where hatred leads, willful ignorance and a refusal to think critically or independently doom humanity to repeat this shameful past.

In 2025, MAGA extremists have chosen vindictiveness as their playbook, as the only strategy worth pursuing. This minority, aggrieved for no just reason, has perverted their faith, our legislative bodies, and our courtrooms in service to their sense of superiority, to their need to subjugate others, to their thirst for riches above all else. They have no empathy for other human beings.

Yes, the queer community has been through this before. But in 2025, we are losing, and will continue to lose, the rights we fought hard to achieve. Unless we see every marginalized community as part of our family, and until we embrace our full community, we succeed only in aiding those who work to erase all LGBTQ people from society. Our community stands to lose the rights achieved by people whose names we know and countless people whose names we will never know. They risked everything to boldly proclaim that we exist, that we deserve the same rights, protections, and dignity other people in our nation enjoy.

What does it say about members of our community who, instead of demanding equality and equity for everyone, stay silent because they do not see others as equals, they feel safe where they live, or their privilege affords them some measure of security? What does it say about a society that is willing to sacrifice someone, or an entire community, because they happen to be different? We must be better than that. We owe it to those who came before us, and those who will come after us.
 

[Source: Jim Obergefell, Advocate Magazine, June 2025]
 

From Legitimacy to Uncertainty: Reflections on 10 Years of Marriage Equality and What Comes Next
Jim Obergefell: 10 Years After My Supreme Court Win, Marriage Equality is Under Attack
Trump Starts His Term by Declaring War on the LGBTQ Community and Democracy

Scared for the Future and LGBTQ Rights

Trump Emulates Hitler in Seeking to Erase Transgender People

The Tariff on Hatred is Here

It's time to pay up, Trumpers...
The deferred invoice for collectively selling your souls is here...

It's time to pay for every incendiary campaign boast you cheered, every baseless diatribe you vigorously applauded, every nonsensical middle-of-the-night tweet you boosted, every dehumanizing stereotype and slur you shared, every callous rally insult you passionately amen-ed.

It’s time to pay for every denial of Scientific evidence, every terminated qualified conscientious objector, every attack on factual, responsible journalism, every vicious assault on objective reality, every nepotistic Cabinet appointment, every dog-and-pony show distraction,
every lazy xenophobic caricature, every tired racist tirade.

Interviewing Trump Fans

This is how your beloved capitalism works, isn't it: someone was always going to pay for services rendered? Nothing is free, isn't that what you've been saying—no handouts? Well, dig deep, friend, because you are on the hook for this.

Many people have been footing the bill for a long time: migrants and Muslims and transgender people, young black men, refugees, the sick and the poor, already vulnerable communities pushed to the brink—and now past it.

You were paying, too, of course, you were just too willfully ignorant or intellectually negligent to realize it. Over and over we tried to tell you about the cost: the civil rights you were sacrificing too, the environmental protections you were losing as well as we were, the safety and security you were relinquishing alongside us. We tried to tell you that this hardship was not a partisan expense, that his moral bankruptcy would eventually hit you hard too.
 

Interviewing Trump Fans

But your Fox News bubble and your white Evangelical echo chamber and your America First, Don't Tread on Me, middle-finger affinity clubs left you certain you were insulated from it all; that the only tears that would fall would be liberal ones, that the only people suffering voted for Kamala, that all of the pain would be isolated to people who vote Blue.
 

You felt immune to the spreading sickness. You felt invincible because your messiah told you that you were winning, and that was enough for you.  He was lying to you as he always does, but you preferred to believe the lie because it felt warm running through your veins even as it was poisoning you—the intoxicating, cheap high of making America great while owning the Libs. That was a costly drug, that arrogance—and you were slowly going broke in your addiction.

Now, in the middle of a swiftly-arriving recession, a precipitous market crash, and a nation in chaos, the bill is coming due. You can't avoid paying anymore. You're here with us. I think even you realize that now, or you are soon about to.

Interviewing Trump Fans

The astronomical costs of everything, the evaporation of health support services, the loss of pensions, and the national sadness that no wasteful star-spangled vanity parade can distract from.

This is the human cost of the MAGA cult delusion, and we're all paying for it now equally, however we voted. Ultimately, fascism doesn't choose sides, authoritarians don’t spare voting blocs, and sociopaths don’t hold any loyalties. The monster you intended to unleash on the Woke Mob is turning on you, too.

The tax on hatred is here, Trump voters. The tariff on your importing his sociopathy has now arrived. I hope whatever you received was worth it. I hope you still feel like you're winning.

[Source: John Pavlovitz, May 2025]

Trump is Insane

Dear Donald Trump: This is How a President Acts
Pete Buttigieg Perfectly Articulates GOP Behavior
Jon Stewart: Violence and Republican Hypocrisy
GLAAD: Trump Accountability Tracker

Reaction to Trump-Vance-Zelensky Meeting

Trump Starts His Term by Declaring War on the LGBTQ Community and Democracy

Bernie Sanders: Divine Right of Kings

Canada's Opinion of Trump

Australian View: US Becomes a Fascist Nation

Trump Emulates Hitler in Seeking to Erase Transgender People

Republicans: Fools and Hypocrites

America Chose the Monster
Lynae Vanee: Unchecked Domestic Terrorism

The GOP is the Party of Hypocrisy: How Did it Get This Way?

Conversation with a Conservative

Queer Cafe vs. Log Cabin Republican...

A recent social media post asserted that Republicans had undergone a major political change or attitudinal shift over the years.  The meme suggested that the Republicans were liberal under Lincoln...  conservative under Reagan...  and now fascist under Trump.  The post inspired the following exchange.

James Donald Hernandez:

I am a Log Cabin Republican. Republicans were considered liberals at first because of their radical belief that blacks should be freemen and slavery abolished; that women should have equal rights with men. Then they were considered conservative because of their beliefs that government should be limited in size, scope, and power. That the God given rights of all, enshrined in the constitution should be protected.
 

Fascism is bigger government, not smaller. It's government censorship of speech and ideas. It's imprisonment of political opponents. It's government control of religion and health care. It's removing arms from the population so that only the government has them. That doesn't describe the Republican party. But it does describe today's left wing agenda.

I may be gay, but I'm not stupid.

What Radicalized You?

Republicans: Fools and Hypocrites

America Chose the Monster

Things That Offend Right Wingers

Jon Stewart: Violence and Republican Hypocrisy
How to Love a Family That Votes Against Your Identity

Lynae Vanee: Unchecked Domestic Terrorism

The GOP is the Party of Hypocrisy: How Did it Get This Way?
Would Martin Luther King Jr Have Fought for LGBTQ Rights?

Queer Cafe:

Maybe you're not stupid. But, you do not seem to be paying close attention. And you seem a bit confused, if not deluded.

Have you seriously not noticed how big Trump's fascist government has gotten in terms of size, scope, and power? And cutting government programs has very little to do with reducing the size of government when that same government is involved in massive over-reach.

Under Trump's regime, the sheer size of his devotion to corporations and his wealthy friends cost the US budget $4.5 trillion. It doesn't get bigger than that.

Trump's sweeping censorship of of DEI and LGBTQ subject matter in schools and colleges is a massive intrusion on free speech and academic freedom. He continues to trample human rights, remove protections, and erase the contributions of marginalized communities, just like a good old dictator.

Trump's particular hatred for the queer and trans communities doesn't seem to suggest attitudes akin to fascism? His state-sponsored oppression and targeted discrimination of LGBTQ people is pure fascism.

Trump's disinformation and propaganda campaign promoting lies about the election, the insurrection, the Israeli-Hamas war, and the Russian-Ukraine war is pure fascism.

Trump's interference with global trade and his imposition of high tariffs is about as big an intrusion into the free enterprise market as you can get.

I'm not sure where you got the idea that democrats removed guns, controlled religion, and imprisoned opponents. There's nothing factual about that. But we are seeing Trump violating the concept of the separation of church and state and imposing Christian beliefs into governmental processes. And his campaign of threats, retribution, and retaliation are emblematic of the bullying we typically see in fascist regimes.
 

C'mon, man, surely you are smart enough to see what Trump is doing to your community and to the nation.

[Source: QC Commentary, Facebook, April 2025]
 

Hope in Spite of Trump

Jon Stewart: Violence and Republican Hypocrisy
JD Vance is a Liar

Canadian Silver-Tongued Comedian
Daily Show: Post-Election Reflection

What Trump’s Victory Means
Trump's Continuous Assault on the Media

America Chose the Monster
Return of President Trump: Bleak Day for America and the World
Trump’s Win Tells Us a Lot About Who We Are

Scared for the Future and LGBTQ Rights

Australian View: US Becomes a Fascist Nation

Trump's Lethal Assault on Queer Kids

Trump voters will have blood on their hands due to the administration's lethal assault on queer kids

There was a reason crisis calls from LGBTQ youth spiked 700 percent the night Donald Trump was elected last November. And there was a reason they soared again around the time of his inauguration. Those weren’t just coincidental stress flares. They were cries for help from young queer people who saw what was coming.

They knew instinctively, even then, what some adults refused to admit, and that is Trump’s reemergence would unleash an all-out assault on their rights, their dignity, and their very existence.

Now the 988 crisis line that LGBTQ kids depend on is on the chopping block. The Biden administration helped build this resource, one that tens of thousands of queer youth rely on when they’re contemplating the unthinkable. And now, under the threat of the vindictive Trump, that support system could be gutted, its programs dedicated to LGBTQ youth cut with its funding drained and reallocated.

Trump is Insane

GLAAD: Trump Accountability Tracker

Reaction to Trump-Vance-Zelensky Meeting

Trump Starts His Term by Declaring War on the LGBTQ Community and Democracy

Bernie Sanders: Divine Right of Kings

Canada's Opinion of Trump

Australian View: US Becomes a Fascist Nation

Trump Emulates Hitler in Seeking to Erase Transgender People

Republicans: Fools and Hypocrites

America Chose the Monster
Lynae Vanee: Unchecked Domestic Terrorism

The GOP is the Party of Hypocrisy: How Did it Get This Way?

This isn’t just policy cruelty. This is a road map to guaranteed tragedy.

And if all this wasn’t enough, Trump’s Department of Health and Human Services piles on. In May 2025, it released a so-called report that revives the discredited, debunked, and outright abusive practice of conversion therapy. The same “report” attacks gender-affirming care, despite overwhelming medical consensus, from every major health organization in the US, that such care is essential and lifesaving for transgender youth.

In 2024, Stanford University published a landmark study showing that LGBTQ people who are subjected to conversion practices are more than twice as likely to attempt suicide. Another recent analysis by the Williams Institute at the University of California, Los Angeles, found that denying gender-affirming care to trans youth is directly associated with severe psychological distress, increased rates of depression, and higher suicide risk.

Trump voters, you don’t get to read those statistics and shrug. You don’t get to see these lives in crisis and say, “Well, I liked Trump’s stance on inflation.” Or worse, “He’ll bring down egg prices.” These selfish, shortsighted, and dangerous reasons to support a known danger to the LGBTQ community are paramount to giving a death sentence to queer kids.

That’s why I wrote in February, “It’s OK to Be Angry at Trump Voters.” I meant it. And I mean it even more today. Because Trump voters are not bystanders. They are not innocent. They are not confused. They are accomplices.
 

Trump Emulates Hitler in Seeking to Erase Transgender People

Trump is Insane

Trump's Anti-LGBTQ Agenda: Straight Out of Hitler's Playbook

Reaction to Trump-Vance-Zelensky Meeting

Trump Starts His Term by Declaring War on the LGBTQ Community and Democracy

Bernie Sanders: Divine Right of Kings

Australian View: US Becomes a Fascist Nation

Randy Rainbow: Trump Anthem

They had been told, explicitly and repeatedly, what Trump planned to do, and they still signed up to help him do it.

And there is proof. Look no further than Project 2025, the far-right blueprint for Trump’s second term. It’s not just theoretical anymore. It’s policy in action. The plan outlines mass rollbacks of LGBTQ protections, shutdowns of civil rights offices, the criminalization of gender-affirming care, and the renormalization of conversion therapy, all with the explicit goal of “eradicating transgenderism” from public life. Does all this sound familiar?

Trump has not distanced himself from this plan. In fact, he’s following it to the letter, and he knew he always would. He lied about that, too. Didn’t know about it? He knew all about it, and apparently, he loves it.

So when Trump voters say they didn’t know, that they didn’t think he’d go that far, they are lying to themselves, or worse, lying to the tortured queer kids affected. The warnings were everywhere. The reporting was everywhere. And cruelty was always the point.
 

You don’t get to support a candidate whose policies will lead to dead queer kids and then cry foul when someone holds you accountable. If you voted for Trump, you endorsed a future where suicide hotlines are defunded, doctors are criminalized for providing affirming care, and LGBTQ+ kids are told by their own government that they are broken, diseased, and unworthy of love or protection.

No more “I didn’t realize.” No more “I just liked the tax cuts.” No more excuses. We are not talking about disagreements over tariffs, inflation, or immigration (which, sadly, has its own young victims). We are talking about children. We are talking about the most vulnerable among us, kids who already face bullying at school, rejection at home, and isolation online, and now being targeted by their own country.

The next time a queer kid dies by suicide, when their note references hopelessness, or fear of coming out or being denied medical care, Trump voters need to sit with that. To look in the mirror. To reckon with what they helped enable. Because they will have blood on their hands.

This is why I wrote that column in February, and since then, things have gotten worse. This is why I am writing now. The attacks on LGBTQ+ youth are accelerating. The policies are becoming more lethal. And the people responsible are not anonymous. They are your neighbors, your coworkers, your relatives, and they choose cruelty.

To the queer kids reading this, know that you are loved. You are not broken. And there are people fighting for you.

To Trump voters: the brutality you are enabling will not be forgotten. And history, not to mention the families of the kids you helped harm, will judge you accordingly.

[Source: John Casey, Advocate Magazine, May 2025]

This is Why it's Okay to be Angry at Anyone Who Voted for Trump
My Thoughts on Trump's Win

Donald Trump's Presidency Was an Unmitigated Disaster

Bill Maher: Why the Democrats Lost
America: Not the Greatest Country in the World

Forever Never Trump
What Does Trump’s Devastating Victory Mean for the LGBTQ Community?

Trump Wreaking Hovoc on Day One

Eliminating Biden-era policies...  Dismantling Biden's legacy...

Immediately following his inauguration, Trump began wreaking havoc... He removed LGBTQ and HIV resources from government websites... He began closing DEI offices and programs in federal government... He reversed Biden's executive order that would lower prescription drug costs... He began deportation of illegal immigrants... He ended ethics rules regarding lobbying, bribes, and conflicts of interest... He removed expansive gender markers in government employment and announced there will now be only two genders... He pardoned participants in the Jan 6 insurrection... He discontinued a massive bipartisan spending bill...

With one sweeping move on his first day, the new president erased more than 75 of his predecessor's directives. Trump marked his return to the White House by signing a single executive order that eliminates dozens of Biden-era policies. The wide-ranging directive targets more than 75 executive orders spanning environmental protection, immigration, police reform, healthcare, and civil rights.

Cancels ethics rules...  The opposite of draining the swamp...

Donald Trump took office eight years ago, pledging to “drain the swamp” and end the domination of Washington influence peddlers. Now, he’s opening his second term by rolling back prohibitions on executive branch employees accepting major gifts from lobbyists, and ditching bans on lobbyists seeking executive branch jobs or vice versa, for at least two years.

Trump issued a Day 1 executive order that rescinded one on ethics that former President Joe Biden signed when he took office in January 2021.

The new president also has been benefitting personally in the runup to his inauguration by launching a new cryptocurrency token that is soaring in value while his wife, first lady Melania Trump, has inked a deal to make a documentary with Amazon.  All of that comes as the Trump Organization has instituted a voluntary agreement that forbids making deals with foreign governments, but not with private companies abroad.

“Trump is opening the floodgates for conflicts of interest and exploiting his power in office in the hopes of making billions of dollars on the backs of taxpayers,” Lisa Gilbert, co-president of the government watchdog group Public Citizen, said in a statement. “Instead of focusing on the needs of the American people, Trump’s only interest is to secure a next deal to line his pockets.”

That Trump and his family are looking to convert political success into profits is no surprise. While seeking reelection last year, Trump sold bibles, gold sneakers, photo books and diamond-encrusted watches.  But it also marks a departure from when Trump began his first term in 2017 and signed an ethics order banning executive branch employees from becoming lobbyists for five years.

GLAAD: Trump Accountability Tracker

Hope in Spite of Trump

Daily Show: Post-Election Reflection

What Trump’s Victory Means

Trump's Anti-LGBTQ Agenda: Straight Out of Hitler's Playbook

Trump's Continuous Assault on the Media

America Chose the Monster
Return of President Trump: Bleak Day for America and the World
Trump’s Win Tells Us a Lot About Who We Are

Scared for the Future and LGBTQ Rights

Australian View: US Becomes a Fascist Nation

Things That Offend Right Wingers

Trump’s promise to eradicate the “swamp” of institutional corruption in Washington was a key theme of his 2016 presidential campaign. As a former president seeking to reclaim the White House, it was less of a rallying cry during last year’s campaign. But Trump supporters often still broke into chants of “Drain the Swamp!” when their candidate pledged to “shatter the Deep State,” a term for entrenched government civil servants who have frustrated Trump and his allies.

The White House press office didn’t answer questions about whether Trump might have his own ethics rules in the works to replace the Biden-era ones he nullified. Trump himself has in the past criticized the “revolving door” of people who move from government positions to posts in government and back.

[Source: Will Weissert, Associated Press, January 2025]
 

Trump is Insane

Trump Emulates Hitler in Seeking to Erase Transgender People

Reaction to Trump-Vance-Zelensky Meeting

Trump Starts His Term by Declaring War on the LGBTQ Community and Democracy

Bernie Sanders: Divine Right of Kings

Australian View: US Becomes a Fascist Nation

Trump Erases LGBTQ and HIV Content From Federal Websites

Unprecedented Policy Purge: Trump's Single Order Attempts to Dismantle Biden's Legacy
Trump’s Orders to End DEI Programs Reflect His Push for a Profound Cultural Shift
Judge Scraps Biden’s Title IX Rules: Reverses Expansion of Protections for LGBTQ Students

Things to Know About How Trump’s Policies Target Transgender People
Trump Cancels Biden’s Ethics Rules: Critics Call it the Opposite of Drain the Swamp

Counterfeit of a President

Profoundly flawed leader...  Hopeless, vicious buffoon...  Cheap, soulless bully...

In my life, I have watched John Kennedy talk on television about missiles in Cuba. I saw Lyndon Johnson look Richard Russell squarely in the eye and and say, "And we shall overcome." I saw Richard Nixon resign and Gerald Ford tell the Congress that our long national nightmare was over. I saw Jimmy Carter talk about malaise and Ronald Reagan talk about a shining city on a hill. I saw George HW Bush deliver the eulogy for the Soviet bloc, and Bill Clinton comfort the survivors of Timothy McVeigh's madness in Oklahoma City. I saw George W Bush struggle to make sense of it all on September 11, 2001, and I saw Barack Obama sing 'Amazing Grace' in the wounded sanctuary of Mother Emanuel Church in Charleston, South Carolina.
 

These were the presidents of my lifetime. These were not perfect men. They were not perfect presidents, god knows. Not one of them was that. But they approached the job, and they took to the podium, with all the gravitas they could muster as appropriate to the job. They tried, at least, to reach for something in the presidency that was beyond their grasp as ordinary human beings. They were not all ennobled by the attempt, but they tried nonetheless.

GLAAD: Trump Accountability Tracker

Rev Dr Howard-John Wesley: Which Christianity?

JD Vance is a Liar
Republicans: Fools and Hypocrites

America Chose the Monster

Trump's Anti-LGBTQ Agenda: Straight Out of Hitler's Playbook

Lynae Vanee: Unchecked Domestic Terrorism

The GOP is the Party of Hypocrisy: How Did it Get This Way?
Would Martin Luther King Jr Have Fought for LGBTQ Rights?

Things That Offend Right Wingers

Trump is Insane

"With the new administration and Republican-controlled Congress, we expect unprecedented attacks on our civil rights."
-Human Rights Campaign

And comes now this hopeless, vicious buffoon, and the audience of equally hopeless and vicious buffoons who laughed and cheered when he made sport of a woman whose lasting memory of the trauma she suffered is the laughter of the perpetrators. Now he comes, a man swathed in scandal, with no interest beyond what he can put in his pocket and what he can put over on a universe of suckers, and he does something like this while occupying an office that we gave him, and while endowed with a public trust that he dishonors every day he wakes up in the White House.

The scion of a multigenerational criminal enterprise, the parameters of which we are only now beginning to comprehend. A vessel for all the worst elements of the American condition. And a cheap, soulless bully besides. We never have had such a cheap counterfeit of a president* as currently occupies the office. We never have had a president* so completely deserving of scorn and yet so small in the office that it almost seems a waste of time and energy to summon up the requisite contempt.
 

Watch how a republic dies in the empty eyes of an empty man who feels nothing but his own imaginary greatness, and who cannot find in himself the decency simply to shut up even when it is in his best interest to do so. Presidents don't have to be heroes to be good presidents. They just have to realize that their humanity is our common humanity, and that their political commonwealth is our political commonwealth, too.

Watch him behind the seal of the President of the United States. Isn't he a funny man? Isn't what happened to that lady hilarious? Watch the assembled morons cheer. This is the only story now.

[Source: Charles Pierce, American journalist, author, political commentator; Esquire Magazine, Dec 2024]

Hope in Spite of Trump

JD Vance is a Liar

GLAAD: Trump Accountability Tracker

Daily Show: Post-Election Reflection

What Trump’s Victory Means
Trump's Continuous Assault on the Media

America Chose the Monster

Trump's Anti-LGBTQ Agenda: Straight Out of Hitler's Playbook

Return of President Trump: Bleak Day for America and the World
Trump’s Win Tells Us a Lot About Who We Are

Scared for the Future and LGBTQ Rights

Australian View: US Becomes a Fascist Nation

Sarah McBride on Hope

Hope is not always an organic emotion

You cannot tell me that the reasons for hopelessness now are greater than the reasons for hopelessness of an enslaved person. You cannot tell me that the reasons for hopelessness now are greater than the insecurity and the fear of workers in the midst of the Great Depression, and a country that very easily could have fallen into totalitarianism and fascism, as many liberal democracies around the world were falling into that, in the early thirties.

Hope is not always an organic emotion. Sometimes we have to consciously find it and consciously summon it. And, yes, there are big challenges right now. Maybe those challenges are insurmountable. Maybe we will be, because of social media, incapable of restoring our capacity to have a national dialogue. Maybe because of the culture that we live in right now, we will no longer be able to have conversations across disagreement. Maybe because of unchecked wealth and corporate power, we won’t be able to conquer climate change. The list goes on. Maybe.

But we would be the first generation of Americans to give up on this country, and we would be the first generation of Americans who were unable to find the path forward. And I just don’t believe that we are. And I certainly believe that we don’t have to be.

[Source: New Yorker Magazine, Interview, Sarah McBride, US Congress Representative, Delaware, Democrat]

Trump Wins... America Loses
 

The Anti-LGBTQ Candidate is Elected
 

This is a sad day for America.

Voters came out in strong support of a candidate who promises to make life miserable for gay and transgender people and millions of others. Half of our citizens voted for a man whose rhetoric and actions represent hate, dishonesty, corruption, injustice, incivility, immorality, and ignorance. And a genuinely competent and honorable candidate with integrity and noble intentions lost the race to a despicable, lying, despotic madman.

Hope in Spite of Trump

My Thoughts on Trump's Win

Bill Maher: Why the Democrats Lost

Donald Trump's Presidency Was an Unmitigated Disaster

America: Not the Greatest Country in the World

Forever Never Trump

Trump Emulates Hitler in Seeking to Erase Transgender People

What Does Trump’s Devastating Victory Mean for the LGBTQ Community?

Daily Show: Post-Election Reflection

Trump's Anti-LGBTQ Agenda: Straight Out of Hitler's Playbook

Things That Offend Right Wingers

It is difficult to believe that our fellow Americans voted in great numbers for a candidate who indicated he would act like a dictator, pardon violent criminals, deport millions of immigrants, and stomp on the rights of women and LGBTQ people. It is hard to accept the fact that voters knowingly elected a profoundly flawed and unstable man who incessantly lied about everything, promoted conspiracy theories, and spread rumors, disinformation, and falsehoods at every turn.  It is heartbreaking to realize that half of our nation thought it was okay to elect a convicted felon to office, a man who was twice impeached, and who also disrespected women, botched a national healthcare crisis, insulted veterans and the military community, colluded with foreign dictators, sold government secrets, and incited a violent insurrection on the US Capitol.

Today we mourn the loss of integrity and the apparent disregard for what is fair, just, and right. We are saddened by an emerging atmosphere that fosters bigotry, stokes the flames of white supremacy and male dominance, and emboldens those who seek to harass and assault people who are different or marginalized.  We are dismayed by the greed and self-interest being displayed by our fellow citizens.  It is unsettling to witness the crass, profane behavior of witless, cowardly bullies who care nothing about their fellow Americans.

I have never had any respect for donald trump.  That same disrespect now extends to those who voted for him.
 

Today, I am fearful and anxious.  I am unsure about about the future of democracy.  I am worried about what might happen to my friends and neighbors who are members of disenfranchised groups.  I am nervous about the rise of hatred and violence.  Today, I am disappointed in America.

[QC Commentary, November 2024]

What Trump’s Victory Means
Trump's Continuous Assault on the Media

America Chose the Monster

Things That Offend Right Wingers

Trump's Anti-LGBTQ Agenda: Straight Out of Hitler's Playbook

Trump Emulates Hitler in Seeking to Erase Transgender People

Return of President Trump: Bleak Day for America and the World
Trump’s Win Tells Us a Lot About Who We Are

Scared for the Future and LGBTQ Rights

Bathroom Ban on Capitol Hill
 

Reminiscent of totalitarian regimes, not a free and democratic society...
 

On the occasion of the Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR), it is deeply troubling to see Congresswoman Nancy Mace proposing a discriminatory ban targeting transgender women from using women's restrooms on Capitol Hill. Such proposals serve as stark reminders of why Pride Month and TDOR are necessary: to combat bigotry and honor the resilience of transgender individuals who continue to face systemic oppression.

This policy is not only unnecessary but also an affront to the very principles of equality and human dignity that our nation purports to uphold. Historical parallels are striking. Segregationists of the past sought to relegate Black Americans to "separate but equal" facilities, a practice universally condemned as unconstitutional in Brown v. Board of Education. The suggestion that transgender women should use separate or designated restrooms echoes this xenophobic logic and undermines the progress we have made as a society.

Let us not forget the words of Justice Anthony Kennedy in the landmark Supreme Court case Obergefell v. Hodges: "The Constitution promises liberty to all within its reach, a liberty that includes certain specific rights that allow persons, within a lawful realm, to define and express their identity."

Rep. Mace's proposal is a direct violation of these constitutional promises. It attempts to strip transgender women of their dignity, casting them as "other" and perpetuating harmful stereotypes. The 14th Amendment guarantees all Americans equal protection under the law. Policies like this one run afoul of that guarantee by singling out transgender individuals for unequal treatment.

Furthermore, how does Rep. Mace propose to enforce such a draconian policy? The notion of policing bathrooms raises chilling questions about privacy and autonomy. Are Capitol Hill staff and visitors to be subjected to invasive questioning or humiliating searches? Such measures are reminiscent of totalitarian regimes, not a free and democratic society.

As a former Republican, I have watched with dismay as the GOP has descended into a party where bullies like Mace thrive. Her office's 100% turnover rate speaks volumes about her leadership—or lack thereof. Bullies like her feel emboldened in an environment where figures like Donald Trump, who has been credibly accused of sexual misconduct and sexual assault, face little accountability.

As a former candidate for Governor of Maine and a proud member of the Democratic Party, I firmly believe in defending the rights of all individuals, especially those most vulnerable to systemic discrimination. On the occasion of TDOR, we must reject this hate-filled rhetoric and stand firm in support of our transgender siblings. Transgender people deserve to live their lives without fear, harassment, or dehumanization. The United States was founded on the ideals of liberty and justice for all—not just for some.

[Source: Danielle Stubenrod, Former Candidate for Governor of Maine, Member of Democratic Party, Nov 2024]

Republican Nancy Mace Introduces Transgender Bathroom Ban US Capitol

Speaker Mike Johnson Bans Trans Folks From Single-Sex Bathrooms at US House of Reps
House Republican Introduces Measure to Ban Transgender Women From Female Bathrooms in Capitol
Republicans Trying to Ban Transgender Congresswoman-Elect Sarah McBride From Using Women's Bathroom
Nancy Mace Seeks to Bar Trans Women From Using Female Bathrooms on Capitol Hill
First Trans Member of Congress Expected Pushback From Republicans
House GOP Introduces Bill to Ban Newly Elected Trans Democrat from Using Women’s Room at Capitol

Get Out The Vote
 

LGBTQ Citizens Must Vote Like it Matters
 

In the last decade, the LGBTQ community made tremendous advances toward the goal of true legal and social equality in the United States. Unfortunately, we are now seeing how quickly some of those advances can be reversed, whether by elected officials or by the courts. The rise of anti-LGBTQ (and particularly transphobic) laws and rhetoric have left many in our community wondering how to make a difference. One critical way to ensure that the LGBTQ community’s voice is always heard in the political process is to get out and vote. National, state, and local elections give us an opportunity to support the issues we believe in and the candidates who will be our best advocates and defenders of LGBTQ rights.

The National LGBTQ Bar encourages all who are eligible to vote to take several steps:
--Ensure that you are registered to vote in the jurisdiction where you claim legal residency
--Do your research into the issues and candidates that will be on your ballot in each electio
--Vote! In every election, no matter how small
--Put volunteer time into helping others to exercise their right to vote

Volunteering for a voting campaign can take several forms: You may want to work to ensure that eligible voters are registered; you might want to put time into volunteering for pro-LGBTQ candidates or educating voters on issues of importance to the LGBTQ community; you might also or alternatively want to put your time into getting out the vote on and around Election Day.

It’s important to keep an eye on initiatives that will be on ballots which particularly affect the LGBTQ community. Reminding your colleagues who are from those jurisdictions of these important issues up for a vote may encourage participation in elections and also provide a way to personalize the voting experience. Remember, life is busy: people can easily get distracted and forget about elections, particularly the state and local ones that aren’t covered as heavily as federal elections are in the media. You can have a solid impact by encouraging LGBTQ people and other allies in your community to show up at the polls (or to mail in their vote-by-mail ballots).

[Source: National LGBTQ Bar Association, Sept 2024]
 

GLAAD: Elections 2024

Trump's Supporters: Never Trust Them Again

ABC News: Presidential Candidates' Stand on LGBTQ Issues

National LGBTQ Bar Association: Get Out The Vote
Trevor Project: How to Support LGBTQ Young People Ahead of the 2024 Election

HRC: LGBTQ Youth Wield Significant Power in Upcoming Elections

National LGBGTQ Task Force: Queer the Vote
USA Today: LGBTQ Voters See Hope in Harris Campaign Amid Attacks from Right
NBC News: Anti-LGBTQ Rhetoric From the GOP
 

How to Support LGBTQ Young People Ahead of the 2024 Election
 

We must stop Anti-LGBTQ Rhetoric and Legislation

Young people are listening. I’ve heard many people underplay the dangers of anti-LGBTQ rhetoric, citing that “it’s just politics” or “these candidates are just trying to fire up the base.” They say that the Supreme Court will never overturn Obergefell vs. Hodges (the landmark Supreme Court cases which solidified marriage equality in all 50 states), even when at least one Justice has explicitly named Obergefell as a decision that should be revisited.

This year we’ve seen a record number of anti-LGBTQ laws that are targeting young people. Even though The Trevor community has been instrumental in stopping the vast majority of harmful bills, just their introduction and the toxic discourse that follows can cause harm to LGBTQ youth mental health.

Anti-LGBTQ rhetoric and legislative action have a profound impact on the mental health of LGBTQ young people. Nearly 2 in 3 LGBTQ young people said that hearing about potential state or local laws banning people from discussing LGBTQ people at school made their mental health a lot worse. When 41% of LGBTQ youth have seriously considered attempting suicide in the past year and young people who are transgender, nonbinary, and/or people of color reported higher rates than their peers, people with a public platform have a responsibility. This is an uphill battle, but The Trevor Project’s team of advocates work hard to protect LGBTQ young people every day. In the meantime, what can we do as allies to support LGBTQ young people during election season?

The best way to support these youth is to ensure that these politicians don’t get into positions of authority. In 2024, 617 anti-LGBTQ laws were introduced, with 38 passed into law. With the election coming up, it’s more important than ever to elect candidates who won’t play politics with young lives. Do your research about the people on your ballots. When anti-LGBTQ+ candidates are defeated in elections, it shows young people that they have allies who will advocate for them — let them know they matter with your vote and your voice.

If you can’t vote or if you’re a young person who wants to advocate for yourself, there’s still a lot you can do. Talk to your parents. Call your aunt. Call your neighbor. Tell them that when anti-LGBTQ politicians get into power, they make life harder for you and the people you love.

Making young people feel safe during an election in which they have been targeted by candidates also means ensuring they feel loved no matter the outcome. When there are negative comments about the LGBTQ+ community, it’s important to remind young people in your life that they deserve to be loved for who they are. Continue to affirm them and let them know these harmful words aren’t true and aren’t how you feel.

GLAAD: Elections 2024

Trump's Supporters: Never Trust Them Again

ABC News: Presidential Candidates' Stand on LGBTQ Issues

National LGBTQ Bar Association: Get Out The Vote
Trevor Project: How to Support LGBTQ Young People Ahead of the 2024 Election

HRC: LGBTQ Youth Wield Significant Power in Upcoming Elections

National LGBGTQ Task Force: Queer the Vote
USA Today: LGBTQ Voters See Hope in Harris Campaign Amid Attacks from Right
NBC News: Anti-LGBTQ Rhetoric From the GOP

People often feel pressure to have a perfect affirming conversation. But it can be as simple as letting them know you are a safe person who sees them and holds space for them. As always, let them know that resources like the Trevor Project exist to support all LGBTQ young people day and night, not just for when they’re in crisis, but to talk through all sorts of things, even the impact of political discourse during the election season.

It’s also important to educate yourself about LGBTQ issues. Start by reading our Trevor Project guides to familiarize yourself with how to approach LGBTQ mental health or sexual orientation; knowing how to have affirming conversations can help combat a political climate that can be dangerous for LGBTQ young people. Remember that affirmation from people closest to them is extremely impactful: LGBTQ young people who reported feeling accepted by the adults in their lives typically had more than 40% lower odds of attempting suicide in the past year.

Elections have consequences, and when anti-LGBTQ politicians get into power, they debate or pass laws that tell our kids that their existence isn’t valid. Young LGBTQ people just want to be known and loved, and growing up is hard enough. As we vote, we have the power to show that harmful words (and laws) have consequences. In the meantime, we need to do everything we can to support the mental health of LGBTQ young people through affirmation, resources, and advocacy.

[The Trevor Project, Sept 2024]
 

GLAAD: Elections 2024

Trump's Supporters: Never Trust Them Again

ABC News: Presidential Candidates' Stand on LGBTQ Issues

National LGBTQ Bar Association: Get Out The Vote
Trevor Project: How to Support LGBTQ Young People Ahead of the 2024 Election

HRC: LGBTQ Youth Wield Significant Power in Upcoming Elections

National LGBGTQ Task Force: Queer the Vote
USA Today: LGBTQ Voters See Hope in Harris Campaign Amid Attacks from Right
NBC News: Anti-LGBTQ Rhetoric From the GOP

Finding Fault
 

Haters actively seeking a problem where none exists

As people throughout the world (especially Americans) become less tolerant, less informed, and less educated, the kind of anger and hate we are seeing at the Paris Olympics will continue. Despite the outrage, there was actually no hidden political agenda or religious ridicule taking place in the Opening Ceremony. But weaker minds will find those elements none the less. The lack of multicultural awareness is shocking and shameful, and casts an unfortunate shadow on an otherwise beautiful (albeit campy) event.

Conservative US and world leaders denounced the Paris Olympics opening ceremony and what they perceived to be a mocking of the Last Supper painting. House Speaker Mike Johnson says it was "shocking and insulting" to Christians around the world. Rep. Marjorie Taylor Greene also voiced her opposition to the opening ceremony, saying that it had "gone completely woke."  Others called it "blasphemous."  Some called it "demonic and deranged."

Anybody with a decent education would have caught the literary and historical references and would have had no reason to be offended. There were no Christian symbols included in the show, because the show was about Greek mythology and French history. Ignorant people, it would seem, tend to find fault where none exists.

What can we conclude about an event that has no political or religious agenda, but somehow still drew scorn from people outraged by its political and religious content? It can be embarrassing and appalling what unenlightened people read into things. It can be disturbing how they misinterpret things.

Many spectators said that they enjoyed the show and its over-the-top flamboyant portrayal of French culture and Greek mythology. Many spectators appreciated the artistry of the show, including the drag queens and other avant-garde elements. These spectators observe that some folks are just prone to politicize everything and wish that they would just calm down and quit over-reacting.

Religious politicians, like Mike Johnson and Marjorie Greene, are not reliable sources of informed opinion. It is on occasions such as this that their ignorance and shallow education are on full display. When Marjorie says the event is too "woke," she means that she is too unenlightened and ill-informed to understand or appreciate it.  Instead, she sees images and symbols she does not recognize from the history classes she did not attend. She misinterprets the meaning of the creative expression that she failed to grasp from the art and culture classes she never showed up for.

Scholars of art, history, literature, and culture quickly offered an explanation...
 

--The headless woman was Marie Antoinette. She ruled over France and was found guilty of treason, conspiracy, and stealing from her own country.

--The offending scene was not the Last Supper. It was, instead, a depiction of an ancient Greek Bacchanal, which is a promiscuous, extravagant, and loud party. The parties often spanned several days and honored the god of wine and pleasure, Bacchus (the blue guy covered in grape vine).

--It was not Death on a pale horse. It was Sequana, Goddess of the Seine, the famous French river in which the boat precession took place. She was meant to be the representation of the Olympic spirit.

--Even the ménage a trois scene had symbolic meaning beyond the sexual threesome. The phrase is, of course, an iconic French expression.  But, in the context of this event, it is meant to represent the three times Paris has hosted the Olympic Games.

There were goofy sketches of the French Revolution, French culture, Greek mythology, and, don't forget, talented musical performances by Lady Gaga and Celine Dion. But not one mention of Christianity.

Mistaking a Bacchanalia for the Last Supper is the least of our troubles. But the mindset that makes those kinds of errors of judgement regarding trivial matters can easily commit atrocities in an assortment of matters that are highly consequential. And they often do.

What we are seeing are the usual suspects, the ones who criticize things they don’t understand. They hastily reject things that are unfamiliar and foreign, and possess no level of sophistication and tolerance for anything divergent or different. They are the ones who are judgemental and self-righteous about a range of issues for which they have limited education and exposure, and impose their absurd version of morality on innocent people.

These are the same folks who reject the legitimacy of LGBTQ concepts, who do not even consult the biological, physiological, medical, psychological, and sociological research regarding such topics. It is these unenlightened members of society who advance lies, falsehoods, and misconceptions about LGBTQ people. Their rhetoric is reckless and irresponsible and causes great harm to the LGBTQ community.

There are a shameful number of Americans who form their opinions about LGBTQ issues and arrive at disturbing conclusions about concepts of sexuality and gender, based on very little, if any, actual knowledge. They lack historical, scientific, and cultural perspectives. They ignore the research and dismiss the science associated with such topics, and rely, instead, on superstition and outmoded ways of thinking. They rest on arbitrary and subjective sources and are comfortable basing their ethics and wisdom on concepts that are technically imprecise, academically inaccurate, and intellectually unreasonable.

The dangerous result of such willful ignorance is an entrenched attitude of fear and hate for anything or anyone who is different. Consequently, these folks lack compassion and empathy. Their ability to be kind and accepting is sadly compromised. And the impact on real live people is devastating.

[Source: QC Commentary, July 2024]

Olympic Opening Ceremony Explained
Paris Olympics: Already Super Gay on Day One

Celine Dion at the Paris Olympics

Paris Olympics: Overwhelmed by an Outpouring of Anger
Wacky, Wonderful, and Upsetting
NPR Olympic Report: Major Moments During Opening Ceremony in Paris
Blasphemous Olympics Opening Was Actually An Ode To Greek Mythology

Lady Gaga at Paris Olympics

How the Olympics Became the Queerest Sporting Event in the World

Pride Spoilers
 

Homophobes and religious zealots can be a real pain in the ass

Detractors will often often bring up the tired old notion that "pride" is one of the seven deadly sins, right alongside lust, gluttony, greed, sloth, wrath, and envy. They like to quote the bible, "Pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall (Proverbs 16:18)."  The insinuation is that LGBTQ Pride events and their attendees are somehow sinful. Of course, it is a very childish, mean-spirited, and uninformed perspective.

We see lots of homophobes preaching the sin of "pride" without any regard for its original meaning as translated from ancient bible text and without any reverence for the people who have no ill-intent in its expression.

 

What the old testament talks about is "hubris," which is an exaggerated sense of self-importance, arrogance, haughtiness, egotism, boastfulness, and vanity. It's about bragging and self-aggrandizement. Being smug, conceited, and pompous.

The "pride" associated with LGBTQ celebrations is not the same thing. It is about affirmation, honor, dignity, and self-worth. It is related to satisfaction and self-esteem, and a feeling of success and achievement. It is similar to being proud of a noble accomplishment or being a proud parent or the pride you feel in being an American. It is not a nefarious trait.

There is no reason for these hateful religious zealots to denigrate a group of people who are simply expressing the joy and delight in living their lives.

[Source: QC Commentary, June 2024]

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What Was Harrison Butker Thinking?

Full house of offenses against women in the workforce, the LGBTQ community, abortions, IVF and Joe Biden...

The Kansas City Chiefs kicker recently spoke to the Benedictine College graduating class — which must have been hard, since his foot was firmly in his mouth the whole time.

The evolution of man — you know, the chart that shows an apelike character evolving over time into an opposable-thumb-having, upright-walking man — is supposed to be 6 million years of progress.  But even after 6 million years of coaching, encouraging and coddling them, trying to undo some of the ancient philosophies that propagated the caveman era, there are still men like Kansas City Chiefs kicker Harrison Butker, who hasn’t progressed past homo habilis.

In case you have blocked all the “Make America great again” propaganda from your social media, you might’ve missed that last weekend (May 2024) Butker spoke at the commencement at Benedictine College, a Catholic private liberal arts school in Atchison, Kansas. Butker didn’t just offend the left — he offended everyone who is not a white cisgender male.  He completed the full house of offenses by railing against women in the workforce, the LGBTQ community, abortions, IVF and President Joe Biden’s handling of the COVID-19 pandemic, to name a few.

Butker didn’t just go after women, he told women who were graduating from college that wanting to have a life beyond serving their husband is evil. “I think it is you, the women, who have had the most diabolic lies told to you,” Butker said during his dumb-ass speech. “Some of you may go on to lead successful careers in the world, but I would venture to guess that the majority of you are most excited about your marriage and the children you will bring into this world.”
 

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“I can tell you that my beautiful wife, Isabelle, would be the first to say that her life truly started when she began living her vocation as a wife and a mother,” Butker added. “I’m on this stage and able to be the man I am because I have a wife who leans into her vocation as a wife and a mother.”

Mothering and homemaking is serious work. But it shouldn’t be thrust upon a woman as if that is her life’s purpose — it should be her decision.  I’m assuming that Butker’s antiquated thinking is informed by his upbringing; with a mom who stayed home and tended to the family, and as such he understands the importance of…

But, wait, his mother was a physicist. She holds two degrees — chemistry and medical physics.  WTF is wrong with this guy? No, seriously, WTF is wrong with him? I can’t say that he’s been knocked around too many times, as he’s a kicker (which is Latin for definitely not getting knocked around). But how can a man raised in a house with a mom who works as a medical physicist hold beliefs that are so archaic?

When you’ve not evolved as a man, you do things like binge-watch episodes of “Naked and Afraid,” kill unsuspecting animals in your spare time — and give commencement speeches that discourage the female graduating class from aspiring for more, because men need to be propped up. Butker could’ve ended his speech by smashing a beer can on his forehead and that would’ve probably been the eighth most obnoxious thing he did that day.

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But before we keep going, I have so many questions.

First, who the hell wants to hear from an NFL kicker? Even the most exciting kicker is still the 100th-most exciting football player on any game day. An NFL kicker can play a full NFL game and wear his game uniform to a nightclub that evening without even taking a shower because he doesn';t break a sweat and everything on him is still fresh. Let's be honest, NFL kickers are inconsequential in the American zeitgeist, even when they are amazing.

Secondly, where are all of his teammates? Do they support Butker’s All-American pickup-truck brand of thinking? Since word broke that Butker is a throwback from the 1950s, not one player has come out to show their love for him. The Chiefs’ quarterback doesn’t even talk to him. “Honestly, I don’t talk to Harrison all year long, man. I just let him do his thing,” Patrick Mahomes said during an appearance on “The Pat McAfee Show” earlier this year. By “do his thing,” I’m sure Mahomes means he just lets him keep being his misogynistic, homophobic, pro-white-male self.

In his speech, Butker also encouraged men to lean into their masculinity — which, as a man, let me tell you what manly men never have to say to other men: “Hey, why don’t you lean into your masculinity?”

Butker’s entire dreadful speech could be summed up in a few words: He’s a white man who is afraid of losing. What he’s actually afraid of losing, no one knows. But someone, some mythical someone, is always working to take something away from white men.

This fear is what pushed the Supreme Court to gut affirmative action and kneecap women’s rights. It’s this fear that’s behind the inhumane treatment of undocumented citizens. It was the basis of Donald Trump’s presidency. For centuries, white men have been afraid of losing something, and so they’ve always fought against this fear. This fear is what prevents commonsense gun laws and reparations.

 

Butker’s speech wasn’t about uplifting the graduates or the endless possibilities that await them, which is what most commencement speeches are about. It was mansplaining couched in biblical text, the way that most MAGA Christians use the Bible: by taking the pieces that substantiate racism, sexism and transphobia at face value and ignoring the bits about being a kind, decent person. It was Butker’s chance to rain down on the hopefuls before the rest of the world does. It was a sadistic opportunity to dash the hopes of women who have often had to deal with limitations put on their dreams. It was cruel and uncalled for.

And though the Chiefs have declined to comment on Butker’s address, there will be no repercussions for his actions. The NFL only punishes nonviolent protests like kneeling on the sideline during the national anthem as a show of solidarity for equal rights for people of color — as the league is done even pretending that it cares about anything else.

Butker merely proves that there is an audience for hate speech of his kind, and, as such, he will always be employed, never be forced to evolve and will be pristine even on Sundays. It takes a special kind of person to be a kicker — which is another way of saying, when it comes to masculinity, Butker only looks the part.

[Source: Stephen A Crockett Jr, Huffington Post, May 2024]

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The truth is he doesn't care about anybody but himself.
 

If it was possible to seriously examine the platform of the Donald Trump campaign...  or, better yet, to look inside the head of Donald Trump and determine his motivations...  we would find that his sole interest is in himself. He is actively and tirelessly looking out for number one.

At this point in his life and career, that means he is looking out for his survival, his ability to avoid litigation, his efforts to delay punishment, and his desire to escape any kind of accountability for his criminal actions.  He is entirely self-centered and razor-focused on his ability to prevail for his own sake.

Instead of talking about critical issues that effect the lives of hardworking, average Americans, his campaign stops are filled with rants about how everyone is treating him so badly. Instead of talking about social and economic concerns, Trump is spewing tirades of vengence, threats, lies, and hate speech. Instead of behaving like a responsible leader and selfless servant of the people, he is seen preening and posturing as an arrogant bully and narcissistic moron, full of boasting and fiery vitriol.

Make no mistake, Donald Trump is not seeking the presidency as a kind of noble way to serve humanity, to improve the lives of Americans, and to truly make a positive difference.  He is not trying to "make America great."  He is trying to make himself great.  He is totally in it for himself.

As far as the American people are concerned, they should not imagine for a moment that he has their best interests in mind.  He absolutely does not care about anything but himself.  And the American people?  What about them?  They serve a purpose in his mind.  They have a certain utility.  He can and will "use" them to gain his objective.

While he has no love or loyalty to any segment of the electorate, he finds them useful if he can convince them to vote for him.  Whether you are a woman, an immigrant, a queer, or a christian, he will find a way to use you, while at the same time plotting to eradicate your rights.  He will say whatever he has to say to acquire your vote but will do nothing to deliver on his promises. 

He is not to be trusted. There is no sincerity, no genuine honesty, or integrity in any remark he makes about his affection for a certain slice of the population. Any kind comment he might utter, you can be assured he does not mean it.

Your value to Trump is as a resource or tool by which he can feed his ego, prop up his fundraising, and ultimately gain power for himself.  With that power he intends to do as much damage as he can to anyone in need.  He will cut funding and cut rights with the fury of a haybailer and without so much as a blush.  He will enact laws to restrict and deny protections from those who need it most.  He will deliberately disenfranchise the poor and working class, immigrants and minorities, women and queers.

He has no regard for justice or fairness.  He has no respect for democracy, the Constitution, or the rule of law.  He will use the presidency as a means to enrich himself.  He will abuse his office every bit as much as he did last time, even worse.  He will increasingly fan the flames of bigotry, misogyny, sexism, and homophobia.  He will continue to obstruct justice, deny rights, and break laws.  He will persist in his corruption and seek to install a form of government that is all about his central control over all aspects of daily life.  He plans to be a dictator, and unless more Americans stand up, speak out, and resist, he will achieve that despicable goal.

[Source: QC Commentary, April 2024]

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Evolving Viewpoints: Israeli and Palestinian Conflict

Can There Be Real Peace Between the Israelis and Palestinians?
 

"Peace will come when the Arabs and Jews will love their children more than they hate each other."

-Golda Meir, Fourth Israeli Prime Minister, Founder of Israeli State

"To end the cycle of violence between Israel and Palestine, we must impose a ceasefire on blame. We must not use the past to justify surrendering to the supposed impossibilities posed by seemingly irreconcilable and intractable differences."
-Dr. Warren J. Blumenfeld

“We’re seeing that this is incredibly controversial because of the history of the conflict and the passions that history sparks on both sides of the issue. I think we’re seeing how when you have such deeply entrenched feelings and opinions, it becomes difficult to engage without creating pressure for anyone who disagrees with a particular side.”
-Michelle Deutchman, Executive Director, Univ of California Natl Center for Free Speech & Civic Engagement
 

"The Israeli-Palestinian conflict garners intense feelings, and the debate can and has spilled over into incivility and unreasonableness."
-Jon Fansmith, American Council on Education

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US public opinion has become more sympathetic toward Palestinians in recent years, but experts say attitudes could shift again amid the reignited conflict. Since the attacks on Oct 7, Rabbi Hyim Shafner (Kesher Israel Synagogue) says there’s still a feeling of “helplessness” among the congregants of his Washington, DC synagogue. He speaks of “a certain inner anxiety” and says he feels less comfortable. He worries about his 21-year-old daughter, who lives in Israel and recently finished her commitment to the Israeli armed services. Everything’s been “thrown into question” overnight, after what he describes as a promising stretch of time for his people. “It’s a turning point,” Shafner says. The newly launched war between Hamas and the Israeli government, which is now bombarding the Gaza Strip, could also mark a turning point for US public opinion. Recent polling suggests that Americans’ perceptions of Israelis and Palestinians had been evolving and turning less one-sided, but analysts say more change is likely on the way in the wake of the recent bloodshed. Historically, support for Israel has remained strong, but more Americans (especially young people and Democrats) have become sympathetic to Palestinians in recent years.
-Elliott Davis Jr, US News & World Report, Oct 2023

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-Human Rights Watch, November 16, 2023

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"The seemingly intransigent and tragic conflict between Palestinians and Israelis has lasted many generations, resulting in perpetual war, death of innocents and combatants alike, pain, grief, suffering, terrorism, hopelessness, denial, separation of families, loss of property and material possessions, and a numbing of the senses. The entire planet and all its inhabitants have been negatively affected by every detail, small and great, of this perennial impasse. Is there any way out of the morass, or will this current reality never change?

People on the political left and the right can stay entrenched in their binary ideologies and policy positions. They can continue to pursue the present course of (non) action and perpetual antagonism by marginalizing and demonizing anyone who in any way supports the establishment and/or maintenance of the state of Israel as a nation for the Jewish people.

They can also persist in uttering the word Zionist with disgust and scorn as justification for automatically dismissing others’ views and stances while telling themselves they are remaining true to their principles, maintaining their integrity, and most of all, acting intersectionally.

Groups like Hamas and Hezbollah can perpetually refuse Israel’s right to exist and repeatedly launch missiles on territories populated by Jewish civilians while using their own civilians as fodder for incoming bombs. Palestinian and Jewish parents can continue to put their youth in harm’s way in defense of sacred soil promised by God to three varied peoples: Jews, Christians, and Muslims.

The Israeli government and leaders of the Palestinian Authority and Hamas can remain intransigent on several critical issues while failing to move forward on good-faith peace efforts and agreements. They might feel concerned that if peace were to break out in the region, then current and future levels of foreign aid from outside nations and individuals might dry up with these sources no longer seeing further need for aid. They may also use the Machiavellian tactic of divide and conquer to better ensure their chances of retaining and enhancing power.

I hope we as all the people will finally have a voice, a seat at the figurative and literal table."
 

[Source: LGBTQ Nation, BBC, US News & World Report, CNN, ADL, NBC, NPR, New Yorker, November 2023]
 

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Just Witness Current Events...

“Why do you have to bring up the LGBTQ thing?” ...  “Marriage equality is the law of the land; now what else do you want?” ...   These kinds of comments, which I had heard often when I first entered the race for San Diego County sheriff, come from non-LGBTQ and LGBTQ individuals.

Mayor Pete Buttigieg’s presidential run as an openly LGBTQ candidate and his sudden rise in some polls led to a Time magazine cover with his husband titled “First Family,” basically asking: Is America ready to elect an openly gay man as US president?

In light of the social and legal progress that transgender, lesbians, gays and bisexuals have achieved in recent years, many tend to think that a person’s sexual orientation no longer matters (our society is still grappling with the gender identity movement). I can see why some people question the necessity for public officials, professional athletes entertainers, etc., to say that they are LGBTQ. Aren’t we, after all, living in a post-LGBTQ world? Except for Qatar. Does it really matter? I think it still does.

That’s why when I am asked about my sexual orientation or comments are made regarding LGBTQ issues, I unhesitatingly say that I am gay. I think that it still matters because in addition to the questioning comments that I have received, I’ve gotten many more emails, phone calls and remarks from individuals, young and old, who said that my letting them know that I am an openly gay male gave them some inspiration for their own personal struggle with sexual or gender identity.

I’ve had conversations with individuals who say that my public acknowledgment of being gay in a very conservative profession has helped them on their journey of coming out. I’ve had several parents of gay and transgender kids ask me how to deal with their child’s situation. I’d like to think that my openness will influence LGBTQ teenagers, especially those contemplating suicide, to see that that our society is progressing toward greater acceptance and equality, even with today’s turbulent politics. I want to remind them that things will get better because we and our allies won’t forget the battles, the lives lost and the pain suffered that has resulted in a more inclusive society.

As for my own profession, I would have to say that law enforcement still has a way to go with its homophobia and transphobia. I know that there are closeted law enforcement officials today uncomfortable with coming out at work because they believe that doing so would be detrimental to their career. There is hope, however. During my public service, I encountered several LGBTQ youths who’ve told me that they’ve never considered a career in law enforcement because they didn’t think that they could be gay or transgender and be a police officer. They now think differently. I hope that they will join the ranks of law enforcement so they can help change the culture from within.
 

Electing qualified, principled members of our community to public office is important because homophobia and transphobia continue to exist in the United States. Right here in San Diego County, we have a congressman, Darrell Issa, who has consistently gotten an “F” rating from the Human Rights Campaign for opposing both marriage equality and laws that protect the LGBTQ community from discrimination in employment and housing. Issa has even supported constitutional amendments banning same-sex marriage and defining marriage as between one man and one woman. On the national front, we had a president who had banned transgender people from serving in the military, essentially saying that they are divisive and a financial drain on the country.

In the 35 years that I served in law enforcement, being gay has informed both the way in which I’ve treated my co-workers and the way in which I have approached the general public. Being gay has made me more resilient, more accepting, more compassionate, more cognizant of the worth that can be found in everyone I come across.

So yes, while being gay is not a qualification for public office, it matters because it is a part of my character. It matters because I want LGBTQ people to be seen for more than just a caricature of who we are, that we are seen as real people: mothers, fathers, sons and daughters, students, military veterans, athletes, workers in all fields and professions.

[Source: Dave Myers, 33-year veteran of the San Diego County Sheriff’s Department, Times of San Diego, Nov 2022]

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Ruminations on the Death of Pat Robertson
 

Legacy of Hate

The legacy of televangelist Pat Robertson may be somewhat different than he imagined when he responded to a call to the ministry back in 1960 and began the Christian Broadcasting Network. Things may have gone in another direction if Pat had used his energies to actually preach the gospel and spread the love of Jesus.  Instead he devoted much of his life disseminating disinformation and hatred. His depth of righteous indignation, social intolerance, and dogmatic judgement are unmatched.

He ranted about many subjects for which he had little knowledge or training and spread lies and conspiracy theories like so much manure on a freshly plowed field. He made endless racist, sexist, misogynist, xenophobic, and homophobic remarks. His words were hateful and damaging.  Many of his dimwitted followers embraced his harsh rhetoric and used it to oppress women, minorities, immigrants, and gays.

The LGBTQ population was one of his favorite targets.  His mean-spirited attitude and dehumanizing language towards the queer community was unrelenting. There was no tolerance, no respect, no acceptance, no search for understanding, no compassion, no love...  only hate.  And that is what the reverend Robertson will be remembered for.

I don’t like to think about Pat Robertson going to hell. That lets him off too easy. But....  in a humorous vein... I like to think about Pat Robertson finding himself in a heaven he never believed would exist. Where Divine is reading in drag to the children murdered at Sandy Hook and Ulvalde. While Edie Windsor and Gertrude Stein drink coffee in the breakfast nook, talking politics with Harvey Milk. Where Matthew Shepard relaxes by a stream, reading poetry to a nameless young man whose family never claimed his body when he died of AIDS. Where the music plays loudly, welcoming dancers from the Pulse and Club Q to the floor where they twirl and vogue with all the murdered trans women of color whose names we never knew. And where Jesus puts his arm around Pat Robertson’s shoulders and drapes him with a rainbow feather boa.

[Source: QC Commentary, June 2023]
 

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Ron DeSantis is a Fascist

The would-be dictator of Florida

Ron DeSantis, Republican governor of his self-proclaimed “free state of Florida,” has banned books and taken over a formerly progressive and successful college and university system and turned it a deep crimson blood red. He has eliminated advanced placement courses on African American history and criminalized gender-affirming care and the use of public facilities that align with trans people’s gender identities.

He has banned people’s use of gender pronouns that may vary from their sex assigned at birth, eliminated discussions of race, sexuality, and gender in schools, revoked reproductive freedoms from Florida residents, shipped undocumented immigrants hundreds and even thousands miles away, and in his Goofy war with Mickey Mouse, has eliminated thousands of well-paying jobs and physical infrastructure for Florida residents.

He even called Jordan Neely – the man who has been charged with the unprovoked choking death of an unarmed homeless street artist with mental health issues on a Manhattan subway car – “a good Samaritan.”

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In his campaign to turn Florida into the place “where WOKE goes to die,” he is killing his state’s economy and imposing fear and hatred of “the other,” of anyone who does not march to a patriarchal Christian white supremacist drum.

He certainly has disdain for the “Four Freedoms” outlined by President Franklin D. Roosevelt (ironically on January 6) in his 1941 State of the Union Address: Freedom of Speech, Freedom of Worship, Freedom from Want, and Freedom from Fear.

However original DeSantis may think his platform is, he is merely following the authoritarian fascist playbook of earlier times.

On the right-wing side of the dictatorial strongman’s political spectrum, we find the political practice of “fascism.” While also deployed as an epithet by some, fascism developed as a form of radical authoritarian nationalism in early-20th-century Europe in response to liberalism and Marxism on the left.

Historian Umberto Eco, who grew up under the fascist Mussolini regime, enumerates the characteristics of what he calls “Ur-Fascism” or “Eternal Fascism” with 14 “typical” features.

He stressed, “These features cannot be organized into a system; many of them contradict each other and are also typical of other kinds of despotism or fanaticism. But it is enough that one of them be present to allow fascism to coagulate around it.”

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Here they are:

--The cult of tradition. “One has only to look at the syllabus of every fascist movement to find the major traditionalist thinkers. The Nazi gnosis was nourished by traditionalist, syncretistic, occult elements.”
 

--The rejection of modernism. “The Enlightenment, the Age of Reason, is seen as the beginning of modern depravity. In this sense Ur-Fascism can be defined as irrationalism.”
 

--The cult of action for action’s sake. “Action being beautiful in itself, it must be taken before, or without, any previous reflection. Thinking is a form of emasculation.”
 

--Disagreement is treason. “The critical spirit makes distinctions, and to distinguish is a sign of modernism. In modern culture the scientific community praises disagreement as a way to improve knowledge.”
 

--Fear of difference. “The first appeal of a fascist or prematurely fascist movement is an appeal against the intruders. Thus Ur-Fascism is racist by definition.”
 

--Appeal to social frustration. “One of the most typical features of the historical fascism was the appeal to a frustrated middle class, a class suffering from an economic crisis or feelings of political humiliation and frightened by the pressure of lower social groups.”
 

--The obsession with a plot. “Thus at the root of the Ur-Fascist psychology there is the obsession with a plot, possibly an international one. The followers must feel besieged.”
 

--The enemy is both strong and weak. “By a continuous shifting of rhetorical focus, the enemies are at the same time too strong and too weak.”
 

--Pacifism is trafficking with the enemy. “For Ur-Fascism there is no struggle for life but, rather, life is lived for struggle.”
 

--Contempt for the weak. “Elitism is a typical aspect of any reactionary ideology.”
 

--Everybody is educated to become a hero. “In Ur-Fascist ideology, heroism is the norm. This cult of heroism is strictly linked with the cult of death.”
 

--Machismo and weaponry. “Machismo implies both disdain for women and intolerance and condemnation of nonstandard sexual habits, from chastity to homosexuality.”
 

--Selective populism. “There is in our future a TV or Internet populism, in which the emotional response of a selected group of citizens can be presented and accepted as the Voice of the People.”
 

--Ur-Fascism speaks Newspeak. “All the Nazi or Fascist schoolbooks made use of an impoverished vocabulary, and an elementary syntax, in order to limit the instruments for complex and critical reasoning.”

DeSantis, in his words, actions, and policy declarations fully embraces most of Eco’s characteristics of fascism.

For example, “the cult of tradition” (his distorted interpretation of “family values,” sex, and gender); “the rejection of modernism” (globalism); “disagreement is treason” (hence his feud with Disney); “fear of difference” (people of color, immigrants, LGBTQ people, etc); “obsession with a plot” (“WOKEism,” “Democrat election fraud”); “machismo” and others.

I don’t believe it mere coincidence that as I’m writing these words, on my radio comes the sounds of Jean Sibelius’s Symphony #3, final movement subtitled: “The Crystallization of Chaos.”

In his run for the Oval Office, DeSantis promises to crystallize this chaos, this hatred and reversal of rights, to every village, town, and city across this nation.

While he may have found a limited degree of short-term success in the once-great state of Florida, he will ultimately fail – bigly. For in the inimitable wisdom of Caesar Chavez, civil rights advocate and co-founder of the National Farm Workers Association: “Once social change begins, it cannot be reversed. You cannot un-educate the person who has learned to read. You cannot humiliate the person who feels pride. You cannot oppress the people who are not afraid anymore.”

[Source: Dr. Warren J. Blumenfeld | LGBTQ Nation | May 2023]
 

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How Leslie Jordan Made Being a Sissy OK for Gay Men Like Me
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What We Learned at Walkouts and Rallies in Florida

Queerness is power

We know that so many of you are exhausted, demoralized, and angry about the record number of anti-LGBTQ bills being introduced in state houses across the nation. Every time we hear fresh news of another one of over 500 harmful bills this year, we at Trevor feel despondent. The common sense idea of freedom – the freedom to parent, treat patients, express oneself, talk about one’s life at school – is under attack by politicians more focused on optics than standing up for their constituents. It’s easy to feel hopeless, and I was starting to feel that way.

We knew we needed to take action, and the best way for The Trevor Project to support LGBTQ young people is to be there with them on the ground, lifting up their stories and voices. The Trevor Project has been testifying against these bills in legislatures across America, but when we heard about the new policies that expanded the “Don’t Say Gay” law to cover all students K-12, it was another blow in a series of hard news. Rather than sink into that defeat, we booked flights to Orlando. On the ground, we found fresh reasons for hope in the voices of inspiring young people across the country.

 

Our first stop was at the University of Central Florida, where college students had organized a walkout (one of 300 that had been organized at high schools and colleges across the state). There, we talked to students who were understandably afraid. “I’m walking out today because every aspect of my identity is under attack. I’m a Black, queer woman.”” said Lena, the daughter of an educator. The Florida state government has also made moves to ban AP African American history from school curriculums. Another student, A.J., described the impact on her mental health even more bluntly, “I’m scared to hold hands with my girlfriend in public.”

But Lena pointed to the presence of student activists and allies as a reason for hope. “Seeing other people, allies, people that aren’t directly affected by this legislation come out and show their support gives me hope,” said Lena about students at the Walk Out to Learn.

We then drove to downtown Orlando, where a rally was happening in front of City Hall. The grand marble tower served as a backdrop for nearly a dozen speakers who spoke to a crowd of parents, students, and allies, many of whom were draped in trans pride flags. These speakers, many of them high school activists themselves, told the crowd what was at stake in the fight and reminded elected leaders that students don’t need them, they need students’ votes. Our experience at the Rally to Learn also allowed us to hear from Florida lawmakers such as Rep. Anna Eskamani who pledged support to LGBTQ Floridians and parents.

The biggest takeaway from each of the students was a message of optimism. Cameron (he/him), a high school senior from an area of Florida with elected officials who are hostile to LGBTQ young people, told us that “it’s important to have hope because you often do win,” Cameron grew up in a red area of Florida, and when his local school board tried to enforce limitations on his expression at school, he organized students to unseat her in an upcoming election. “That victory comes when you use the power that you have.”

“We want queer and trans youth to be able to see their identities in books and newspapers and movies and shows,” said Esme (she/her).

“Queerness is power, because queerness has the ability to build communities,” said Javier (he/him) after speaking at the rally. After our time meeting LGBTQ young people in Florida, we are more hopeful than ever in the power of LGBTQ young people to leverage their community to build the accepting world that Floridians and young people everywhere deserve.

[Source: Ryan Bernsten | Senior Managing Editor | The Trevor Project | April 2023]

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What It's Like to Be an LGBTQ High Schooler in DeSantis's Florida

Don't say gay

I’m directly affected by the authoritarian policies of our ambitious and ruthless governor.  Florida Governor Ron DeSantis’s war against “woke-ism” (or equality and visibility of the LGBTQ community and people of color) finds its battlefield in public schools. I should know, since it’s impacting me directly as a high school student in Flager Beach, Florida.

In our libraries and classrooms, we are seeing the erasure of queer and BIPOC voices that mirror the actions taken by fascist and authoritarian regimes throughout history.  In Florida, and other parts of the country, library shelves are being emptied. Teachers are threatened with felony charges for carrying books that Florida’s extremist right-wing government finds “offensive.” Some staff members are fired for daring to show the world what is happening in schools.

Now, the governor is claiming the ongoing book banning is a hoax. As a Florida high school student, I can tell you that it’s real, and it’s happening in schools across our state.  At just 17 years old, I’m too young to vote. But, like many in my generation, I’ve been the target of extremist actions by our Governor.

Beginning with DeSantis’s reign of terror over LGBTQ students with the “don’t say gay" law, his weaponizing of school boards to censor queer-centered literature outraged students of all backgrounds. Then came the “Stop WOKE Act,” aimed at preventing the fictional instruction of critical race theory that, in effect, censors discussions of slavery and the civil rights movement. He’s even ridiculed the LGBTQ community in campaign mailers.

Rather than solving some of the issues that directly affect Floridians, like rising housing costs or increasing gun violence, our governor has turned his attention to bullying the most vulnerable communities.  It is painfully clear that DeSantis’s goal is not to govern, but rather to create a moral panic among conservative voters, while stripping marginalized people of the little representation they fought so long to receive.

As part of the LGBTQ community myself, it was terrifying to see members of my own school board proposing banning books, simply because they were written by authors who speak to my very existence. But the thing about Gen Z is that we are passionate about the injustices we witness and vocal against its perpetrators. As such, my friends and I formed a political advocacy group, “Recall FCSB” (Flager County School Board), to channel the anger of our peers into political influence.

  

We protested school board meetings that became a battleground on LGBTQ rights, attracting the attention of a far-right registered hate group, The Three Percenters — equipped with tactical armor and weapons. They appeared, clad in black with their faces disguised by masks; these men hurled slurs, threatened us as well as our families, and even tried to follow us home. Even in the face of aggressive, abusive instigators aiming to intimidate us, our resolve only strengthened.  This is the reality that DeSantis created in Florida, and one that he threatens to implement nationwide. As we approach the 2024 presidential campaign season, it is all but inevitable our governor will soon announce his bid for the highest office.

Today, Florida students like me are feeling the impact of his hateful agenda. But should he take up the highest office in our nation, there’s no telling just how outrageous things could get. School board meetings where extremist groups threaten the safety of the students standing up for themselves may be just the tip of the iceberg.

Now, Republicans rally behind DeSantis as the leader who will return their party to normalcy in its post-Trump era. The only difference between Trump and DeSantis is the latter’s improved politicking. In conversations with his supporters, I have often heard DeSantis be characterized as essentially “Trump with better political skills and without the drama.” In other words, he is a man with Trump’s extremist agenda, but equipped with the ability to successfully act on it. That is truly a terrifying combination.

We will never forget the images of violence and destruction levied against our nation’s Capitol, all instigated by Trump. I cannot even begin to fathom the destruction a DeSantis presidency will bring to American democracy, given his history of anti-democratic actions to tighten his grip on power.   Ron DeSantis does not represent a tamer GOP that we should welcome or embrace. He is a relentless tyrant who cares more about his political ambitions than serving his constituents — nothing is more MAGA than that.

[Source: Cameron Diggers | High School Student, Flagler Beach, Florida | March 2023]
 

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This Holiday, I’m Going to a Gay Bar
 

As beautiful as it is tragic

They tell us not to flaunt it. They tell us to not shove it in their faces. They tell us not to talk about it. They tell us everything would be fine if we’d just keep it behind closed doors. They tell us these things during Thanksgiving dinner, at Christmas after the kids have opened their gifts, while the game is on and we wanted to try to talk, to explain, to give them a chance to see us, to love us. We don’t want to give up just yet.

When I heard the news about the shooting at Club Q, an LGBTQ nightclub in Colorado Springs, I couldn’t help but think of the rhetoric spewed by those like James Dobson.

We know what we’re up against. We heard it growing up, in church and at home. We heard the words they use in polite company — about loving the sinner and hating the sin. We heard the words they used when they’d been listening to Christian radio or their actual minister or Rush Limbaugh or Fox News, about abominations and predators in bathrooms and groomers on the internet, and the words they use when they’ve had one too many, the names they call those who could be our friends, who could be us.

Those words we heard and were taught and were forced to read, a whole lot of those words came out of Colorado Springs, the headquarters of Focus on the Family, an evangelical organization whose founder, Mr. Dobson, wrote books exhorting our evangelical parents on how to deal with strong-willed children — corporal punishment, “a little pain goes a long way” — and on how to raise boys to be suitably masculine, who compared homosexuality to pedophilia and who once appeared to offer a solution to fathers whose young daughters had to share a restroom with trans women: “If this had happened 100 years ago, someone might have been shot. Where is today’s manhood? God help us!”

Some of us grew up and escaped to cities where we could feel, if not safe exactly, at least a little less alone. We could find jobs where we didn’t have to hide who we were and tell lies about our “roommate.” We could find friends like us, a new family, to replace one we lost. Some of us stayed home or moved home when things didn’t work out in the city. But that story’s heartwarming only when the main character is a straight executive in a Hallmark movie.

Some of us go home for the holidays, where we are told to keep it behind closed doors. We step outside to walk the dog so they don’t see our tears. We call our friends back in the city. Our brother steps out onto the porch to tell us, when we ask why our family can’t just love us, “It’s all about the baby Jesus,” because he’s the only one who knows how much it hurts. And he’s the only one who can still make us laugh about it.

Later on, when the kids are sleeping, when Mom wants to watch “It’s a Wonderful Life,” some of us head to the bar. We don’t need to know anyone there. We don’t need anyone to tag along. We don’t need to know if it’s a dance night or a drag show. We’ll be all right.

Just as soon as we walk through those doors, past the bouncer checking IDs, up to the bar, where the impossibly cute bartender nods to let us know he’s seen us. He did see us. Someone finally did. It’s been a while. This is where we’re safe. For many of us, it’s the only place. They told us it would be OK, behind those closed doors. They’d leave us alone.

Often there’s a drag show, a fund-raiser for a homeless shelter for the queer kids whose parents listened to their evangelical leader and threw their children out onto the streets. We’ve heard the panic about drag queens, and it’d be hard to not laugh if we didn’t know the intent behind the manufactured panic. Drag queens talk about sex the way politicians talk about thoughts and prayers and Christians talk about love. Everyone knows they’re full of it. Drag queens are in on the joke.

If you’ve ever been to a gay bar on a holiday or ever worked at a gay bar during a holiday, and I have, you get to watch the transformation of every person who walks through those doors: the unwinding of jaw muscles and shoulders, hips that start to roll about halfway across the room, the tone of voice that changes between the front door and the bar. You watch people become themselves as they throw back that first shot, the medicinal shot, then find immediate friends down the bar or out on the patio. It’s as beautiful as it is tragic.

It’s tragic because they were never going to leave us alone. No matter how quiet we kept it, no matter how much we hid it in front of them. The police came into our houses and dragged us out in handcuffs, printed the mug shots in the paper so our bosses and families and neighbors would know what they had told us to keep secret. The military harassed us and threatened us and threw us out, even though it said it wouldn’t ask if we didn’t tell.

They don’t want us to feel safe. They don’t want us to be safe.

Joshua Thurman, in a tearful interview shortly after he survived the shooting last weekend, asked, “Where are we supposed to go?”

The Stonewall riots began because they were lying then, too, when they told us to keep it behind closed doors. So we came out into the streets. We fought back. We fought back Saturday night, too. It was club patrons who stopped the gunman, who threw him to the ground and subdued him until the police arrived, and when they arrived, they placed handcuffs on one of those patrons, who said later that the police locked him in a police car, briefly preventing him from tending to his family members.

The police, as an institution, were not built to protect queer people, not when politicians fearmonger about drag queens and bathrooms to rally an evangelical base.

We protect ourselves. We’ll fight for our own. We always have. We’ll mourn. We’ll raise money. We’ll organize. And we’ll keep fighting, until all of us are safe, everywhere.

But tonight, I’m going to a gay bar. Maybe there’ll be a drag show.

[Source: Lauren Hough | Guest Essayist | New York Times | Nov 2022]
 

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At Least 5 Killed in Shooting at LGBTQ Club in Colorado
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Gunman Kills 5 at Gay Nightclub, Subdued by Patrons

At Least 5 Killed After Gunman Opens Fire at LGBTQ Nightclub in Colorado Springs

When Republicans Lament the Hate Crimes They Help Create
 

Irresponsible rhetoric and its consequences

The mass shooting at a Colorado Springs nightclub on the eve of Transgender Day of Remembrance that killed five people and left dozens clinging to life or permanently disfigured and traumatized, is not a surprise.

Worse, it is entirely predictable. It is the rotten, putrid fruit of MAGA America and all it stands for and aspires to.  And yet its rank-and-file seems accidentally or intentionally oblivious.

In the wake of the murders at Club Q, as usual Republican politicians have lined up to once feign disbelief and pretend to care and to dole out phony expressions of abject shock and solidarity.  But the truth is, this is what they have made with great intention and care over time.

A murder targeting the LGBTQ community is not a random aberration they are trying to make sense of, it is more like a GOP campaign promise fulfilled.

When you continually label queer people as predators,
when you repeatedly accuse teachers of being groomers,
when you declare drag shows and gay clubs as societal threats,
when you intentionally target transgender children and their parents,
when you perpetually traffic in irresponsible and dangerous rhetoric designed to generate irrational fear of LGBTQ people—hate crimes like the one in Colorado are the logical progression.

The hollow culture wars that Christian Conservatives have spent the past few decades going all-in on have actually human costs. They are not ideological expressions untethered from life on the ground. They are not just tweets and slogans and disconnected pulpit diatribes devoid of consequences. They are not merely reckless words and irresponsible assassinations of character against people for their gender identity and sexual orientation.

They may begin as those things, but eventually they become young men carrying high-powered weapons of rapid carnage into places of refuge and joy, who indiscriminately fire into crowds of strangers because they have so dehumanized them as to see them as expendable and necessary collateral damage of a righteous holy war.

The tweets and slogans and diatribes eventually become showers of bullets quickly tearing through the flesh of fathers and best friends and loving spouses and favorite aunts and college students and medical professionals. They become gaping wounds too severe and numerous to withstand. They become human beings terminated on dance floors, simply for who they are and who they love.

And these living, breathing, wholly unprecedented, fully original, never to be repeated human beings become victims of two vicious hate crimes: of the person pulling the trigger and of those who made doing so, so easy for them.

There is no mystery here to be solved, no complex code to uncover, no hidden shooter motive we need to follow down endless rabbit trails to discern. This is simple cause-and-affect. It is the grotesque monster Republicans have made, because they have lacked creative ideas or noble impulses or any desire to lead responsible for the common good. By continually chasing the sensational, by relentlessly ratcheting up their rhetoric, by dragging their base to an ever-deepening bottom, and by using LGBTQ people as faceless, nameless political chips—they are nurturing the kind of wasteful violence Colorado Springs is grieving.

Politicians like Lauren Boebert and Ted Cruz, their party and their voting base will continue to pretend they are oblivious to or even outraged by the kind of violence visited on Club Q.

But until the Right reckons with the flesh-and-blood cost of their continual verbal assault on a group of already marginalized people, and until they repent and begin to fight for the rights and humanity of the LGBTQ community, these physical assaults will continue—and they will have that blood on their hands.

[Source: John Pavlovitz | November 2022]
 

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After the Colorado Springs Attack, LGBTQ People are Furious at the Rhetoric Targeting Them

When Republicans Lament the Hate Crimes They Help Create

Two Millennia of Discrimination Against LGBTQ Community is Enough

Killed in Mass Shooting At Colorado LGBTQ Nightclub Club Q
Colorado Club Shooting: Suspect Named After 5 dead, Dozens Injured at LGBTQ Nightclub
Colorado Springs Nightclub Shooting: 'Our Community is Shattered'
Suspect in Colorado Springs LGBTQ Club Shooting Charged with 5 Counts of First-Degree Murder
At Least 5 Killed in Shooting at LGBTQ Club in Colorado
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At Least 5 Killed After Gunman Opens Fire at LGBTQ Nightclub in Colorado Springs
 

How Leslie Jordan Made Being a Sissy OK for Gay Men Like Me

In a fabulous, flamboyant, feather boa kinda way

Leslie Jordan was effeminate and flamboyant — an unapologetic sissy, in the best way. His shocking death in Oct. 2022 at the age of 67 left myself — a fellow sissy — and many others in the LGBTQ community heartbroken and stunned.  This one hurt — really, really hurt.

In March 2020, Jordan became the internet's sassy sweetheart, going viral for his sofa cushion confessionals amid the early days of an unknown pandemic. In the short videos, he nagged his family off-camera, twirled a baton for his “daddy,” or shared hilarious reminiscings from his storied career.

I had the opportunity to be one of the first reporters to interview him on his secret to going viral and there wasn’t much to it: Just be yourself. This was something Jordan himself struggled to figure out for most of his career in Hollywood, discovering later in life that what makes people love you most is when they see someone who loves themself first. Simple, yes, but still a surprise.

Jordan, who became sober in the late '90s, told me that his journey into sobriety was a cornerstone of his own acceptance of his sexuality. Alcohol and drugs had become a buffer to help him cope with his insecurities, causing him to get three DUIs over a short time

“All my life I’ve always been so ashamed of being feminine,” he told me in 2020. “You know, you learned that very young in American culture that the feminine boys don’t do well. And yet, I had a dad who was a lieutenant colonel in the army. My dad was a man’s man, but he still adored me. And somehow in the midst of that, I still grew up hating the sissy in me.”

But after becoming sober at 42, he started finally loving himself. His lisp got louder. His walk got even hippy-er. These latest chapters may have been his loudest. He showed us all that you could be unapologetically gay and southern at the same time. That one doesn’t automatically cancel the other out and actually, southern decadence compliments homosexual fabulousness rather well.

“Many gay rites-of-passage stories are echoed here: hostile small-town environment (Chattanooga, Tenn); rigidly masculine father; humor as armor against bullies; unrequited loves; drug and alcohol dependency; internal homophobia; weakness for rough trade,” theater critic David Rooney wrote for the New York Times back in 2010. “But Mr. Jordan’s candor gives them a fresh spin.”

His fresh sageness on stage and off made him the gay elder many of us didn't have at a time when queer representation was just taking off in pop culture. This could be because so many of Jordan's generation was lost to AIDS. We may have had more grandfather figures like him to inspire us, and provide a blueprint on how to age when you love to twirl. But everyone — sissy, not-a-sissy, gay, straight, old, young, white or Black — can learn something from him. That stepping into whatever makes you unique no matter what it is isn’t weakness, it’s your power.

Maybe because he already had lived through one, Jordan helped us all find the silver lining in those early, dark days of the pandemic when there was nowhere to find one. Now it’s our turn to pay back the favor and find the silver lining in his tragic passing.

He did it his way. Yes, a very gay way. OK, a very, very, very, very fabulous, flamboyant and feather-boa kind of way, but it was always honest and it was always true.

So thank you, Leslie, for teaching me and so many others the power of individuality. You were there for your fellow hunker-downers when we needed you most. You made us feel seen and because of this, we will never forget you.

[Source: Alexander Kacala | Reporter and Editor | NBC Today | October 2022]
 

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CNN: Leslie Jordan, Beloved Actor and Social Media Star, Dead at 67
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Life After Roe vs. Wade

Victories can be fleeting

In March of 1972, the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA) — a proposed amendment to the US Constitution aimed at preventing discrimination on the basis of sex — passed the US Senate after already clearing the House months earlier. It had even earned the backing of then-President Richard Nixon along the way. All that remained was for a minimum of 38 states to ratify the legislation for it to become a constitutional amendment. To date, the ERA has not been published into the Constitution, despite the ability of Congress to act.

Beyond a powerful cabal of faceless operatives pulling the strings in Washington to block the ERA, it was a nationwide network of anti-feminist activists that successfully condemned the amendment to legislative purgatory to this day. They acted with both urgency and patience to block progress with a public pressure campaign and the cultivation of a quiet coalition behind the scenes. It’s the exact approach that tends to work in a democracy.

As the new Broadway play POTUS Or Behind Every Great Dumbass Are Seven Women Trying to Keep Him Alive closes its audience-celebrated run this month, a production we were both a part of, we reflect on the striking parallels between a story built around the women working behind the scenes to keep our country from descending into pure patriarchal anarchy, and the harrowing everyday experience of women at work. For the actors and everyone involved in the show audiences, it’s been an emotional journey as we’ve watched Roe v. Wade fall during the show’s run and felt hyper-aware of POTUS's evolving impact on audiences as the world beyond the stage-doors continues to shift. There were nights when the curtain fell, and the cast simply stood together on stage and wept together.

Even though this show is written and performed to make people laugh, everyone associated with it understands that audiences step out of the venue to face unconscionable realities. Gender pay-gaps, pregnancy discrimination, and reproductive tyranny and the constant threat of violence. Far from laughing matters.

POTUS’s ability to weave together the hilariously absurd with the terrifyingly real and poignant experiences of women across sexuality, race, and identity has made it a frighteningly timely piece and a reminder of how activism can be energized by the arts.

For those of us who are active in feminist politics and the fight for gender, LGBTQ, and identity-based equality, there is a profound sense of demoralization and heartbreak reverberating through the movement right now. Meanwhile, opponents of reproductive freedom don’t seem to be pausing to celebrate. They seem to be redoubling their efforts to build momentum and codify this victory in as many states as possible. The recent ballot victory for abortions rights in conservative Kansas is a potentially heartening sign though, for what progressives, independents, libertarians and moderate Republicans can accomplish if we work together.

The challenge we face now is also an opportunity if we harness the acute frustration and passion we feel today into tactical strategy played out over a long game. We need to retake state legislatures with local politicians who actually reflect the will of the people. We need to back legal cases in key states to chip away at the legitimacy of this abhorrent, new legal precedent. The solutions we need won’t come quickly. The continued fight to ratify the ERA is proof enough that victories can be fleeting — but will almost always fall to those acting with both urgency and patience. Passion and meticulous planning.

It’s painstaking, thankless work with no assurance we’ll land exactly where we desire. But that’s exactly the type of winding journey that has led activists to successful outcomes time and again. Roe v. Wade wasn’t a lightning strike. Nor was the civil rights movement, the end of Jim Crow, the Supreme Court’s ruling on marriage equality, or our eventual success in ratifying the ERA. These were the results of meticulous, decades-long efforts to change minds through culture, media, and grassroots organizing, to mobilize voters in local elections and focus on court appointments at every level of government. By the time these movements reached legislatures or the courts, the people’s perspectives had shifted and the groundwork for change had been laid.

As unfair as it feels in this moment, that very same work must begin anew. There is no time to pause and lick our wounds, and all the reason in the world to get right back to work fighting for legislation, legal challenges and candidates who support gender equality. Whether our place in the movement is on stage — helping audiences explore difficult truths through dynamic storytelling, or on the frontlines of the political fight to reclaim and defend our rights at all costs — the curtain is rising on a new production. And we all have roles to play.

[Source: Lea DeLaria, Comedian, Actor (Orange is the New Black), Jazz Singer | Zakiya Thomas, CEO of ERA Coalition/Fund for Women’s Equality and Professor at Georgetown Law School | August 2022]
 

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Your Words Can Cost the Lives of Trans Kids

A matter of life and death

Anti-transgender rhetoric leads to stigma, and stigma leads to violence against our families, friends, co-workers, and neighbors.

Parents always want what is best for our children, and we can all agree that they deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. But as the parents of an amazing kid who happens to be transgender, we've seen firsthand how in recent years many of our leaders (who think they know better than parents, medical organizations, and millions of doctors) have been treating our son, Daniel, with anything but that dignity and respect.

They are making it impossible for kids like Daniel to be their authentic selves. And we've seen how harmful the attacks on my kid from power-hungry politicians and pop culture icons going for cheap laughs can be.

When our family watches TV or opens up social media, we're often looking for an escape, just like everyone else — to laugh at a favorite sitcom or share memes with friends. But recently, it's been impossible to escape "jokes" that come at the expense of our son and the entire transgender community from comedians like Bill Maher, Ricky Gervais, and Dave Chappelle. Imagine turning on the TV and seeing a powerful person (who has so little on the line) make fun of your child.

It's no joking matter.

Anti-transgender rhetoric leads to stigma, and stigma leads to violence against our families, friends, co-workers, and neighbors. From Texas Gov. Greg Abbott threatening to take children away from their loving parents, to the 300-plus anti-trans bills that have been introduced across the country this year alone, to the epidemic of violence against Black and brown transgender women, families like our own have felt the impacts of bias and discrimination.

Our son came out as transgender when he was 8 years old. The coming-out experience for him and our family was ostracizing at times and difficult; we felt very alone.

Some immediately judged Daniel and my family, and we even struggled to understand what being transgender meant. Over time, as people got to know us, we found a community that accepts and loves us. But now we've got celebrities and extremist politicians amplifying harmful propaganda that can change how people see us.

For the first four months of this year, we gave testimony in the Arizona state Capitol, trying to put an end to the onslaught of 17 anti-trans bills. Imagine our family (our teenage son) in that moment feeling the sting of hateful testimony attacking his very existence.

As a parent, I ask you, would you want this for your child?

While our family and so many others keep fighting hate, we wonder if people like Maher or Gervais really understand the power of their platforms. It is because of this power that far too many figures regurgitate dangerous rhetoric that has been proven to negatively impact the mental health of transgender youth.

According to The Trevor Project, "transgender and nonbinary youth were 2 to 2.5 times as likely to experience depressive symptoms, seriously consider suicide, and attempt suicide compared to their cisgender LGBQ peers." Among Black transgender and nonbinary youth, 59% seriously considered suicide, and more than 1 in 4 attempted suicide in the past year.

Let's be clear: The reason we see disturbing statistics like these is not transgender youth being who they are; it's due to a fundamental lack of the support and affirmation our children deserve. Transgender youth who receive desired gender-affirming care are as much as 60% less likely to experience depression and 73% less likely to report suicidal thoughts than those without access to gender-affirming care.

Transgender and non-binary people also face increased violence just for living their lives. The Human Rights Campaign's Transgender Justice Initiative has reported at least 19 transgender people shot or killed by other violent means this year. In 2021, the deadliest year on record, at least 57 transgender people, mainly transgender women of color, were killed.

When anti-trans discrimination and violence go largely unreported or ignored by everyone from the media to law enforcement to popular entertainers, it means hardly anyone in a position of influence or power is regularly challenging biases that inevitably lead to more violence.

All the more reason why people in power, including influential entertainers, should be using their platforms to spread awareness and support transgender people. It's time to learn and speak the truth instead of caving to insecurities and ignorance. It's a matter of choosing to help protect fundamental civil rights. And it can be a matter of life or death for many.

[Source: Lizette and Jose Trujillo | HRC Foundation Parents for Transgender Equality National Council | July 2022]
 

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There's Never Been a Better Time for the LGBTQ Rights Movement
 

We've always found a way to prevail

If you asked us to think of a timeless sentence, an evergreen sentiment that would be relevant no matter what period of history it was said in, we might offer, “It’s a really tough time to be in the LGBTQ civil rights movement.”

It was a tough time in the ’70s, during Anita Bryant’s antigay “Save Our Children” crusade.  It was a tough time in the ’80s, when President Reagan’s loudest comment on the AIDS epidemic was silence. It was a tough time in the ’90s, when media coverage of the murder of Brandon Teena widely misgendered him and he was buried with a headstone reading “sister, daughter, friend.”   It was tough in the 2000s, when we saw an avalanche of constitutional and statutory bans on marriage equality. It was tough even in the 2010s, despite what seemed like a cascade of legal and legislative victories, including the defeat of North Carolina’s anti-transgender “bathroom bill” — as the murder epidemic of transgender women, especially trans women of color, grew more and more dire.

And now, half a century out from “Save Our Children,” here we are again. This year alone, there have been hundreds of anti-LGBTQ bills introduced in state legislatures, of which 117 are explicitly anti-transgender.

It’s always been a tough time. And yet — we’ve always found a way to prevail over attacks on our community. And even more importantly, we’ve always found ways to cultivate joy, to find community, and to keep our heads held high no matter what the world threw at us. Time and time again, through victories large and small, the drumbeat of equality has stayed loud and steady. And anyone in this movement would tell you that no matter the setbacks we face, we’re still further along today than we’ve ever been before.

Groups in the LGBTQ movement continue to not only navigate the treacherous waters of today’s politics but also to innovate and drive progress in unexpected ways. This month, for example, a Georgia federal district court issued a landmark ruling in favor of a plaintiff represented by the Transgender Legal Defense Education Fund that an employer cannot exclude or deny coverage for gender-affirming care from its employee health insurance plan. And in the state of Alabama, GLBTQ Legal Advocates & Defenders and the National Center for Lesbian Rights successfully challenged in court an anti-trans health care measure. None of this would have been possible if it weren’t for increased coordination and collaboration among our national, state, and local organizations.

Even as our opponents find new ways to demonize, dehumanize, and delegitimize us, we march forward. From where we stand, on the shoulders of Marsha P. Johnson and her siblings at the Stonewall uprising, shoulder to shoulder with trans youth who have stepped up to fight for their own equality, we know that this work is a marathon, not a sprint. Despite narratives to the contrary, we didn’t win marriage equality overnight; much as we want it to, victory rarely comes out of the blue.

It always comes down to hope. As our community endures these relentless, cruel attacks, we must remember how we’ve always beaten back the cruelty: by helping our fellow Americans understand we are just as deserving of being treated with respect and guaranteed equal protection under the law. Just like we did when we won marriage in the first place, when we beat back those bathroom bills in 2016, when Stella Keating became the first transgender teen to testify in front of a Senate committee in 2020, when TLDEF sent a delegation of trans and nonbinary youth to the White House in 2022, we must continue to meet them where they are and remind them of our shared values. We love like they do. Trans kids dream like all kids do.

“It’s a really tough time to be in the LGBTQ civil rights movement” might be timeless — but as the attacks grow more vicious and come from more places, and as we fight battles we once thought long since won, we instead say, “There’s never been a better time to be in this fight.” Because with the attacks also comes opportunities to build familiarity and expose the hostility for what it is: an ultimately futile attempt to misinform a public that has long been on our side.

It’s hard to see the light through the darkness. From time to time, we all lose sight of it. But when we do, we can take a deep breath, look back at our history, and say to ourselves, “There’s never been a better time to be in the LGBTQ civil rights movement.”

[Source: Brad Clark (Gill Foundation) | Andrea Hong Marra (TLDEF) | June 2022]

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Through Line of Critical Race, Don’t Say Gay, and Great Replacement

Disciples of hate, bigotry, and carnage

First came critical race theory in public school classrooms in Virginia (even though there is no such thing) that allowed Republican Glenn Youngkin to win the state’s race for governor. The race came down to race, and voters were hoodwinked into thinking their children were being exposed to harsh history lessons, when instead these lessons whitewash the United States.  For God’s sake, don’t talk about slavery or systemic racism, lest your children think white people did something wrong.

Not to be outdone, Florida Gov. Ron DeSantis had parents up in arms because the word “gay” was being dropped in the classroom like pencils on the floor. His “don’t say gay” law was nothing new, and it was a blatant attempt to scare voters and give him a wedge issue that he can “own” for his presidential bid in 2024.  For God’s sake, teachers need to stop talking about gay or trans things, all day, every day, in the classroom, lest kids begin considering becoming queer.

The Republican contenders for local, state, and federal offices this election year picked up the “don’t say gay” strategy but took it a step further. They began to label their opponents, who supported LGBTQ youth and trans kids getting proper medical care, as pedophiles and groomers. For God’s sake, keep the gays or even straight sympathizers who have a modicum of empathy for queer and trans kids away from your kids since they are a threat to their safety.

I really didn’t think that things could get any lower than accusing someone of being a child molester, but silly me for being so naïve. Now Republicans, including New York Congresswoman Elise Stefanik, she of the looney tunes House leadership, have been exposed as purveyors of the great “replacement” theory.

The Buffalo shooting happened, and it’s like the lid blew off and suddenly the great “replacement” theory replaced “don’t say gay” as the cause du jour of the extreme right. In the rambling manifesto that the shooter shared, he had this to say, according to Slate:  “I simply became racist after I learned the truth,” [the gunman] wrote. and the truth as he understood it was that “the White race is dying out” and that “We are doomed by low birth rates and high rates of immigration.” He said his attack was, “beyond all doubt, anti-immigration, anti-ethnic replacement and anti-cultural replacement.”

Politico added:  The shooter in a manifesto referenced the “great replacement theory,” which falsely asserts that the white population’s influence is being threatened by a flood of immigration. Republicans avowed zero connection between that racist ideology and the “election insurrection” of migrations that Stefanik’s ad warned of.

Politico explained that her warning came in a series of digital ads she approved last year, which said “radical Democrats” were plotting a “permanent election insurrection” by seeking to “grant amnesty” to millions of undocumented immigrants in the U.S. Democrats were taking that action to “overthrow our current electorate and create a permanent liberal majority in Washington,” the ads said.  Imagine if she felt this way about getting rid of guns instead of immigrants and people of color?

As a result of all of this, Republicans are quietly (and some not so quietly) putting the word out that if you are white, straight, and Anglo-Saxon, you are about to get swallowed up and replaced by the tidal wave of Black, brown, and Asian people, and just about any color, rushing to run all over lily-white people and making them second-class citizens.

The imperial wizard of this movement is … want to take a guess? Tucker Carlson. No surprise here. “Over the past year, Carlson has repeatedly either alluded to or directly mentioned a thesis known as the 'great replacement' theory,” Slate notes. “This exercise in toxic demography essentially argues that white people of European origin are being usurped of their primacy in Western society by [insert minority group here].”

And, according to a recent New York Times series, Carlson has voiced this theory or elements of it over 400 times on Tucker Carlson Tonight. That's 400 times his viewers have heard this. That's 400 times politicians running in deep-red states and elsewhere (Stefanik is from upstate New York) have heard his white supremacist messages. And 400 times would-be mass shooters have heard Carlson’s call to action.  Like pizza dough, the message is pounded over and over and over and over again, then it’s spread out, layered with toppings of minority groups, put in the oven where the fire spreads over it, and eventually the message and all the toppings are baked in. Thus, it’s too late to pull back this hatred.

As an NPR headline succinctly put it, “The 'Great Replacement' Conspiracy Theory Isn't Fringe Anymore, It's Mainstream.” In the NPR article, Cynthia Miller-Idriss, professor and director of the Polarization and Extremism Research and Innovation Lab at American University said, "It has unified and really spread [the conspiracies] online in memes and videos and in a lot of propaganda. It capitalized on a moment when you're not just reading written propaganda or sharing it in a newsletter or in a small group in a backwoods militia. But it's circulating in these dark online spaces where this [alleged] Buffalo shooter writes he was exposed and radicalized."

And it’s being spread in plain sight by Carlson and Laura Ingraham, Stefanik, and US Reps Marjorie Taylor Greene and Paul Gosar, who spoke earlier this year at a white nationalist rally in Florida. Did they wear a white hood? Did they do a Hitler salute? Most likely, since cameras were banned — and there’s got to be a reason for that.

You can draw a straight line from critical race theory, "don’t say gay," "pedophiles" and "groomers" to great replacement. That line goes down, bends right, bends down again, and then the order is reversed and crosses over the original line. It is a swastika. A 21st-century modernization of a logo of hate, cruelty, fear, and horror. And it’s happening here in the United States. And it’s not lying dormant. It is spreading. A high school lacrosse player in Ohio drew one on his leg. That’s how far down this depravity seeps.  And what’s frightening about it is that it’s not going away. Some feign horror at the shooting in Buffalo like Stefanik, House Minority Leader Kevin McCarthy, and House Republican Whip Steve Scalise. But their comments are crocodile tears.

If they are horrified, then why wasn’t Stefanik ordered to remove her racist ads — last year? Instead, she was promoted to take the exiled Rep. Liz Cheney’s place as the House Republican Conference chair. A racist sits among the leaders of the Republican Party; however, after the Buffalo shooting, the leadership said Stefanik wasn’t a racist. Odd place and timing for such a pronouncement, and oh, by the way, you can’t have it both ways. The Republican leaders were aghast at what happened in Buffalo, yet they defended Stefanik, and they let Greene and Gosar attend racist events with no repercussions.

Do you call that leadership? Hardly. They are the grand wizards of the Republican Party, hiding under metaphorical white hoods, and they take their cues from Imperial Wizard Carlson who has burned crosses 400 times on his show, stoking the flames of unabashed bigotry to his adoring audiences, who usually fall in line with him.

Critical race theory, "don't say gay," "pedophile" and "groomer," and now great replacement are the platform points in the new and dark Republican Party. They cannot win on results. They have none. So they want you to fear what your children are learning. They want you scared to death of anyone who falls under the umbrella of LGBTQ. They want you petrified that your child will be groomed and molested. And they want you in fear of anyone who is not white. These suspicions and terrors are all linked. And it's just going to get worse.

The days of critical race theory, "don't say gay," and "pedophile" and "groomer" seem like much simpler times, and that’s a sickening thing to say. But it’s true. Innocent people, innocent Americans, were murdered this past weekend in Buffalo because one, of perhaps millions, got the message of great replacement theory loud and clear. Will it end there? Horrifically, probably not.

Remember, these sentiments are baked in. They are repeated. They are amplified. They spread. They won’t be undone. It will just get worse until there’s a tipping point, and when that happens … it will be a bloodbath. For God’s sake, please spare us from any more of Youngkin, DeSantis, Stefanik, Carlson, and all the other disciples of hate, bigotry, and carnage.

[Source: John Casey | Advocate Magazine | May 2022]
 

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Homophobic and Transphobic Lies Are Now the Basis for Florida Law

Codifying bigotry and ignorance

"Gays are recruiting kids" and "being transgender is contagious" have become mainstream GOP talking points.  Florida Gov. Ron DeSantis signed what’s become known as the “Don’t Say Gay” bill, thus codifying in state law a prohibition that doesn’t promote the well-being of Florida’s children but instead drags dangerous, homophobic lies back into the mainstream.

  DeSantis and his fellow Republicans insist that the Parental Rights in Education bill, as it is officially known, is all about protecting children from “age inappropriate” material. That includes an explicit ban on teaching about sexual orientation or gender identity to kids in kindergarten through third grade and a softer ban for older students on materials that are “not age appropriate or developmentally appropriate for students in accordance with state standards.”

The legislative text doesn’t define what is appropriate for older students. Nor does it say specifically that kindergarten teachers can’t read books such as “And Tango Makes Three” (which is about two male penguins who raise a chick) to their class. But as we’ve already seen with the vague bans on “critical race theory” that state legislatures have been passing, the vagueness is the point. Legislators have managed to dodge defending strict censorship by simply steering educators and librarians toward self-censorship instead.

In this way, the law is part of a larger crusade against progressive ideologies gilded in the language of “parental rights.” Supporters claim the state is merely stepping in to correct the “indoctrination” that is occurring in public schools against parents’ wishes.

That includes parents like January Littlejohn, who introduced herself as a “licensed mental health counselor and stay-at-home mom” and thanked the governor at the signing ceremony for his focus on this issue. She said she and her husband, Jeffrey, had been cut out of discussions about their child’s gender at their school, which “sent the message that she needed to be protected from us, not by us.”

The Littlejohns sued the Leon County School Board and system administrators in October, alleging they were cut out of meetings with their 13-year-old about their child's gender. But their lawsuit made clear that their child, A.G., had tried to talk to them about being nonbinary and was rebuffed. Littlejohn even told her child’s teacher that “she thought A.G.’s gender confusion was a direct result of her friend group,” in which three other kids came out as transgender, the lawsuit said.

When the school continued to work with A.G. and tried to accommodate them, the Littlejohns threw a fit at being excluded from the school’s meetings with A.G., according to the suit. When they finally were given the chance to attend an interaction between A.G. and school counselors, the Littlejohns instead demanded that all future meetings be canceled, and at a meeting with the superintendent, they seemed to insist that their child actually had caught “rapid onset gender dysphoria” from their friends, the suit showed.

The Littlejohns’ reaction and their rejection of what A.G. told them is why, in similar cases, some school districts have dealt directly with students. Littlejohn and her husband tried to tell their kid (in so many words), “No, you are not allowed to be nonbinary,” but school officials chose to listen to the child. In effect, this lawsuit is mostly about Littlejohn being mad that her child’s feelings were considered over her own. Similar lawsuits are now explicitly authorized under the “Don’t Say Gay” bill’s provisions.

As that case illustrates, at the core of this new law is the toxic belief that there is no such thing as a gay or transgender minor, only adults who “recruit” a child to the gay or transgender “lifestyle.” According to this belief, the agenda behind that encouragement can be ideological (the liberal destruction of American family values) or personal (“grooming” the child to be sexually violated.)

DeSantis’ press secretary, Christina Pushaw, wrote: “The bill that liberals inaccurately call 'Don't Say Gay' would be more accurately described as an Anti-Grooming Bill.” Pushaw followed that mind-bendingly homophobic statement with the claim that if you oppose the bill, “you are probably a groomer or at least you don’t denounce the grooming of 4–8 year old children.”

That’s the kind of hateful language that for an all-too-brief moment seemed to have fallen out of the mainstream of Republican politics. Despite the GOP spending the better part of the 2000s warning that same-sex marriage would force teachers to promote sodomy, today a slim majority of Republicans support same-sex marriage. Many of the party’s leaders have given up on opposing gay rights as a wedge issue and have at least superficially embraced LGBTQ causes.

But the rise of the QAnon conspiracy theory has brought latent fears of pedophilic pederasts back to the forefront of the GOP base’s concerns. Teaching the very existence of LGTBQ people to children is now being framed as step one on the road to child abuse, assault and molestation — and that framing is receiving either minimum pushback from GOP leaders or its active embrace from the party’s demagogues. We saw as much last week in the appalling performance from GOP senators falsely accusing Supreme Court nominee Ketanji Brown Jackson of not being sufficiently tough in child pornography cases.

DeSantis knows that despite the backlash from LGBTQ advocates and companies including Disney, the bill polls well among former President Donald Trump’s voters. It doesn’t matter to him that it spreads the dangerous idea that being gay or being transgender is something that is taught, and, conversely, that if it isn’t taught, it can be stamped out. It doesn’t matter to him that it promotes a debunked lie that gay men rely on actively recruiting children for future predations.

What matters to him is that he gets to be the first governor in the country to endorse this specific wave of bigotry with his signature, hoping it will pay off for him come 2024. He’s counting on parents like Littlejohn to support a presidential run — even if it means more suffering for kids like A.G.

[Source: Hayes Brown | MSNBC Opinion Columnist | March 2022]
 

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Queerness is Universal

Queer people do not conform to arbitrary norms around sex and relationships

“Queer,” before it was associated with the LGBTQ community, meant simply: strange, peculiar, unusual, out of the ordinary. Implicit in this meaning is the fact that most people, in most respects, are not queer. Yet, it is also simultaneously true that most—or arguably all people—have at least one characteristic that deviates from the norm. Being ordinary in most ways is not synonymous with being ordinary in all ways. This means that logically, most, or even all people are, in fact, “queer” in some respect.

Tailors owe their livelihoods to this fact about people. It is rare for off-the-rack clothes to fit anyone perfectly. Most of us are either taller or shorter than average, heavier or thinner, have broader or narrower shoulders, a thicker or thinner neck, longer or shorter arms or legs, etc. Even the rare person who is truly “average” in all of these respects could be left handed (which affects which shirt sleeve is made shorter for a watch). A poetic sensibility might be inclined to see these peculiarities as the stuff of which humanity is made. How boring would life be if we were all the same?

 

Where emotions, passions, and resulting behaviors are involved, our peculiarities are amenable to social pressures. We might feel pressured, for example, to hide our love of country music in the company of urbane critics, or to keep our appreciation for avant-garde hip hop close to our chest in rural Louisiana. This doesn’t mean we love those musical styles any less, only that we might feel inclined to keep these sentiments to ourselves. These quirks are what differentiate us from others and make us ourselves.

This fact is equally true in the arena of sex and relationships. Most people may be heterosexual (or at least mainly so), but likely all differ from the norm in other respects. For example, an individual could be a stay-at-home dad, an enthusiast for BDSM, a polyamorous person, a foot fetishist, part of a couple that chooses to forgo having children, a “chubby chaser,” or even the long-derided “old maid.”

Clearly, LGBTQ people don’t have a monopoly on possessing proclivities outside the norm. In the past, as a term of judgment or derision, “queer” was not reserved exclusively for LGBTQ people. Those with prudish attitudes used it to speak ill of women who enjoyed sex too much, of people who openly had sex before marriage, of married couples who didn’t at least pretend at the practice of monogamy, of interracial couples, of those who practiced all manner of taboo sex acts, etc.
 

The use of the word “queer” to refer explicitly to LGBTQ people has also never been universally accepted by members of the community. Some activists, for example, reject its use, while others advocate for a broader use of the term. In academia, there is an ongoing discussion of whether to use “queer” solely to refer to LGBTQ people or to use it more generally to refer to all people who do not conform to arbitrary norms around sex and relationships.

In the developed world, much progress has been made on the front of LGBTQ rights. Same sex marriage, decriminalization of homosexual sex, and protection from discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity are becoming the norm in liberal democracies. In some places, the legal consequences of stigmas against BDSM or polyamory are more oppressive than those against the LGBTQ community. It is thus simply a fact that some straight people experience more legal discrimination than some LGBTQ people.

In less liberal parts of the world, legal discrimination against certain sexual or romantic practices is still not limited to the LGBTQ community. Sex and relationship practices privately enjoyed by most straight North Americans or West Europeans are outlawed by many of the same illiberal countries that continue to outlaw consensual homosexuality or same sex marriage. Prohibitions against anal and oral sex, extramarital sex, and marriage between different religious, ethnic or socioeconomic groups restrict the freedoms of people of all sexual orientations and gender identities.

It is therefore both ahistorical and reductive for the LGBTQ community to claim absolute ownership over the word “queer.” We are not the only group of people to whom it has been applied derogatorily, there is no universal agreement among activists and academics about to whom the term should be applied today, and we are not the only people impacted negatively by prohibitions related to sex and relationships.

Regardless of our location, we all have the moral imperative to preserve equality under the law. It does us no favors to alienate cis-straight people with a divisive narrative. Our hard won freedoms will be better preserved by telling a story about how everyone, including cis-straight people, benefits from the protection of liberties around sex and relationships. In less liberal parts of the world, too, LGBTQ people have common cause with cis-straight men and women who are similarly oppressed by prohibitions around sex and relationships.

The need to preserve our liberties applies to all people—not just those belonging to the LGBTQ community. Our concerns are personal to us but not morally superior to those of anyone else. Equality under the law is a universal value of Liberalism upon which no one holds a monopoly. Even in the specific domain of rights related to sex and relationships, LGBTQ people aren’t the only ones who know what it is like to be “queer” in one or another respect. For these reasons, it is acceptable, and arguably better rhetorical strategy, to use the word “queer” in a much broader manner—one that returns to the original meaning of the term and celebrates the fact that all people, not just those of the LGBTQ community, benefit from the tolerance of sexual and romantic diversity.

[Source: Rio Veradonir | Queer Majority | December 2021]

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Republicans and Democrats Should Unite to Protect LGBTQ Americans

 
Full non-discrimination protections for LGBTQ people are needed

Many LGBTQ Americans across the country are still facing discrimination because of who they are and/or who they love. In 29 US states, LGBTQ individuals must live every day without any legal protections for their sexual orientation and gender identity - and this is unacceptable.
 

Many Americans have long been fighting to ensure that all their compatriots, regardless of race, religion, sex or any other intrinsic characteristic, have the right to strive and prosper without discrimination. In our country’s nearly 250 years of existence we have come a long way towards achieving this goal, but the fight is far from over.

Today, many LGBTQ Americans across the country are still facing discrimination in many areas, such as healthcare, housing and employment, because of who they are and/or who they love. Current federal laws do not offer comprehensive protections from discrimination to LGBTQ Americans, and only 21 states do so via state laws. As a Republican, and an American woman who happens to be transgender, I want all LGBTQ Americans to enjoy all the rights and protections afforded to other Americans, no matter which part of the country they choose to live in.
 

To achieve this goal, we need protections for LGBTQ Americans, which clearly prohibit discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity to be enshrined in federal law. Such protections can only be passed at the federal level with bipartisan support. While Republicans and Democrats uniting to protect LGBTQ rights may seem unlikely, especially in the highly polarized political environment of today, it is not impossible – or without precedent.

In 1978, when the Briggs Initiative (California Proposition 6) sought to ban gays and lesbians from working in California’s schools through a ballot referendum, prominent Democrats and Republicans joined forces to defeat it. Newly elected Democratic San Francisco city supervisor and LGBTQ activist Harvey Milk, with support from other prominent Democratic activists and officials, swiftly started a grassroots, hard-charging campaign to defeat the initiative, but without Republican support, victory appeared elusive.

As the referendum day neared, an unlikely force entered the fight – former California Governor, and rising Conservative superstar, Ronald Reagan. At the time, Reagan was already working to win the GOP nomination for president in the coming 1980 election, and he had much to lose from joining any “fight for the gays”. However, he realized removing LGBTQ teachers from the Golden State’s schools would harm not only the LGBTQ community and the education system but also the greater society, and decided to bravely take a stance. He penned an op-ed for the Los Angeles Tribune encouraging – mostly Republican – voters to say no to the Briggs initiative.

Just days later, thanks to Milk’s unyielding work, and a high-profile Republican like Reagan’s support, the anti-LGBTQ initiative was defeated. Reagan chose to help people who were unlikely to ever vote for him because he felt lifting other Americans up, whoever they may be, was the right thing (the Republican thing) to do.

Back then, Republicans and Democrats came together to prevent LGBTQ Americans in California from facing further discrimination. Today, we need them to come together once again to help end discrimination against LGBTQ Americans for good. We need new Reagans in our Senate to step forward and help lift LGBTQ Americans up so people like me can have equal protections under our nation’s civil rights laws.

Currently, for example, there are no federal laws that prevent medical professionals from denying LGBTQ individuals care based on who we are or who we love. Moreover, many of us still face significant barriers when we try to access public education, life insurance, nursing homes, car loans, mortgages, rental accommodations, jobs and promotions. In states without any LGBTQ non-discrimination measures, LGBTQ individuals always walk on eggshells, knowing that barbers, hairdressers, mail carriers, garage mechanics, grocery cashiers, bank tellers, plumbers and even government employees can outright deny them services on the basis of their sexual orientation or gender identity.

After I transitioned, I worried whether my usual doctors would continue to keep me or my children as their patient. I worried whether I would be able to hire tradespeople to do necessary repairs in our family home. And a few times we had tradespeople not come back after an estimate because they were “too busy” – though they had no problem taking on new work from non-LGBTQ households we knew.

Passed by a bi-partisan majority in the House of Representatives In February 2021, the Equality Act is a comprehensive federal bill that aims to protect LGBTQ people by prohibiting discrimination on the basis of sex, sexual orientation and gender identity in all areas of their daily life – including housing, public spaces, and access to federal funded programs and services. Currently, the US Senate is considering the bill for a vote and while almost all Democratic Senators support the Equality Act, more Republican support is needed for it to pass the Senate Filibuster threshold of 60 votes.

As an LGBTQ American, I have a vested interest in a comprehensive Civil Rights bill such as the Equality Act passing. However, as a conservative person of faith, I also understand the concerns about the effect such a bill could have on religious liberties. I believe it is not in our nation’s best interest to force religious organizations to choose between following their beliefs or closing their doors. That said, I know that we as a nation can find a practical, moral way for such freedoms to coexist with laws such as the proposed Equality Act. It is imperative that we find a way to codify federal LGBTQ non-discrimination measures with bi-partisan support, because without them many Americans like me cannot live their lives freely and safely in every state.

Fortunately, my experiences as an LGBTQ person in the US have been better than those of many other LGBTQ people living across America – for the pure reason of geography. I live in New Jersey, a state that has full non-discrimination protections for LGBTQ people. This is great for me as long as I do not leave my home state. But once I do leave and head westward to Pennsylvania and beyond, I do not have all the same rights and liberties that non-LGBTQ Americans in those states have. Crossing the border into a different state, for example, may mean that I will have to worry whether a waiter or a shop clerk would refuse me service based on my gender identity.

In 29 US states, LGBTQ individuals must live every day without any legal protections for their sexual orientation and gender identity – and this is unacceptable. Our rights should not and cannot remain dependent on where we happen to be in America. We are all Americans and we should all be treated the same anywhere in our country. Such equality will need bipartisan support and I believe that New Jersey, like California did long ago, can show us the way.

New Jersey’s existing LGBTQ protections were passed into law with votes from both Republican and Democratic legislators and they were signed into law by governors from both parties. One of the proudest moments of my life occurred in 2017, when the state’s Republican governor Chris Christie signed not one, but two bills in one day to protect transgender New Jerseyans. I and many other LGBTQ people reached out to him to explain how these bills would tangibly improve our lives, and Governor Christie listened. We now need Republicans in the Senate to also listen to us and help us expand such protections to every corner of America.

There are some Republican elected officials who are trying to remove rights and liberties from LGBTQ Americans. But I do not believe that they represent our party. I am a lifelong Republican and I have never personally met any Republican who wants our party to be known as the party of discrimination. Thus, Senate Republicans who, like Reagan, truly believe all Americans deserve liberty and equality should step up and show what our party really stands for.

As the 18th-century “Father of Conservatism”, Edmund Burke, said, “Whenever a separation is made between liberty and justice, neither, in my opinion, is safe.” Let’s close the remaining separation between liberty and justice for LGBTQ Americans throughout our nation by passing the Equality Act. To do so will save lives, build a stronger citizenry and help millions of our fellow Americans to achieve their American Dream.
 

[Source: Jennifer Williams | LGBTQ Advocate in the United States | Dec 2021]

Improving the Lives and Rights of LGBTQ People in America
Republicans and Democrats Should Unite to Protect LGBTQ Americans
Protecting the Rights of LGBTQ Individuals
LGBTQ Americans Aren’t Fully Protected From Discrimination in 29 States
MAP: LGBTQ Non-Discrimination Laws
Three-Quarters of Americans Support LGBTQ Non-Discrimination Laws
Conservative Coalition Applauds Bipartisan Support for Federal LGBTQ Nondiscrimination Laws
 

Praying While Gay

You have the answers and the power within

Those struggling with one of life’s challenges often ask clergy and friends for prayers. A relative may be sick; confidence in a job interview is needed, or spiritual support for partners struggling with chemical addiction are among the requests I’ve received.

Prayer can come with a negative connotation because of the “pray away the gay” crusade. Prayer has taken another hit because of the systemic discrimination of LGBTQ folks by organized religion. Yet, prayer and religion remain, for most of the LGBTQ community, a great comfort.

In October 2020, the Williams Institute at the UCLA School of Law released a survey on the “religiosity” of LGBTQ persons. According to the survey, “Nearly half of LGBTQ adults in the US are religious.” This turns out to be about 5.3 million people in the country. Religious LGBTQ folks include Jews, Muslims, Mormons, and Christians of different denominations. Although not a religion, there are many LGBTQ Buddhists. Even though they weren’t a part of the survey, you can also include Wiccans, Pagans, and other religious and spiritual groups.

In one way, prayer doesn’t have anything to do with organized religion. The empowerment of prayer supersedes religion and can be a personal, transcendental experience. Before the establishment of Hinduism, Zoroastrianism, Judaism, and Christianity, among others, humankind had always sought to understand themselves and the world around them in context of the cosmos. Prayer, ritual, and ceremony emerged from ancient times and were codified and formalized by religion.

Religion, as it often does, both facilitated and obstructed one’s relationship with God, Goddess, Creator, Eternal Life, Divine Breath, Giver of Life, or however one attempts to “quantify” and “understand” Infinite Mystery.

Unfortunately, prayer, a gift to connect with the Divine Order, became a type of self-flagellation. “Lord, have mercy, I’m an unworthy sinner. Forgive me.” If you pray negative thoughts, you get a negative result. Prayer became a means of control by re-enforcing how awful you are, and salvation could only be earned by putting your trust in a church or religious official. This is not prayer. This is control using faith and religion.
 

So, what is prayer? It doesn’t belong to any one religion. It predates them all. Prayer is not begging or repentance. You are both part of the Cosmos, Created by the Creator, and yet you go to the Universe as part of its Creation because it is greater than you. Yet, you have the answers and the power within.
 

Prayer is like exercise or healthy eating. You get out of it what you put into it. It requires focus, discipline, and constant attention. It’s not only an opportunity to pray for others, yourself, or a better world, but a time of self-discovery.

Prayer is a tool available to any spiritual being whether atheist, humanist, or persons believing in a higher power. Done in a certain way it helps to rid your mind of negativity. Prayer, however, requires clarity and faith. Be specific about what you want and believe. Ask for what is in harmony with the universe and the Holy Author’s will. Use it for good.

In driving away negativity using prayer whether, by your own making, the social climate, or those around you saying something can’t be done, prayer is empowerment. For millions of religious LGBTQ people, prayer reinforces in a positive way that they belong.

Prayer, among many things, is a means of gratitude and positive re-enforcement, which should be practiced every day. “Thank you, Divine Creator, you made me who I am. You have made me holy. I am blessed to be who I am. I am grateful to be a blessing to others.”

[Source: Paul P. Jesep | Priest | The Rainbow Times | September 2021]

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John Corvino: What is Morally Wrong With Homosexuality?

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Spirit Day: Stand Against All That Marginalizes Queer People

Intersectionality and bullying

“Hi, my name is Darid Prom!”  This was the only phrase I knew how to say when I first immigrated to America. When I was just 10, my family and I left everything behind in Cambodia and moved to start a new life in the United States. Upon arriving, it didn’t take long for me to notice that I was different. Existing intersectionality as a queer Southeast Asian immigrant often left me with no choice but to stood out among my peers. Living authentically unfortunately meant that I would be the target of bullying.

Four years ago, walking through the hallways of my high school, I would get constantly teased for being queer. However, at the time, I didn’t entirely know what it meant to be “queer.”

But since I was constantly getting harassed about it, I figured it must be something bad. That’s when the fear of being queer became rooted into my mind. In my homogenous traditional Asian upbringing, queerness was always such a taboo topic within my family. Not having any background knowledge about the LGBTQ community led me to become shameful of myself and my identity. Being teased, feared, and viewed differently by others caused a growth in self-hatred. This, combined with the lack of support I’ve received from educators, created an atmosphere in school where I was afraid to be authentically myself and express my true identity.

It’s important to recognize that I entered high school with the privilege of having been assigned a binary sex at birth, having passed as a binary gender in school, and holding some privilege under a white supremacist, colonial order operating through a logic of colorism and anti-Blackness. My Asian-American background holds a substance of privilege that has saved my body from the many forms of violence imposed on trans and nonbinary people of color and/or of Indigenous ancestry who live at the intersection of queerphobia, erasure, and white supremacy and ongoing (settler) colonial dispossession. These colonial powers operated through a multifaceted, complex web continue to be embedded into the structure of the present, tasked to perpetually hinder queerness from ever reemerging in the future. This is why it is important that we adopt an intersectional framework as we continue to organize for change.

We need to examine how existing at the intersection of multiple marginalized identities of race, gender, and queerness can position individuals in the matrix of the oppressive layers of discrimination that deleteriously impact the way people exist in society. Until we include this framework, we won’t have a full template from which to build reforms and create an inclusive society that is devoid of the discrimination and violence of the colonial present.

LGBTQ issues are built into the tradition of our society, and as long as we turn a blind eye to the pain of those suffering under its oppression, we will never escape those origins.

This year’s Spirit Day will be a critical moment reflecting our positionality in society as we shine a light on the resilience and power of the diversity of the LGBTQ community. To help take a stand against bullying and show support for LGBTQ youth in schools across the nation, join the Spirit Day movement by visiting GLAAD.org/spiritday, where you can take the Spirit Day pledge and learn more about how you and your community can support LGBTQ youth.

To any LGBTQ youth who are reading this, know that you are valid and are loved by a beautiful community. I hope to shed light on my own intersectional story that is often erased in classrooms, GSAs, and the overall mainstream media. Stories are our greatest learning tool, and through my story, I hope to inspire purposeful conversations around representation, intersectionality, and vulnerability during this year’s Spirit Day.

[Source: Darid Prom | Queer Immigrant from Cambodia | Philadelphia Youth Pride | October 2021]

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GLAAD: Spirit Day

After Pride Month, Let's Make Resolutions to Support Our Community
 

Resolutions will extend our pride past June and make us see how our queerness enhances our daily lives

Pride Month is over. The rainbows in store windows and on garish socks have been cleared. This year, like the others before it, there was a robust debate about the commercialization of Pride (whether it’s a parade or march or both) in fact, each year these tensions are the perfect kickoff to Pride. But I am interested in the time after Pride; what happens when our designated month is over. I am calling for the institution of Pride resolutions. Each year at the end of June, we should all make a pledge to our queerness, a pact with our community, and over the next 12 months in good faith intend to fulfill it. It may be challenging like all those things we promise ourselves on New Year’s — How many new gym memberships go unused by March? How many cigarettes still lit? — but one way to reclaim Pride from the commercialization and frivolity is to turn it toward good for our community and for ourselves.

By making a Pride resolution, we will be expanding and expending our pride beyond just the confines of June, and we will see and feel how much our queerness enhances our lives daily.  Since it is the inauguration of Pride resolutions, here are some examples to choose from or to help spark your own.

I resolve to help fight every heinous anti-LGBTQ bill everywhere (this year over 250 have been introduced in state legislatures).
I resolve to take the first step toward a 12-step program.
I resolve to read LGBTQ journalists so I get news about us from us.
I resolve to shop at LGBTQ-owned and -operated businesses.
I resolve to socialize in LGBTQ spaces.
I resolve to turn from LGBTQ ally to LGBTQ advocate.
I resolve to make one friend outside my own identity.
I resolve to help start a GSA at my school.
I resolve to take care of myself and my partners.
I resolve to bring my queerness to bear on everything I do.
I resolve to start therapy and set aside the shame others have placed upon me.
I resolve to be kind on hookup apps and not treat everyone like they are expendable.
I resolve to not treat myself as expendable.
I resolve to learn LGBTQ history, not as homework, but to understand the long line of extraordinary individuals that I am among.
I resolve to read queer books, watch queer movies, and expose myself to queer artists so I can see myself in the entertainment I consume.

I resolve to ask for help.
I resolve to come out to at least one person if I’m ready.
I resolve to join one LGBTQ service organization.
I resolve to work to get my local schools to teach LGBTQ history.
I resolve to work to get my local schools to teach inclusive sex ed.
I resolve to ask people their pronouns.
I resolve to help more people to learn about PrEP.
I resolve to not let the government or drug companies off the hook on finding a vaccine for HIV.
I resolve to listen to and amplify the voices of our most vulnerable.
I resolve to care for and about our long-term survivors.
I resolve not to minimize or diminish my queerness in order to go along to get along.
I resolve to make LGBTQ issues central to how I choose a candidate.
I resolve to run for office.
I resolve to stop my company’s pinkwashing.
I resolve to raise my LGBTQ child to understand that their queerness is their superpower.
I resolve to understand I am a stakeholder to everything that happens to all LGBTQ people everywhere.
I resolve not to measure myself against images I see online.
I resolve to treat myself kindly.
I resolve to treat others kindly.
I resolve to enjoy sex.
I resolve to try to be intimate.
I resolve to risk my heart and love.
I resolve to allow myself to be loved.

[Source: Richie Jackson | Advocate Magazine | July 2021]

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Why I Don't Celebrate Coming Out Stories

Coming out is not a “one-and-done” deal

For most people, coming out is nothing like it appears in the movies. In the movies, the queer person prepares a monologue for their parents. Sometimes they get up and make an unprompted announcement at a family dinner. Other times they come out by bringing home a date for prom that’s a different gender than the parents expected. Then, once the ritual is over, the character smiles happily and the credits roll. You’re free to imagine a happy life in which they get to live as their true selves. But is this narrative accurate? (No.) And who is this coming out ritual for?

On one hand, it can be extremely liberating to declare yourself in such a direct way to others. But I know a lot of people who are only “out” to some of the people in their life or, despite being out, still must hide aspects of their life from certain family members so as not to disturb the fragile peace.

I am queer and non-binary. So I have to “come out” almost every day. Every time I meet a new person at work or have a conversation with anyone in which pronouns come up, or any time I’m with friends and they introduce me to a new friend. Coming out is not a “one-and-done” deal. (Though, it would be much easier if it were.)

Part of the thing that bothers me about “coming out” stories is that it centers the queer experience on cisgender and/or heterosexual’s people’s permission for us to exist. Using this logic, we are only queer once we have announced to the straight people that we are not straight. It implies that nothing we did or thought or said before coming out was queer because we had not declared ourselves to the majority.

This discourse can lead to a terrifying rabbit hole, especially for trans people. It puts an unnecessary burden on queer and gender non-conforming people to be “overly truthful” or perhaps share more than they might want to with folks in the majority because there is an underlying assumption that queer people have been dishonest about themselves up until the point they came out. And to some extent yes, queer people must emphasize different parts of the truth and sometimes flat-out lie just to exist in peace.

But heterosexual and cisgender people create and reinforce the system that makes any dishonesty necessary, through implicit bias, laws, corporate policies, and religious rules. And frankly, a lot of the queer experience is inherently traumatic. I think queer folks have all realized at one point or another that someone we once trusted was actually homophobic, or that someone we once called a friend would never use our pronouns, or that someone we had previously not thought capable of violence absolutely was. The precariousness of queer life adds to that trauma, and trauma impacts memory and the self. It causes you to compartmentalize yourself to avoid further pain.

I grew up an only child of Southern Baptist conservative parents. Now I’m a queer non-binary atheist that leans left. I knew that I was queer from a young age without really having the words for it. As I got older, I had to repress that part of myself to survive growing up with Christian helicopter parents.

When I was 13, my mom locked me in the car and asked me if I was – from her tone it was clear that I had better not say yes. So, I said no.

When I was 19, I came out to her as bisexual. She cried and said I was a failure and to never tell anyone else because nobody would love me if I did. We didn’t talk about it again.

When I was 27, my parents left the church they helped found over 20 years earlier (that they had been attending my entire life) because the church decided to openly welcome LGBTQ people. The church was later kicked out of the Southern Baptist Convention. (You may have seen this in the news.)

I came out on social media the next day. I was done.

During all of this I didn’t have any heartfelt conversations with anyone else in my family. I don’t really have a good relationship with them anyway, so I just didn’t see the point. They had never really tried to get to know me before, so I didn’t believe they would start now. (They’re also more conservative than my parents).

I now view my identity as something I share with the people that I feel will treat me with respect and would approach the conversation in good faith because they want to learn more about the human experience. Not because I feel this conversation is going to prove to them that queer people exist, that I am one of them, and that I have as much a right to be here as anyone else does. But this also means it hurts more when people who I have told use the wrong pronouns for me and don’t notice.

And I also know that, while coming out did afford me some freedom personally and was important for me to do, it was not “the end” of the conversation. I was queer before I came out. My life as a queer person would have been just as valid whether or not I had ever come out.
 

[Source: Kiwi Lanier | Honey Voices | June 2021]

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Danica Roem to LGBTQ Youth: You Have to Care About Politics

Inspiring activism

It was a moment captured for the history books. Danica Roem, on her knees with her face in her hands, crying. It was 2017 and she had just become the first state lawmaker who identifies as transgender elected in Virginia. She will always be the first, but four years later, she is no longer the only person in the US who identifies as transgender to be elected and serve in a state legislative body. It's not a well populated trail, but one she is proud to have blazed.
 

"They were willing to look at me and they go, 'Yeah, we know she's trans and she'll do a great job,'" Roem said of her constituents in an interview with CNN earlier this month. "I never say 'trans but,' always 'trans and.' Because it's like, no, I don't hide who I am. People know exactly who I am here." And during this Pride Month, Roem has a message to the younger people in the LGBTQ community who say they don't like politics: "When you are an LGBTQ person, you have to care."

Roem represents Virginia's 13th District in the House of Delegates -- an area near the home of the first major battle of the Civil War. Roem jokes that there are still more things named after Confederate general Stonewall Jackson in her county than there are Starbucks locations. She says her success is built on deep knowledge of local issues since she grew up in the Manassas area she now represents. "When I was asked on election night, 'Hey, what does this mean?' It was just like, well, it means that a trans woman is going to finally work on fixing Route 28."
 

Though Roem is a state legislator, her history-making moment means her platform is national. She is well aware that her visibility and representation are changing the national conversation. "What we learned from the marriage equality fights," she explained, is that "if you know a gay person in your life and you see just that person, just being a person, that you (are) far less likely to want to restrict their civil rights." Given that 0.6% of Americans identify as transgender, according to a Gallup poll on LGBTQ identification published earlier this year, she recognizes that for some people, she may be the only trans person they know.

"If you know a trans person, you're much more likely to support our civil rights. But because there are fewer of us, it makes it a harder conversation."

Her path to politics
 

Before her run for office in 2017, Roem spent nine years as a journalist in her community, which she says was her chief qualification for elected office. "What person is going to be more qualified to represent their community than a lifelong resident of that community who spent their career actually covering the public policy issues of the community?'"
She first got invested in politics in 2003, when then-President George W. Bush wanted to limit marriage to heterosexuals. She couldn't ignore what was happening.
 

"I would read the newspaper, I would read USA Today, New York Times," she says. "I would read those every single day, and then I would go online and I would read about politics, two hours a day, seven days a week, every day for years." Though she hadn't yet come out, Roem said she sought to understand what legal mechanisms existed to protect people like her -- and more importantly -- how to fight for them.
 

Across the country today, many states permit a legal strategy known as the gay and trans "panic" defense, which can allow people who are charged with violent crimes against LGBTQ victims to argue that it was the victim's gender identity or sexual orientation that drove them to violence. Earlier this year, at the behest of a teenage constituent who told her it was scary growing up knowing that someone could get away with harming them, Roem introduced a bill to ban the gay and trans panic defense for murder or manslaughter in Virginia.
 

"I realized that that person was living with the same fear in 2020 that I had as a closeted high school freshman in 1998."
It passed the legislature in February, making Virginia the first state in the South and 12th in the country to ban it as a defense of murder or manslaughter. "We're simply saying that a person's mere presence and existence as an LGBTQ person does not constitute a heat of passion defense that negates malice in an attack. In layman's terms, you can't just assault and kill someone just because you feel like it," Roem said.

April Fools' Day
 

Roem was 14 years old when Matthew Shepard was brutally murdered in 1998 in Wyoming for being gay. "I knew damn well who I was at that point, and I was too scared to tell anyone. And then when you see a young gay man in Wyoming being pistol-whipped, bound to a fence post, and left to die in the freezing cold. ... When you see that play out, it's the late nineties and you're in the South and you go, what's happening in Wyoming is not far fetched from what could be happening in Virginia," Roem recalled.
 

Fearing for her own safety and the lack of legal protection, and worried about how her family and friends would react, she waited another 14 years before she decided to transition. "I was at a point at age 28 where I did not want to go into my thirties living a lie. I had pretended to be someone else my entire life by this point. I had known who I was since I was 10 years old."
She was afraid of disappointing people, especially her mom, she said, and struggled to decide how she wanted to tell people. She thought Facebook would be a good place to start, and eventually changed her gender and her name on the platform -- on April Fools' Day.
 

"I figured, okay, if it goes badly, 'April Fools!' If it goes well, I'll let it ride," she explained. "I thought it was the safest day of the year for me to do it because if I just did on like April 2, it would just be like, 'Um, I have questions. What are you trying to tell us?'"
Despite her concerns, she said she felt supported by friends who told her they loved her new look. "And so go figure, that was like the day of my adult life where I was being real. April Fools' Day was the day I was being like, nope. This is actually who I am. And I've let it roll ever since."
 

As a teenager, Roem said she didn't have LGBTQ role models of her own -- she didn't even know any. She saw trans people portrayed in the media, but only in a limited, disheartening, fashion. "Trans representation was whoever was being ridiculed on Jerry Springer," she remembered. "Or 'When we come back on Maury, we're going to have a shocking announcement about this person's really dating a man,' or, you know, like some stupid crap like that." She knows now that she wasn't alone. "Now I know at least five or six people who I went to school with who are out, including same-sex couples who are married now. And it's just the oddly comforting thing about that is like, 'Oh, it wasn't just me who was suffocating,'" Roem said.

Politics cares about you

This year has already become the worst year for anti-LGBTQ legislation in recent history, according to the Human Rights Campaign. As of May, more than 250 anti-LGBTQ bills had been introduced at the state level, with 17 of them signed into law. "When you are an LGBTQ person in the United States, regardless of whether you care about politics, politics cares about you," Roem said.

Her plea is personal, and she hopes her activism will inspire the next generation into action as well. "If you're not involved, if you are not your best advocate, you're asking someone else to fill that void. Some of the people who will try to step up to fill that void are going to be political charlatans who have no interest in preserving your best interest," Roem said. "You can't count on other people to be your best advocate. You have to step up."

[Source: Dana Bash and Abbie Sharpe | CNN | June 2021]

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No God-Given Right to Discriminate Against LGBTQ People

Protecting people from discrimination should not be a partisan issue

Senate Republicans are standing in the way of Congress acting according to the will of the majority of Americans.  A recent PRRI poll found that 83 percent of Americans (which includes strong majorities of Republicans, Democrats, and independents) support nondiscrimination laws that protect gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people from discrimination. Still, there is an obstacle standing in the way of Congress acting according to the will of the majority of Americans and passing a federal law that does just that: the claim by some Republicans and religious groups that LGBTQ rights stand in conflict with religious rights.

US Senator Mitt Romney of Utah is among the Republicans voicing opposition to the House-passed Equality Act, which would extend the current federal law barring discrimination on the basis of race, religion, and other protected categories to also cover sexual orientation and gender identity. Romney cited the lack of “strong religious liberty protections” in the bill’s language as reason for his opposition.

Religious-based groups such as the Southern Baptist Convention raise more hyperbolic alarms, calling the legislation “the most significant threat to religious liberty ever considered in the United States Congress.”  The truth is that few rights in America have more robust protections under the Constitution, as well as federal, state, and local laws, than the right to believe, worship, and express religious views as one wishes. Protecting sincerely held religious beliefs is a pillar of American law, as it should be. Nothing about a law shielding people from bigoted policies and practices stands in the way of that.

In fact, the Equality Act would leave in place an exemption for religious entities that would allow them to, for example, give preference to people of their faith in employment and housing decisions. But it won’t allow religion to be used as a sword to infringe on the protected rights of others — especially when such claims, like the false assertion that the Bible’s story of the curse of Ham justified slavery and racial bigotry, are unfounded.

And that is why the Equality Act’s provision barring the Religious Freedom Restoration Act from being used as a defense for discriminatory conduct (the very provision drawing the ire of Republicans) is so crucial. That statute, passed by Congress and signed into law in 1993 by President Bill Clinton, was meant to protect religious liberties (particularly the rights of religious minorities) and enjoyed broad support at the time of its passage.

But in the nearly two decades since, the law has been stretched far beyond its intended purpose, serving as a basis for actions such as private companies denying spousal benefits to same-sex couples or adoption agencies refusing to consider gay or transgender people as potential parents. With the Equality Act, Congress can make clear it never intended to allow organizations or individuals to claim a God-given right to discriminate. “The government has a compelling interest in enforcing nondiscrimination law, and it’s not over-broad to say you can’t discriminate if discrimination is the problem the law is addressing,” said Jennifer C. Pizer, senior counsel and director of law and policy at the nonprofit advocacy organization Lambda Legal.
 

Even Justice Neil Gorsuch (one of the Supreme Court’s most conservative jurists) noted that there is ample room for LGBTQ protections and religious rights to coexist, in a 6-3 decision last year extending federal employment discrimination protections to including sexual orientation and gender identity. “We are also deeply concerned with preserving the promise of the free exercise of religion enshrined in our Constitution; that guarantee lies at the heart of our pluralistic society,” Gorsuch wrote for the majority. “But worries about how Title VII may intersect with religious liberties are nothing new.” Gorsuch underscored that the existing federal law religious rights exclusion and the First Amendment already provide religious protections.

Laws protecting LGBTQ people from discrimination are already in place in 23 states and the District of Columbia. But that still leaves an estimated nearly 4 million people in America legally unprotected from biased treatment because of their sexual orientation or gender identity. Pizer said a Lambda Legal report released this week detailing more than 4,000 claims of discriminatory conduct based on sexual orientation or gender identity received last year by the organization’s help line makes clear that the need for protections is real. “It reflects the real problems people are having,” Pizer said, from discrimination in the workplace and difficulty obtaining identification documents to being targets of harassment and violence.

But Americans are already on board with granting them protections that they need. As a person of faith, I can only pray that members of the Senate vote to do right by them.

[Source: Kimberly Atkins | Boston Globe | March 2021]

Boston Globe: No God-Given Right to Discriminate Against LGBTQ People

ACLU: End the Use of Religion to Discriminate

Lambda Legal: The Notion of Religious Exemption

HRW: Religious Exemption and Discrimination Against LGBTQ People

Natl LGBTQ Task Force: LGBTQ Discrimination Masquerading as Religious Freedom
 

Transphobic Tirade Against the Equality Act Masquerading as Feminism

The voice of bigotry and ignorance

They say ignorance is bliss. But when it comes to Rep. Marjorie Taylor Greene (R-Ga.), ignorance is hateful and dangerous. The latest example came on Feb. 24 when she took to the House floor to decry the Equality Act.

Through a star-spangled mask, the QAnon congresswoman urged her colleagues to vote against the legislation that would amend the 1964 Civil Rights Act to prohibit discrimination based on sexual orientation or gender identity. It was a five-minute transphobic tirade masquerading as feminism.

“I rise today in defense of women, girls and children,” Greene began. After declaring that there shouldn’t be discrimination in our nation and extolling the rights achieved by women in various aspects of American life, Greene got to her bigoted point.

“The Equality Act will change all of that, because it will put trans rights above women’s rights, above the rights of our daughters, our sisters, our friends, our grandmothers, our aunts. It’s too much,” groused Greene. “You see, as a woman, I have competed in sports and I’m so thrilled I was able to do that, but I competed against biological women.” It went downhill from there, with a lot of folderol about how “biological women cannot compete against biological men” and how “biological little girls cannot compete against biological little boys and they shouldn’t have to.”
 

The offensiveness of this is off the charts. Transgender women are women. Transgender men are men. Period. But we’re talking about Greene, who has shown herself to be a bottomless pit of ugliness. But I digress.

Later that day, after Rep. Marie Newman (D-Ill.) displayed a transgender pride flag outside her office in support of her transgender daughter. Greene, whose office is directly across the hall, responded by putting up a sign with a transphobic message. The next day, the Georgia congresswoman with nothing else to do because she was kicked off her committees dubbed the Equality Act “a completely evil, disgusting, immoral bill.” Talk about projection.

The Equality Act was made to protect me and other LGBTQ Americans from people like Greene, people who are always trying to reduce our lives to bedrooms, bathrooms or locker rooms rather than deal with the complex lives of real people who must endure their hatred.

A lot of people thought the fight for LGBTQ equality was over when the Supreme Court legalized same-sex marriage in 2015. But it wasn’t. And still isn’t. Marriage is legal for same-sex couples in all 50 states. But that couple could lose their respective jobs in 21 states, be denied housing in 27 states, be denied public accommodations in 25 states, and if they or their children are in school or college, their sexual orientation or gender identity could open them to discrimination in their educational pursuits in 31 states.

The Equality Act passed the House on Thursday. With Democrats in control in the Senate, its chances of surviving a filibuster are a tiny bit better. President Biden has promised to sign the bill if it reaches his desk.

LGBTQ Americans deserve equal protection under all the federal laws that secure the safety and dignity of ourselves and our families. Besides, we pay taxes and are part of the sturdy fabric of this nation, from your essential workers to your secretary of transportation.

“There should not be discrimination of anyone in the United States of America, and I fully believe that,” Greene declared in her anti-Equality Act speech. If she really did believe that, she would stop blocking legislation that would give her hollow words the ring of truth.

[Source: Jonathan Capehart | Washington Post | February 2021]

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USA Today: Marjorie Taylor Greene Faces Backlash After Transphobic Attack
 

Rush Limbaugh: Speaking Ill of the Dead

Perpetuating hatred and falsehoods to score ratings points

Why Should I Say Anything Nice About Dead Rush Limbaugh?  We don't recall Limbaugh speaking too kindly of those who died of AIDS complications. So let us return the favor.  You’re supposed to speak kindly about the dead? That’s what my grandmother told me. But she hated Rush Limbaugh as much as I did. So I’m guessing that the rule doesn’t apply now. How can you speak kindly about the dead when the deceased didn’t speak kindly about you?

Rush Limbaugh died, and it’s so easy to pile on. There is probably not one single person, over the course of my life, who I detested more. He never knew me. But I sure as hell knew him. Anyone with a shred of decency reviled the man. I’m not the most decent person in the world. I can admit to that. However, I knew in my heart I was gay, and Limbaugh came about during a time when there was enough humiliation about my sexuality and myself, and all Limbaugh did was pile on during that confusing time, and made me wonder, Why does he hate me so much?

Limbaugh was the biggest and worst windbag of his generation, which is to say that of this generation, Limbaugh was starting to take a backseat to the plethora of hatemongers who raced in behind him, all attempting to be the next Limbaugh. Alex Jones, Sean Hannity, Ann Coulter, Laura Ingraham, the list goes on and on, all striving to vomit out as much hate as Limbaugh did. Limbaugh got sick. With lung cancer. It should have been brain cancer, since his mind was a sieve of slime. And his mind thought I was out of my mind because I was gay. All along, he was the one who was sick. It was never me.

Limbaugh hated me. There’s no question about that, and he’s hated me since he first opened his big mouth to vomit vile venom about “gays,” “homosexuals,” and every conceivable and unacceptable descriptor that was me. He used every word in the vocabulary in his attempt to diminish me. He was verbose and gross and he used his disgusting-ness to hammer away at me, and those like me, as well as women, people of color, even a pre-teen Chelsea Clinton.

Limbaugh loathed me more than I loathed myself, and he loathed anyone like me, and he loathed people like me during the AIDS crisis, when his sickening, repugnant voice screeched abhorrence to anyone sick with the disease.

He did not speak kindly of the dead during that era. I imagine he never had a grandmother or anyone with an ounce of decorum who told him not to speak ill about the deceased. He was the antithesis of truth and honor. The anti-Larry Kramer. Limbaugh lied about the disease, about the supposed decadence, and about the deceased. Souls and lives didn’t matter to Limbaugh, only perpetuating falsehoods to score ratings points. And give him more money to spend on his filthy habits. And he loved to rile up the emerging Christian right, gaining fans during the worst days of the AIDS crisis, like the equally horrific Sen. Jesse Helms and Congressman William Dannemeyer.

Today, Helms and Dannemeyer’s narrow-mindedness and evilness would fit in nicely with the current slate of Senate and House Republicans. That’s why Limbaugh felt so at home during the Trump administration and with the new crop of haters in Congress. Limbaugh was free to push his prejudice, his privilege, and his so-called manhood.

Limbaugh was married four times, so he was of course the arbiter about matrimony. He railed against same-sex marriage. He compared us to pedophiles. Limbaugh said that the movement for marriage equality was akin to a movement to normalize pedophilia. How could any of those four women look at themselves in the mirror every day while they were married to him when he talked the way he did? How could they kiss a mouth so full of shit?

 

His outer ugliness was only outmatched by his inward deplorableness and bloated bigotry. Limbaugh was furious when the Supreme Court affirmed that LGBTQ people were entitled to protection from employment discrimination. He who could not be fired, despite all of the viciousness that emanated from his mouth, despite all the boycotts of advertisers, despite his utter, open revulsion for someone like me. Yet he thinks it’s fine that I can be fired just because of who I love – that’s a word Limbaugh could never speak He only loved money, fame, and himself, just like the evil dictator wannabe he groomed, who now sits in exile in his tacky Florida mansion.

Sorry, Grandma, I can’t speak kindly about someone who detested me so much. I can’t say anything nice about someone whose heart was filled with hate. I can’t think anything but ugly thoughts for someone who thought I was disgusting. I can’t recall anything pleasant about someone who recoiled from decency. I can’t wish the best for his soul when it was filled with nothing but evil. Rush Limbaugh, may he not rest in peace.

[Source: John Casey | Advocate Magazine | February 2021]

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The Inauguration We Can't Enjoy

Celebration tempered with trepidation

This week we’re inaugurating a president who has received a historic number of votes, winning by a staggering seven million. We’re inaugurating a brilliant woman of color as his Vice President. Together, they have assembled the most diverse Administration this nation has ever seen, one that for the first time is beginning to accurately reflect the nation it will serve and represent.

81 million Americans should be able to rejoice in these days, but we cannot. This should be a moment of collective jubilation, but it isn’t. We should all be exhaling now but we aren’t able to. We should be celebrating.  But we can’t do that.

We can’t, because the violence generated by an outgoing president and his complicit party, (who have for the first time in our history refused a peaceful transition of power) is so pervasive and threatening, that our nation’s Capitol is a literal war zone, that state capitols around the nation are boarded up and closing down, that there is razor wire around surrounding the Inauguration, that members of our government are wearing bullet-proof vests.

We can’t revel in the results of a free and fair election, in the Democratic process working, in our shared efforts in this sacred American experiment—because we’re too busy attending to the PTSD of watching a less-than-two-week-old mass assassination attempt by a political party and wondering what horror is coming next. We’ve endured pre-emptive election sabotage and post-election recounts and lawsuits and a failed bloody coup. And still, we aren’t allowed to rest in those many victories.

We can’t enjoy these moments with our friends and our families and our children, because we’re still trying to process a group of politicians helping their rabid base plan and execute a murderous terrorist attack on the Nation’s Capitol in an effort to kidnap and kill members of Congress. All because they’re unhappy that their gerrymandering, voter suppression, and outright corruption didn’t overcome the votes of the people.

Our arriving joy is tempered by seeing a party still inexplicably doubling down in the wake of unfathomable violence, by perpetuating their defeated president’s big lie; knowing it will surely incite more brutality; that it is directly placing public servants, law enforcement officers, and ordinary citizens in harm’s way.

We will not get to have the cathartic, public, unfettered happiness that his supporters had after the 2016 election and on the day of the 2017 Inauguration, because they are not able to consent to that; because they are a people so collectively afflicted with enmity that they cannot allow it. Denying other people’s joy and causing them pain is all they understand and all their president has nurtured in them, and the sole cause they are truly devoted to.

So, this week we will scrape the BidenHarris2020 stickers off our cars to reduce the chance we will be assaulted by a stranger, we will hold our collective breath until the very millisecond the oaths of office are complete, and we will pray that the violence the outgoing president and his sycophantic supporters have trafficked in to this point will not scar this moment further.

Yes, Joe Biden and Kamala Harris will be sworn in and they will take office and begin to course-correct this nation. And yes, in the coming days we will find ourselves slowly breathing again and gradually welcoming normalcy and eventually being surprised by the corporate peace that will come from having human adult leaders with working empathy again. But we will all have been robbed of this singular glorious moment to simply feel lightness again, because the darkness refuses to let us.

This will be a celebration delayed and diluted, and we will have it. We will see the America that can be rising up from the America that is. But the fact that more than 81 million of us have to be terrified of our neighbors right now when we should be simply joyful, is a sad indictment of the people who voted for this defeated fraud and of the nation we have become under him.

[Source: John Pavlovitz | January 2021]

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Good Riddance Donald Trump

Let's make America kind again

"I feel like my jaw unclenched after 4 years," somebody posted on social media.  That's how I feel too.  I imagine a collective sigh of relief from decent people all across the country who are seeing the end of a nightmare and the dawn of a new day.

While I was standing in line, a week earlier, at my polling place, a car drove up. The driver yelled out the window, "How long have you been waiting?"  Someone in line responded, "Four long years!" 

Yes, it has been four long, miserable, stressful, unbelievable years!  For four years, law-abiding American citizens were subjected to a daily barrage of lies, falsehoods, and misinformation.  We played host to the rantings of a mean-spirited, immoral, lawless, depraved sociopath.  We witnessed the shocking behavior of a narcissistic, self-serving, despotic madman. He was corrupt and incompetent and totally lacking in any integrity whatsoever.

For four years, people have been living on the edge, under the rule of a president who seemed to know nothing about governance or leadership, whose poisonous rhetoric sowed discord and division.  His words endorsed hatred and bigotry and gave comfort to white supremacists and a range of hate groups. Under the bully-in-chief, bullies everywhere were empowered to go out and "beat up some fags." Immigrants, Muslims, Asians, Hispanics, Queers, and Trans people were routinely harassed.  African-Americans were once again hearing the n-word tossed about with impunity. The disenfranchised and marginalized folks in this country have never felt more fearful, more insecure, more oppressed.  Just when they thought they'd made some progress, and that America was becoming more accepting and inclusive, suddenly their rights were being threatened. Again.

And now he's leaving.  Good riddance!  He has been fired.  He is a loser!  One meme that made its rounds on-line was the phrase, "Live your life in such a way that the entire planet doesn't dance in the street when you lose your job."  And, yes, people everywhere are in fact rejoicing!  There is a celebratory feeling in the air!  Ding dong, the witch is dead!  Oh happy day!  Joe Biden said, "What we are seeing all over the nation, and in deed across the world, is an outpouring of joy, of hope, and renewed faith in tomorrow, to bring a better day."

As one protest sign exclaimed, "Make America Kind Again!"  After four years, people were getting tired of the constant incivility, the endless hate speech, the incessant bullying. Where was the empathy, the compassion, the kindness?  All we were seeing was a soulless, empty, sad, pathetic, paranoid, petulant man who did nothing but stir up hate.

 

The election of Joe Biden, almost as much as the departure of Donald Trump, signals a restoration of the confidence we have in the integrity of our leaders. It gives us hope that decency and honesty will return, that our country's credibility in the world will be renewed, that the soul of America will be healed.  And perhaps we will feel safe again. 

[Source: Queernet | November 2020]

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Kindness and decency returns to the White House

When we won the freedom to marry for same-sex couples in 2015, we as legal advocates knew that the fight for true liberation, equality, and justice was far from over for the LGBTQ community, especially for our Black, Brown, and trans brothers and sisters. What we did not imagine was that five short years later we would see Justices on the Supreme Court, where we won in Obergefell v. Hodges, denounce the ruling and openly scheme about how to limit and undermine this landmark ruling. It is a well-held principle that once a majority of Justices rule, even if you were a dissenting judge, you accord that ruling respect and honor it as settled law.

This bedrock norm in a democratic society has been trashed and abandoned, as have so many of the critical rules of fair play and free elections in our far too fragile democracy. The rights we've fought so hard to win are imperiled and democracy itself is on life support. The carnage caused and celebrated by the GOP Senate and the Republican party is disgraceful and we have a Presidential Administration that despises the very idea of "Equal Justice Under the Law."

But maybe, just maybe, our long national nightmare is about to be over. As Americans head to the polls today, we have a chance to save our democracy and those fundamental values rights we hold dear by electing Joe Biden and Kamala Harris. Just writing that sentence gives me hope and the ability to imagine a policy agenda marked by humanity, a love for justice, and a belief in the right of every individual to live with full dignity: free from harm, cruelty, and suffering.

Can you imagine? In the years and months since the inauguration of Donald Trump, we have watched with growing horror and shame as he has embodied the very worst of the human character. I will not relay the litany of those characteristics here, there is no need. We have seen them all every day and the harm done to our national reputation and psyche is incalculable.

But it doesn't have to be this way. Today, we can chart a new future and begin the hard work of repairing and rebuilding. Joe Biden and Kamala Harris are the best of us. They are honorable, kind, curious, humble, dedicated, and wicked smart. Together, they embody the qualities we most want to see in ourselves and love in others. Of course, it doesn't hurt that they have clear and doable policy positions on the most urgent needs our nation and our neighbors face. But to just have kindness and decency once again emanating from the White House and to know that we matter to our leaders.

So today, vote. Vote to elect Joe Biden and Kamala Harris our next President and Vice President of the United States. Vote like our lives depend on it — because they do.

[Source: Kate Kendall | Legal Director, Southern Poverty Law Center | November 2020]
 

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Evangelicals Made a Bad Bargain With Trump

Ring-wing Christians have not brought anything distinctively Christian to politics

In public, Donald Trump has spoken in glowing terms about his evangelical supporters, calling them “warriors on the frontiers defending American freedom,” people who are “incredible” and “faithful,” a bulwark against assorted moral evils. But behind the scenes, many of Trump’s comments about religion are marked by cynicism and contempt, according to people who have worked for him. Former aides told me they’ve heard Trump ridicule conservative religious leaders, dismiss various faith groups with cartoonish stereotypes, and deride certain rites and doctrines held sacred by many of the Americans who constitute his base.

Trump “mocks evangelicals behind closed doors,” Republican Senator Ben Sasse recently told his constituents. “Can you believe people believe that bullshit?” Donald Trump said after a 2012 meeting with pastors who laid hands on him, according to Michael Cohen, Trump’s former lawyer and confidant. “Those fucking evangelicals,” the president, smiling and shaking his head, told GOP lawmakers, according to Tim Alberta’s book, American Carnage. Trump believed, Alberta writes, that if he gave them “the policies and the access to authority that they longed for,” then “in return they would stand behind him unwaveringly.”  And so they have.

In judging how each side sees the relationship, let’s start with the president. A man whose lifestyle is more closely aligned with hedonism than with Christianity, Trump clearly sees white evangelicals as a means to an end, people to be used, suckers to be played. He had absolutely no interest in evangelicals before his entry into politics and he will have absolutely no interest in them after his exit. In fact, it’s hard to imagine a person who has less affinity for authentic Christianity (for the teachings of Jesus, from the Sermon on the Mount to the parable of the Good Samaritan) than Donald Trump.

But what about evangelicals? How do they view him? Some have undoubtedly convinced themselves that they have a faith connection with the president, declaring that Trump is everything from a “baby Christian” to a “born-again Christian.” In 2016, James Dobson, a significant figure in the evangelical political world for decades, said, “Trump appears to be tender to things of the Holy Spirit.” Let’s just say Trump has a rather peculiar way of showing such tenderness.

The less gullible or more cynical evangelicals view Trump transactionally. Trump may be using evangelicals to advance his aims, but they are also using Trump to advance their aims. (Many evangelicals have grown enamored with Trump’s relentless attacks and aggression, believing that he is inflicting wounds on those who deserve to be wounded.) The president might not be a model Christian in his personal life, they admit, but he delivers what they want, which is power and influence.

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The transaction, from their perspective, is better than they could have hoped for. Trump has reshaped the federal judiciary, particularly compared with what would have happened if Hillary Clinton had been president, and nothing else Trump has done (no moral line he has crossed, no offense he has committed) can take away from his achievements in this area.

But if politically conservative evangelicals have things they can rightly claim to have won, what has been lost? For starters, by overlooking and excusing the president’s staggering array of personal and public corruptions, Trump’s evangelical supporters have forfeited the right to ever again argue that character counts in America’s political leaders. They might try, but if they do, they will be met with belly laughs. It’s not that their argument is invalidated; it is that because of their glaring hypocrisy, they have sabotaged their credibility in making the argument.

In 1998, during the Bill Clinton–Monica Lewinsky scandal, the Southern Baptist Convention passed a “Resolution on Moral Character of Public Officials,” declaring that it was wrong to “excuse or overlook immoral or illegal conduct by unrepentant public officials so long as economic prosperity prevails,” because “tolerance of serious wrong by leaders sears the conscience of the culture, spawns unrestrained immorality and lawlessness in the society, and surely results in God’s judgment.” It further affirmed that “moral character matters to God and should matter to all citizens, especially God’s people, when choosing public leaders,” and “implored our government leaders to live by the highest standards of morality both in their private actions and in their public duties, and thereby serve as models of moral excellence and character.”  Be it resolved, the document continued, “that we urge all Americans to embrace and act on the conviction that character does count in public office, and to elect those officials and candidates who, although imperfect, demonstrate consistent honesty, moral purity and the highest character.”

It turns out that this resolution, along with the bible verses that accompanied it, cannot have been based on deep scriptural convictions, as it was sold to the world. It has to have been motivated, at least in large part, by partisanship. It’s quite possible, of course, that many of its supporters were blind to just how large a role partisanship and motivated reasoning played in the position they took. But there is simply no other way to explain the massive double standard.

The carefully choreographed dance goes like this: Moral character in public officials matters quite a lot when the public officials who morally fail are Democrats; it matters hardly at all when they are Republicans. If it’s a liberal who has crossed ethical lines, emphasize righteous conduct; if it’s a conservative, emphasize forgiveness and verses like “Judge not lest you be judged.” If it’s Bill Clinton in the dock, savage him; if it’s Donald Trump, savage his critics.

But the problem goes far beyond an inconsistent application of a biblical ethic. What the Trump years have exposed is something more fundamental, which is that many evangelical Christians have not brought anything distinctively Christian to politics.

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One would hope that people of faith would act differently from members of political interest groups; that followers of Jesus would passionately defend human dignity, champion justice, and create the conditions for human flourishing, without being co-opted by any political party or power structure. One might expect that they would care for the weak and the vulnerable, including the unborn and those living in the shadows of society; promote ordered liberty, empathy, and compassion, especially toward those viewed as social outcasts and aliens (one of the most striking features of the ministry of Jesus); and speak out, time and time and time again, if necessary, against political leaders and presidents, including those who advance a political agenda they believe in, if those leaders are cruel, pathologically dishonest, and lawless, and if they dehumanize their enemies. To reduce this to a single sentence: People of faith should embody moral and intellectual integrity.

I’ve argued that the Trump-evangelical alliance has inflicted enormous damage on the Christian witness in America, particularly among Millennials and Gen Z. Unfortunately, the stories keep pouring in. I was recently told by a friend that in 2018 he met with a group of students from a leading evangelical college. He reported that all of them had turned against the term evangelical because of the way evangelicals were engaging in culture and politics during the Trump era. This account reflects what James Astill, a reporter with The Economist, told me three years ago. Astill met with students on the campus of the same school. “Most of them said they were less willing to be identified, by the world at large, as evangelicals,” he told me, “because they were so sickened by the identification of evangelicals with Trump.”

A few weeks ago, a person in Christian ministry told me in pained and poignant terms that he’s been counseling scores of younger evangelicals who are on the edge of leaving their faith and scores more who actually have lost their faith because they have been so unsettled by what they have witnessed during the Trump years.

It’s fine to say to young people that they shouldn’t judge Christianity based on the actions of flawed Christians or the reckless statements and misconduct by those who are in positions of leadership, because the acid test of Christian faith is who Jesus was. But that argument, while valid, goes only so far. Because the truth is that people, certainly outside the faith but also within it, do judge the merits of Christianity on the conduct of Christians and Christian leaders. We are social beings at our core; we find fulfillment and meaning in associating with others. So it’s a real problem if people see a narrative unfold—even if it’s an incomplete narrative, even if it’s one that doesn't fully represent the diverse and nuanced views of tens of millions of evangelicals in America—and their reaction is: Look, I don’t want to be a part of that group. It’s self-righteous, it’s judgmental and ungracious, it’s angry and arrogant, and it’s just not something I want to be a part of.

This doesn’t mean Christians who vote for Donald Trump are committing a mortal or venial sin. It doesn’t mean they don’t have a case that deserves to be heard. It doesn’t mean they don’t have legitimate concerns or that they haven’t been on the receiving end of condescending attacks. And it certainly doesn’t mean Trump supporters can’t be fine people doing wonderful things in different areas of their lives.

But if evangelical supporters of Trump are honest, they should admit (at least to themselves, if not to the rest of the world) that something has gone terribly amiss and that the power they have achieved is coming at the expense of the faith they proclaim. Jerushah Duford, the granddaughter of Billy Graham, said that Trump’s "attempt to hijack our faith for votes, and the evangelical leaders’ silence on his actions and behavior, has presented a picture of what our faith looks like that’s so erroneous, it’s done significant damage to the way people view Jesus.”
 

[Source: Peter Wehner | The Atlantic Magazine | October 2020]

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In Gay We Trust: What Do I Do With This Hate?

Hate blocks joy and clouds judgement

The list of things I am furious about is long: over 200,000 Americans dead from COVID-19, the total disruption of our lives, the ruin of businesses, the cataclysmic unemployment rate, families separated at the border, the all-out war on the LGBTQ community, withdrawal from the Paris Agreement, giving voice and power to white supremacy, erasing the separation of church and state, the lying, undermining science, the consistent reinforcement of the police state, the demise of our democracy, voter suppression, destabilizing our institutions and the vilification of the press. But what I am most furious about is how much hate I find I am capable of. How much hate has grown inside me since 2016 where it never existed before. The haters were them, not me, not us.

I hate Donald Trump.  When I was younger, I wasn’t allowed to even say the word hate. If I told my mother I hated a classmate or teacher, she’d always say, “Hate is a strong word, you don’t hate anyone.” And I really didn’t. Now she hates too, and I hate that.

I hate Mitch McConnell. I hate Kellyanne Conway. I hate William Barr.  What do I do with all this hate I feel? Up until now I have always put my anger into action. I have taken to the streets, marched on Washington, called my representatives, organized. And I will continue to. But who do I give all this hate back to? I don’t want it. It doesn’t serve me. My hate is taking up too much of my time and energy.

I hate the 63 million people who voted for Donald Trump. I hate James Comey. I hate undecided voters.

I have been separated from my elderly parents for going on seven months. I haven’t seen my siblings for that long as well. My older son’s college classes are remote, our 4-year-old wears a mask at school all day and gets his temperature taken before walking into class.
 

I hate Betsy DeVos. I hate Susan Collins.  Hate causes us to be unable to sleep, nor plan for the future. It curtails curiosity. It spoils our fantasies, replacing imagined exultation with more sinister desires. Hate is insidious. It’s a disease that takes over entirely. It changes how we see, instilling in us a willful blindness. It’s bitter, it blocks joy, clouds judgment, and is painful. It literally hurts my body to hate this much.

I hate cis straight white Southern Republican men.  I can feel hate’s opportunistic infections growing in me as well – suspicion and mistrust. Now we start with hate and have to be convinced not to. Even with those with whom we agree, we mistrust them if they don’t agree as fervently or ascribe to the same solutions. Hate makes us constantly loaded for bear.

Our side uses weapons of hate too. We have our own vigilante justice creepily called canceled. Mistakes are no longer recoverable. Now they are the trigger to a public execution. Our hate causes us to be unforgiving. We’ve become bandits. Robbing people of the chance at redemption and robbing ourselves of the epic experience of forgiveness. I don’t want to live in a world devoid of forgiveness and redemption.

   
I hate our country.  If hope is the antidote to despair, what is the antidote to hate? Don’t kid yourself, it isn’t winning an election. Even if hate gets us back into power, we must not, like them, use it as our governing ethos. We see the havoc that wreaked.

Hate’s remedy is faith. I see that my own faith has diminished exponentially to the rise of hate in my heart. I don’t mean religious faith, which too often is perverted to justify animus, but the faith that being good is our purpose in and of itself. I need to restore my faith that there is right from wrong. That truth and facts matter. Faith that our collective good is how we enrich ourselves. Faith that ideas, like currency, are meant to be exchanged. Faith in each other. Faith in common purpose.

We have a lot of work to do to right what is wrong, to fix what’s been broken by a group of people who hate like it’s a cherished fetish. But after four years of this, after 2020 when everything seems to have been ruined, I won’t let them ruin me too. I won’t be left when this is all over with this much hate in my heart.

Hopefully, by using my time and energy to renew my faith I will return to believing as Anne Frank remarkably did, “In spite of everything, I still believe that people are really good at heart.”

[Source: Richie Jackson | Advocate Magazine | September 2020]
 

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50th Anniversary: Open Letter to Young LGBTQ People

Celebrating a legacy of survival and strength

Dear LGBTQ young people!  Welcome to Pride as it began this time 50 years ago — a protest driven by our community speaking out against the impacts of oppression, inequality, and violence. As LGBTQ and HIV advocates, it is our responsibility to link arms with those in Minneapolis and across the country who are speaking out against structural racism and white supremacy. The fights in our streets today are the very spirit and essence of how Pride began.

On June 28, 1970, thousands of LGBTQ people took to the street to mark the anniversary of the Stonewall riots. That first Pride parade was born from protest and anger, a response to violence that disproportionately targeted Black, Brown, and transgender lives.

And throughout the 1980s and 1990s, LGBTQ people rose out of grief and despair and demanded what was needed to save our lives. The strides we have made in fighting the HIV epidemic would not be possible without HIV advocates taking to the streets and screaming their truth to those in power.

Fifty years after the first Christopher Street parade, the Supreme Court this very month finally recognized that our people deserve protection from discrimination at work. We celebrate that ruling.
 

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Yet, we have more fighting still to do to assure our right to survive. Our progress as LGBTQ people and people living with HIV has always depended upon our willingness to put our bodies and livelihoods on the line to stand up to the unjust and discriminatory systems that neglect us. Like the recent monumental Supreme Court decision protecting LGBTQ workers from discrimination, we know that change only comes through struggle.

The structural inequalities and racist systems that led to George Floyd’s death by law enforcement are the same ones that are responsible for the obscenely high death rates from COVID-19 in Black and Brown communities in this country. They are the same systems that have created a disproportionately Black and Brown HIV epidemic in America.

Pride has always been about speaking out for our right to live and to thrive. We see Pride in the thousands of LGBTQ people that have taken to the streets to declare that Black lives matter. We see Pride in creative and virtual ways LGBTQ people are making to stay connected and support each other. We see Pride in every HIV test and prescription for PrEP that will help stop a new case of HIV.

Our community’s Pride and your legacy are not just one of survival but of strength. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s “Let’s Stop HIV Together” campaign rightly focuses on how our connectedness builds the strength we need to survive and thrive. And when one of us is not surviving or thriving our Pride is not complete.

Pride not only celebrates who we are, it lifts up all within our community who are at-risk and that others shun and ignore. Pride is for LGBTQ people who are Black, Indigenous, and people of color; those of us who are neurodivergent, deaf and hard of hearing, blind and visually impaired or living with a physical disability; HIV-positive and HIV-negative, those of us who aromantic and asexual, people of faith, youth and elders ⁠— and so many more of us who live at the intersection of multiple identities — and who want so much to live with Pride. Pride is a celebration of everything that makes us different but also everything that makes us stronger.
 

We take Pride in how we’ve survived, and we take Pride in how we continue to show up and speak out when one of us is under attack. We take Pride in believing we will get through this pandemic together too. We hope you find opportunities to learn from elders and long-term HIV survivors about how we have fought, but also that you teach us about your stories and where you see our future.

Our history is being made by you every day. We see you leading us with our passion and conviction for a world that we couldn’t even imagine when we were your age. And while we set a foundation, you are building a vision of queer liberation that is truly scraping the skies. Some of you have only just graduated high school and are blazing a trail we are humbled and honored to walk with you.

Together we can lean on the strength of our past and on the resilience you bring as we continue fighting against racism, stigma, discrimination, inequality and HIV in these times of COVID-19. Together we will achieve queer liberation for all, to be able to live lives that we deserve, to be our authentic selves with our families of choice. Because this Pride was the first page of the next chapter in our story.

[Source: Rea Carey, Executive Director, National LGBTQ Task Force | Jesse Milan Jr, President & CEO, AIDS United | June 2020]

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Hope, Wish, and Prayer for 2020

Protections for all LGBTQ Americans...

Amid all the darkness, our community could get some very good, and necessary, news

As a previously long-closeted lesbian who has found so much joy in living openly later in life, I know what it feels like to live in fear of harassment and discrimination. As a spiritual person, I’m praying the Supreme Court does the right thing and affirms that all LGBTQ people should be able to work hard and support themselves and their loved ones without fear of harassment or discrimination at work. If the Supreme Court issues a positive ruling for the plaintiffs of the three LGBTQ workplace discrimination cases it heard recently and is currently deliberating, it will be a huge relief for people like me.

When I was growing up in the 1950s and 1960s, my family was not accepting of LGBTQ people. When I heard about gay people, it was in the context of a mean-spirited joke. In high school, I began to realize I liked girls in high school, but I didn’t date at all through college. After college, I came out to my mother as a lesbian. She paid for me to see a counselor who attempted to “fix” me. After two sessions, I refused to keep going to those meetings. I continued to be engaged with a Baptist church into the 1980s, though I still wasn’t out as a lesbian there. Regardless, someone at church identified me as “possibly gay” and I was asked to leave the church.

In 1995, I was ordained while serving at an open and affirming parish in Houston, where I was on staff for 15 years. Finally, this was a spiritual home where I could flourish enough to come out to my extended family and marry the love of my life in the church. I was elated to make our marriage legal in the eyes of the state shortly after the Supreme Court ruled that marriage equality was legal in 2015.

But having the right to marry doesn’t alleviate the overarching injustice that remains. In 30 states across the nation, an LGBTQ person may marry on Sunday, with the blessing of the Church and State, and still be fired on Monday, lose their housing, or be refused services at public places like a hotel or coffee shop, simply because of their sexual orientation and who they love. This more than pains me.

Throughout my life it has been my faith that’s directed self-acceptance. It’s heartbreaking that many churches throughout history have used the Bible and the church as an institution to exclude people of color like me, women in general, and LGBTQ people, from leadership and full acceptance. My understanding is that God’s love and the Golden Rule teach us that we are all equal, and that God expects us to treat each other with mutual love and respect.

To me, nondiscrimination is a simple matter of fairness and equal protection under the law. If I’m paying my taxes, serving my community, and not breaking laws, the law should protect me. Unfortunately, not only is there no federal law that provides explicit nondiscrimination protections, my home state of Michigan like many others also has no express statewide protections against discrimination for LGBTQ people either.

If the states cannot do right by LGBTQ people by passing statewide protections, it becomes paramount that the federal government step in and ensure that all are protected in the workplace, in housing, and in other public places. I fear that if the Supreme Court doesn’t do the right thing, their ruling will be taken by many as a license to increase discrimination against LGBTQ people. We must do all we can to prevent institutional inequality and secure comprehensive protections as quickly as possible. Lets commit to the Golden rule in 2020 and support full protections to all, including LGBTQ people.

[Source: Rev Carolyn J. Mobley Bowie | Metropolitan Community Church | Jan 2020]

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I Loudly Endorse the Equality Act

I stand for family and fairness, without room for discrimination of any kind

The conversation about LGBTQ equality is one of the most important conversations in our country today. Thirty states still lack explicit, comprehensive protections for LGBTQ people from discrimination. And federal protections are at risk of being stripped by the US Supreme Court. No one should have to live in fear of discrimination or humiliation simply because of who they are, and that includes our LGBTQ neighbors.

That’s why I’m proud to join the national Mayors Against LGBTQ Discrimination coalition alongside more than 350 other mayors from all 50 states who share the same values as me, reflecting the nearly 69 percent of Americans from all walks of life who favor LGBTQ nondiscrimination laws.

As mayors, we’re obliged to do our part to build understanding within ourselves, among our constituents, and in solidarity with other elected officials about the harms of treating people differently for being LGBTQ. Keeping our communities welcoming is a core part of our jobs. The motto of my city Norman, Oklahoma, is “Building an Inclusive Community,” and our attitude as well as our ordinances should reflect that spirit. We need to take care of all our residents and ensure that they can earn a living, provide shelter for their families, and safely go about their daily lives, with no exceptions.

As an Oklahoman, I know my state and residents stand for family and fairness, without room for discrimination of any kind: the real Oklahoma standard. I’m proud that this past summer, the Norman city council enacted our state’s first LGBTQ nondiscrimination ordinance to update our existing civil rights law and ensure that none of our residents can be fired, denied housing, or turned away from a business for being LGBTQ.

That step was a long time coming. Twenty states and more than 250 cities already have similar laws prohibiting LGBTQ discrimination, many of which have been in place for decades without any negative consequence. And nearly 90 percent of Fortune 500 companies have LGBTQ-inclusive nondiscrimination policies. Being inclusive and treating LGBTQ people fairly is not only the right thing to do — it’s essential for our economy’s bottom line and to build the strongest communities possible.

Standing with LGBTQ people is more important now than ever. Oral arguments just took place in October in three cases currently pending before the US Supreme Court that ask the core question of whether our nation’s civil rights laws include LGBTQ people. In each case, workers were fired for being gay or transgender. With a ruling expected in the next few months, the Supreme Court has the opportunity for the first time to affirm that all of us (including LGBTQ workers) should be treated with dignity and respect. Dozens of lower courts and federal agencies have already agreed that Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964, which prohibits sex discrimination, includes LGBTQ people.

But no matter how the Supreme Court rules, our work continues. The best way to ensure lasting protections that cannot be overturned by a court or newly elected legislature is to pass federal legislation like the Equality Act, which would prohibit discrimination against women and LGBTQ people in virtually every area of life. Until that happens, Norman will lead in Oklahoma with ordinances and protections of our own.

LGBTQ nondiscrimination laws are fueled by a basic promise all Americans make to treat each other the way we want to be treated. We can all agree that anyone who works hard, meets their responsibilities, and does the right thing shouldn’t have to worry about discrimination. Basic fairness shouldn't depend on which company a person works at or in what zip code they live. I hope the growing majority of Americans who agree will urge their lawmakers and local officials to correct this wrong.

While I might have a bias, I believe local government is the most important level of government, because it directly impacts residents in their everyday lives and can affect change much faster than state or federal government. I urge you to get engaged. Know your locally elected officials, visit your City Hall, and apply to serve on a local board or commission. We don’t have to wait on higher levels of government to make a difference in the lives of our family, friends, and neighbors. Join us in strengthening our nation by participating in the foundational level of our democracy: the American city.

[Source: Breea Clark | Mayor of Norman, Oklahoma | Jan 2020]

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2020 Election Will Be Most Important to LGBTQ Citizens

There is no greater opportunity to make change

For lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer (LGBTQ) people and our allies, the 2020 presidential election will be the most important election of our lives. Over the last two years, the Trump administration has rescinded key protections for transgender students, appointed two new anti-equality justices to the US Supreme Court, banned transgender troops from serving openly in the military, and repeatedly pushed policies that would open the door to discrimination against LGBTQ people in healthcare, housing, public accommodations and other aspects of life under the guise of "religious liberty."

Despite campaigning on a promise to be a "real friend" to the LGBTQ community, Donald Trump designated Mike Pence (who has previously called homosexuality "a choice") as his vice president. And Trump has been outspoken about his opposition to bipartisan federal civil rights legislation (the Equality Act) which overwhelmingly passed through the US House of Representatives this year and, if signed into law, would prohibit discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity.
 

The 2020 presidential election will determine whether the Trump administration's attacks on LGBTQ rights are allowed to continue -- or whether we begin the work of restoring our democracy. And while the stakes couldn't be higher, for LGBTQ people in particular, there also could not be a greater opportunity to make change.

Over the past several election cycles, LGBTQ people and our allies have been exerting more and more political power -- dramatically altering the political landscape.  Today, there are 11 million LGBTQ voters estimated nationwide who will play a decisive role in the upcoming elections. We have also identified 57 million "Equality Voters" -- friends, family members and other allies who prioritize LGBTQ-inclusive policies when deciding which candidates to support.

In fact, Equality Voters accounted for 29% of the electorate in 2018, making it one of the most substantial voting blocs in the election. Turnout among Equality Voters increased from 36% in the 2014 midterm elections to 56 percent in 2018. This trend is only expected to continue in 2020.  LGBTQ people and our allies played a key role in pushing candidates over the finish line in dozens of races with groundbreaking consequences.

Specifically, Equality Voters helped protect the Senate's first out LGBTQ member, Tammy Baldwin in Wisconsin, and elect another out member, Senator Kyrsten Sinema in Arizona. Equality Voters helped elect and re-elect governors who are working to enact critical non-discrimination protections, outlawing the dangerous and abusive practice of so-called "conversion therapy," and acting as a powerful backstop against anti-LGBTQ state legislation. And Equality Voters helped restore a pro-equality majority in the House of Representatives that passed the Equality Act.

This is part of a growing trend. In 2016, LGBTQ voters and our allies helped oust former North Carolina Governor Pat McCrory after he signed into law a draconian anti-LGBTQ bill known as HB2. According to a CNN exit poll, 65% of 2016 North Carolina voters opposed the law. During Alabama's special election in 2017, the coalition built by groups like the Human Rights Campaign and the NAACP played a role in defeating anti-LGBTQ zealot Roy Moore and electing Doug Jones to the US Senate.

With so much at stake in 2020, we are eager to hear how these candidates will fight for full federal equality, defend the fundamental rights of LGBTQ people and protect the most vulnerable (both here and around the globe) from stigma, institutional inequality, discrimination and violence. But at its core, the participation of these top-tier candidates and the platform provided by a major cable news network underscore the importance of LGBTQ issues and the power of our votes.

Fifty years ago, when the first brick was thrown at Stonewall and the modern LGBTQ-rights movement was born, few could have imagined ten candidates for president competing for the support of the LGBTQ community. But as recent years have shown, increasing support for equality means our movement is no longer limited to organizing and mobilizing self-identified LGBTQ people. The rising Equality Vote has the potential to put LGBTQ issues at the center of electoral decision-making and activism -- both in 2020 and beyond.

[Source: Alphonso David | HRC President | CNN | Oct 2019]

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What I've Learned From Being a Gay Dad

Love is love

The desire to parent is universal, just ask the penguins. A couple of male penguins in the Berlin Zoo, Ping and Skip, have come together to have a child. In the process of adopting an egg, Ping and Skip have evolved. Where they were more outgoing and easier to approach, they have taken the job of trying to hatch an egg, as any parent would, quite seriously. This is a wonderful story, not just because it makes us feel good, but because it reinforces the universal desire to have children regardless of sex, gender identity, or even species.

Similar to most gay men I struggled with the coming out process. I strongly desired to be a parent. And as a fertility doctor I knew this was possible. What was enlightening was after we had our first child is that in the eyes of my community, I went from being a gay man or gay professional to being a parent just like most of my straight friends.  And remarkably, with this transition nobody seemed to really care who I slept with.

I share this personal aspect of my life to offer perspective to LGBTQ people who want to be parents. Once you have a family you will have this common bond with the vast majority of our population and something they can relate to — having children. You are no longer someone living this “special” lifestyle, you are a parent on a shared journey. And there is so much more to talk about: diapers, bottles, runny noses, strollers.

For whatever reason in our Judeo-Christian Western society, somebody’s sexuality has become in many ways more significant than the good work they do or the job they have. However, parenting is the one and only job that has no prerequisites, is held by the majority of the population, requires no training or oversight, and is very relatable to everyone who holds it. It is also the only job you can’t be fired from.

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Because all that is necessary to be a parent is to provide unconditional love. Whether you are straight, gay or any other identity under our rainbow, you have the ability to have children and do not need to stress over whether or not your family will be different. All you have to do is love your children unconditionally.

My parenting journey brought me very much out of the closet — I had to be proud of my family because I want them to be proud of our family. It wasn’t about me anymore. The reality is that 5-7% of patients identify as LGBTQ, and there may be a greater likelihood that your child might be LGBTQ because you are. Therefore, you need to be proud of who you are and who your family is, establish and maintain this foundation unconditionally.

As a parent who lives in suburbia, I’ve learned that there are plenty of straight couples that have their own parenting struggles--be that simply getting along with a spouse, or the everyday tribulations of raising children and the havoc that wreaks on any relationship.

From 20 years of being an infertility doctor, I know that 1 out of 6 couples struggle to become parents. So while the struggle for parenthood among the gay population is different, it is not unique. The desire to be a parent is common for most humans, and while everyone struggles, I support everyone who wants to be a parent and will work tirelessly to get them there.

The message I impart to my LGBTQ friends and all patients is simply this: anyone can be a parent if they wish to, and while the journey may be a nuanced for someone in the LGBTQ community, the end result is the same. Love is love, and if it is what you want, take the plunge to parenthood.

[Source: Dr. Mark Leondires | Medical Director | Advocate Magazine | Oct 2019]

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Why Are We Still Failing LGBTQ Students?

Stopping bullying is not enough

This past Pride Month, like most in recent history, saw a growing number of signs with phrases like “Pride is still a riot,” and “Black queer lives matter.” A critical and timely effort to refocus the movement on its origins and those in the community who are most marginalized, these signs represent a broader reminder: Pride isn’t just a party. It’s also a time to call attention to efforts toward improving queer and trans lives. While we see many of these efforts displayed prominently at Pride (efforts around healthcare, legal support, social and financial services) one area we still don’t often see addressed is education.

Though more and more schools are implementing anti-bullying laws and gender neutral bathrooms, there’s still a long way to go. As Michael Sadowski says in his book Safety is Not Enough, we need to go beyond making schools simply safe for queer and trans kids, and start working to transform them into learning spaces that validate and engage them, personally and intellectually.

Just last month, a story from Boulder, Colorado told us about a local public school teacher named Chris Segal who has seen at least three queer or trans students in his school who dropped out after being bullied. Chris realized that safety should not be the endgame when it comes to supporting queer kids. He includes queer authors in his curriculum, but even he wants teachers like himself to be able to do more to create an inclusive environment for LGBTQ students.

So what exactly does an “inclusive environment” look like? Quite simply, it’s a learning environment in which every student is engaged in and relates to the content. It’s instructional materials, as Rudine Sims Bishop describes, that both gives students a window into lives and experiences different from their own, and holds up a mirror so they can see themselves reflected. It’s an environment in which the teacher understands the learning contexts of their students and leverages unique parts of their identities as tools for learning. We know that students learn better when they feel validated and challenged by what they’re learning. And yet, many preK-12 schools continue to teach about a very narrow set of lived experiences — one to which fewer and fewer students can relate.

Like Chris, many teachers have the will, but not the way, to teach queer-inclusive content. With so many teaching standards to meet, little time or funding, and no inclusive teacher professional development, most educators don’t know where to start. Even with great teaching resources from GLSEN, Teaching Tolerance, and others, the real problem is that many educators don’t know where to find them, how to implement them, or how and when to share them.

Particularly for teachers who are not queer themselves or have not before engaged with topics of sexual and gender minorities, talking about these topics with students can be a formidable challenge, even with a how-to guide. What’s worse is that many districts including those in the handful of states in which it is still illegal to mention LGBTQ identities in the classroom, are far from the point of even attempting to prioritize queer students.

So what do we do? In states and districts like this and beyond, it will take difficult, ongoing conversations between schools and those advocating for inclusion to frame inclusive curricula as a feasible goal. It will take careful articulation of what anti-racist queer inclusivity is, why it matters for all students, and what the ramifications are of not creating inclusive classrooms. It may even take more robust data on the outcomes of these types of materials on student social-emotional learning, engagement, and test scores. This type of data, particularly on queer K-12 students, is as severely lacking as it is desperately needed. Though storytelling has historically been and remains a cornerstone of the queer community, it may not be enough to sell this idea to those resisting it.

At the same time, intentional LGBTQ inclusion will require tearing down the misconceptions around what it means to support queer students. It requires empowering teachers to approach their lessons with language awareness and self-respect, not inappropriate conversation and indoctrination as some believe. There is much that can be done in classrooms to support queer students outside teaching about the gay civil rights movement. School leaders, educators, and students can be intentionally inclusive in everyday interactions, and promoting this in the classroom benefits all students. To get existing resources into the hands of teachers who are willing and prepared to use them, we ought to talk to districts and school leaders, and promote collaboration between students and experts in the community.

Pride month or not, inclusive learning environments should be a priority among the community and our allies. There is both a will and a way for supporting queer students, and connecting them is our challenge.

[Source: Sabia Prescott | Education Activist | Advocate Magazine | Sept 2019]

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More Than Sexuality
 

Attraction versus affection

Do you have an "affectional preference" for female companionship?  Hey, world, big news! Gay people are more than our sexuality. It can be downright annoying to be defined by one part of our humanity.

I may live in rural America, but I am not a walking, talking letter “Q” for queer. Not an advertisement for a lifestyle. Not a representation of what-dykes-look-like. Not an object of study or fascination. Not a target of foul words, flung mud, or physical violence.

I am a lover of women, but that encompasses a heck of a lot more than sexual expression. When I was younger even I didn’t know that was true. I didn’t know I could love a woman friend without intimate touch. I believed the homo-hating hype that coming out made me one-dimensional.

Today, we can see photos of people like us who are unencumbered by stereotypes. We watch gay people become champion athletes, TV and film and theater stars, heads of corporations, politicians. I like to think all our efforts have helped to provide solid groundwork for gay lives to be fulfilling.

It is time to look at how language continues to be one of our stumbling blocks. Change is already happening. Little by little a majority of Americans are becoming respectful of gay people, are realizing they need not focus conversation on gay matters. They are finding out that we are not threats and that we have more in common with them than not.

Both gays and non-gays need new language for the concept that we are the family next door, the gal who pumps gas, the transgender head of the corporation. We need to move beyond words that mark us in a solely sexual way.

I’ve been using the phrase affectional preference. While I enjoy the company of some men, mostly gay men, my closest friends and family are women. If I’m going out somewhere, I go with women. If I join an organization, it’s more likely to be woman-centered than co-ed. If I exercise or swim, I like to do so in the company of women. I do business with women, preferably gay. There is no sexual component in any of those activities. Why am I the only one with a sexual label in a room full of non-gay women who’ve gathered for lunch? I have affection for these women, not attraction to them.

In my marriage, of course there is the kind of intimacy that scares straight boys. Or just sitting in our living room discussing our day and reading. Or cooking dinner and doing the dishes. We might even be doing the laundry, cleaning the toilets, filling the bird feeders. So call us bird lovers, cooks, readers. Our passion for birds and books have nothing to do with sexual preferences. We simply like to share everyday life together as two loving women.

Let’s stop sexualizing ourselves and come up with words that reflect the greater percentage of our days and ourselves—if we have to be labeled at all. Please note, it’s not the sex itself I want to eliminate, it’s the restrictive branding.

[Source: Lee Lynch | Epochalips | Sept 2019]

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Old Lesbians Give Advice to Young Lesbians

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Pride 2019 Was Historic, Revelatory, Unforgettable

Resoundingly reassuring

Pride 2019 saw the confluence of three significant signposts that placed sensational snapshots of the LGBTQ community at the epicenter of pop-culture and headline news. Culturally, trendy Mashable posted a roaring review for season two of Pose calling it a “joyful celebration of life.” Politically, The Washington Post cited Pete Buttigieg as a winner of the first Democratic presidential debate because of his “humility” and the fact he offered “bold ideas that emphasize realism.” Societally, ABC became the first US network to broadcast World Pride. A wonderous, consequential month of three vignettes that flaunted, flashed and floated gratitude and hope.

I came of age during the era of Pose, graduating from college in the late ‘80s, psychologically and medically petrified of my sexuality, making a secret pact to kill myself if an AIDS diagnosis occurred. How downright cowardly. To watch Pose is to see the beauty and frailties of life, and how to push through it, to be yourself, to survive, to fathom a future, to be honorably happy and live loud. It’s astonishingly heroic. And to have this revolutionary television show come of age in late June of 2019, during the 50-year anniversary of Stonewall, and to critical and cultural acclaim? Monumental!

Politically, two other powerhouses The New York Times and USA Today also pronounced Buttigieg a winner of the Democratic debates. That is not an easy feat, by any measure, regardless of who you are. To be in politics is to be judged. Rarely glowingly. Sometimes harshly. Occasionally offensively. Surprisingly revealingly. All by your constituency of critics.

It takes an enormity of courage for anyone, be it a congressman or otherwise, to gather the steel and stand before a crowd. The audience may clap and agree with your policies and prose, but they are looking at and through you. Mayor Pete must feel this continually. He must be constantly reminded of the fact that to many, he is an anomaly, a first, a curiosity, a revelation, and to some, unfortunately, a revulsion. Watching the flash of Mayor Pete brilliantly perform in front of a primary debate record audience of 18 million television viewers last week (a record!), and be declared a winner by major media outlets, was a seminal moment for the LGBTQ community.

Which brings us to the ultimate LGBTQ watershed societal breakpoint, the Stonewall Riots of 1969, and the unforgettable 50th anniversary celebration this past month. In 1994, my first year in New York, Mayor Giuliani participated in what was known as the NYC pride march, and I didn’t. It was one of his better days, and certainly one of my worst. I was still desperately fearful of AIDS, still scared beyond pale to come out, and frightened I’d see someone who knew me. But I was paying attention, because any validation of gay acceptance was quietly reassuring. Thus, I don’t remember any corporate sponsors, any rainbow flags (outside of the West Village), and certainly wasn’t aware of any major celebrities attending. I still felt like an outlier.

Well, 25 years later, it’s a divergently different world. Last week preceding the main event, you couldn’t walk one block in Manhattan without seeing gay flags blossoming. Times Square, and corporate buildings, bars, banks, bodegas, boutiques, bistros, and billboards, all were lit up in radiantly brilliant rainbows. Add to that the luster of luminaries lending their love. It was resoundingly reassuring.

Then, there was the record crowd of millions who showed up for the gallantry gorgeous, colossally colorful World Pride Parade, with floats and flamboyance that stretched endlessly through Manhattan for hours. And the Grand Marshals? Arguably the hottest A-listers of the moment, the cast of Pose. Proof of the pageantry’s platitudes? Scores of headline news stories. Just do a Google search! 152 million results and counting. The day truly capped, and put a begotten bow, on a week that was nothing short of historic and revelatory.

And maybe the revelation derived from each of the reported events is that we need to be ever so grateful for all the lessons of the past and confident in all that is to come. During coverage of the parade, ABC’s Sam Champion remarked that to a person, everyone he encountered talked about gratitude. Mindful, thankful and hopeful to all those who fought and who fight, who marched and who pride, who hid and who advance, who changed and who shift, who joyed and who delight, who endured and who sustain, who died and who live, who couldn’t and who do, who fell and who rise, who suffered and who flourish, who tried and who triumph, who existed and who continue to be.

[Source: John Casey | Advocate | July 2019]

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PBS News: 50th Anniversary of Stonewall Riots

Pete Buttigieg: Unlikely Unprecedented Presidential Campaign

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Advocate Mag: Champions of Pride 2019

Pete Buttigieg to be First Gay Candidate in Presidential Debates

Pride Month 2019

We Stand United: World Pride Song

Tolerance Survey by GLAAD

Amid a rise in inflammatory rhetoric and dozens of policy setbacks

The young are regarded as the most tolerant generation. That's why results of this LGBTQ survey are "alarming."  Young people are growing less tolerant of LGBTQ individuals, a jarring turn for a generation traditionally considered embracing and open, a recent survey shows. The number of Americans 18 to 34 who are comfortable interacting with LGBTQ people slipped from 53% in 2017 to 45% in 2018 – the only age group to show a decline, according to the annual Accelerating Acceptance report. And that is down from 63% in 2016. Driving the dilution of acceptance are young women whose overall comfort levels plunged from 64% in 2017 to 52% in 2018, says the survey conducted by The Harris Poll on behalf of LGBTQ advocacy group GLAAD.

“We count on the narrative that young people are more progressive and tolerant,” John Gerzema, CEO of The Harris Poll, told USA Today. “These numbers are very alarming and signal a looming social crisis in discrimination.”

Among the findings:
--36% of young people said they were uncomfortable learning a family member was LGBTQ, compared with 29% in 2017
--34% were uncomfortable learning their doctor was LGBTQ vs. 27% a year earlier
--39% were uncomfortable learning their child had a school lesson on LGBTQ history vs. 30% in 2017

The negative shift for the young is surprising, said Sarah Kate Ellis, GLAAD president and CEO. When GLAAD delved into the numbers, the group found that the younger generation was coming in contact with more LBGTQ people, particularly individuals who are non-binary and don’t identify simply as lesbian or gay. “This newness they are experiencing could be leading to this erosion. It’s a newness that takes time for people to understand. Our job is to educate about non-conformity,” she said.

The survey results come during Pride 2019 and on the eve of the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall riots, which sparked the LGBTQ rights movement. They also land at a dark hour politically and culturally for the LGBTQ community amid a rise in inflammatory rhetoric and dozens of policy setbacks, such as a ban on transgender people in the military and religious exemption laws that can lead to discrimination, Ellis and Gerzema said. Both are a likely force behind the young's pushback on tolerance, they said.

USA Today: LGBTQ Tolerance Survey by GLAAD

Graph: GLAAD Tolerance Survey

Center for American Progress: Widespread LGBTQ Discrimination

USA Today: Review of LGBTQ Equality Over the Past Decade

Battles the LGBTQ Community is Still Fighting

Human Rights Watch: Anti-LGBTQ Laws Around the World

A new survey out during Pride 2019 shows young people have grown less accepting of LGBTQ individuals. The young are bombarded by hate speech on social platforms from viral videos to “mean tweets,” Gerzema said. “Our toxic culture is enveloping young people. It instills fear, alienation, but also permissibility” that could sway “impressionable" young minds on what is acceptable. And there is a more menacing side, Ellis said. “We are seeing a stark increase in violence in the community.” GLAAD has documented more than 40 incidents of LGBTQ hate violence since January 1.

Two recent high-profile incidents: In June 2019, a young gay couple were assaulted outside a popular strip of bars in Washington, DC, in what police are investigating as a hate crime. A few weeks earlier, a Detroit man was charged in a triple homicide in which two gay men and one transgender woman were deliberately targeted, police say. The FBI released statistics in November showing a 17% increase in overall hate crimes in 2017. Of 7,175 reported crimes, more than 1,200 were based on sexual orientation or gender identity bias.

The transgender community has been especially hard hit. In 2018, there were at least 26 deaths of transgender individuals in the US because of violence, mostly black transgender women, according to the Human Rights Campaign, which has tracked 10 deaths so far this year. The situation is so grim that the American Medical Association warned this month of “an epidemic of violence” against transgender people, particularly those of color.

 

The increase in violence and discrimination mirrors the trajectory of the acceptance survey. The report, first commissioned in 2014, reflected positive momentum from historic gains for LGBTQ rights (such as the same-sex marriage ruling) in its first three years. But that shifted in 2017 with fallout from the presidential election, advocates say.

Still, there is cause for optimism this year, Ellis said. Nearly half of all non-LGBTQ adults, or 49%, are classified in the survey as “allies” with high levels of tolerance. That is the same number as 2017, and “that is a big deal,” she said. Support for equal rights is also stable, with eight out of 10 backing equality for LGBTQ people for the third consecutive year.

Ellis is confident the younger generation can rise again as beacons of unbiased values. When numbers dipped a year ago for young males, GLAAD went to where male audiences consume content: video games. The advocacy group worked with the industry to introduce diverse characters and help shape attitudes. The group has similar outreach plans for targeting young women in a popular female venue, country music concerts, she said. It’s crucial LGBTQ advocates stay vigilant, Gerzema said. “In this toxic age, tolerance (even among youths) now seems to be parsed out. Nothing today should be taken for granted.”

[Source: Susan Miller | USA Today | June 2019]
 

USA Today: LGBTQ Tolerance Survey by GLAAD

Graph: GLAAD Tolerance Survey

Center for American Progress: Widespread LGBTQ Discrimination

USA Today: Review of LGBTQ Equality Over the Past Decade

Battles the LGBTQ Community is Still Fighting

Human Rights Watch: Anti-LGBTQ Laws Around the World

Trans Deaths Are Real Deaths

Transgender Day of Remembrance

Trans deaths are real deaths.  It's time America realized that simple truth.  God works through other people.  Maybe you can be those other people.

In a suburb just outside of Dallas, a transgender mural is being painted on the side of a tattoo and piercing shop. The mural commemorates the 50th anniversary of Stonewall, displaying an image of our foresisters Marsha P. Johnson and Sylvia Rivera. They are the catalysts of our 1969-to-present day LGBTQ movement. Their images are against the backdrop of the colors of the transgender pride flag.

Brian Kenny, the muralist behind the painting, explained, “This mural represents the trans women of color who were key figures in that riot and also key figures in the start of the queer liberation movement. This mural is to honor them and to give more visibility, love, and attention to the transgender community. I wanted this mural to be a positive reinforcement that we are all a human family. We have a lot more in common than our differences. I’m hoping the mural can be a bridge.”

For the 50th anniversary of Stonewall I hope more images of Johnson and Rivera will be on display. I hope as they will be honored in LGBTQ communities across the country this Pride season and Americans learn of the difficult day-to-day struggle it took them to stay alive. I hope we all will do more to stem the violence faced by our transgender community – especially our black and Latinx sisters of color.

In one week, during May 2019, three transgender women of African descent were murdered – Michelle Washington, 40, Claire Legato, 21, and Muhlaysia Booker, 23. As I draw attention to these sisters, several others have been murdered have also been killed this year, and, sadly, many more will be murdered after. Washington was found dead with gunshot wounds to her head, body, and buttocks.

“It’s time that we say this is happening to transwomen; it’s happening to black transwomen, it’s happening to transwomen of color.” Deja Lynn Alvarez, a candidate for Philadelphia City Council, told Philly Gay News.

Legato was shot in the head after an argument erupted between her mother and the shooter. Her community in Cleveland took to social media to express their grief and outrage.  “Love you, cousin,” wrote a friend on Facebook. “I’m hurt, sad, angry all in one. Fly high.”

Booker was found shot dead on a quiet street in Dallas. In April 2019, Booker was beaten by a crowd that shouted “ That’s what your faggot ass gets,” “Get that faggot out of our hood,” and “Shoot that punk ass.” The mob scene was caught on cell phone footage that went viral on social media.

Texas’s black trans female community has been subject to a steady stream of assaults since gentrification evicted them out of city’s once LGBTQ neighborhood. Like Booker, they congregate on a strip on the outskirts of town, and many engage in transactional sex work to survive. Texas’s hate crime laws include sexual orientation but not gender identity, which makes Kenny’s mural a protest statement, and an act of healing.

I’ll always remember Rita Hester’s vigil because the words of Hester’s mother haunts me. Rita Hester, 34, an African American trans woman from Allston, Massachusetts. was found dead inside her first-floor apartment with multiple stab wounds to her chest in 1998. Her death kicked off the “Remembering Our Dead” web project and was the catalyst for what’s now our annual Trans Day of Remembrance.

When Hester’s mother came up to the microphone during the Speak Out portion of the vigil at the Model Cafe where Rita was known, she repeatedly said in a heartbroken voice that brought most of us to tears, “I would have gladly died for you, Rita. I would have taken the stabs and told you to run. I loved you!” As the vigil processed from the Model Cafe to where Rita lived and died, Hester’s mother again brought me to tears as she and her surviving children kneeled in front of the doorway of Rita’s apartment building and recited the Lord’s Prayer. Many of us joined in unison.

In a report titled “Violence Against the Transgender Community in 2018” the Human Rights Campaign highlights what ties all of these murders – throughout the years – together. “While the details of these cases differ, it is clear that fatal violence disproportionately affects transgender women of color, and that the intersections of racism, sexism, homophobia, and transphobia conspire to deprive them of employment, housing, healthcare and other necessities, barriers that make them vulnerable.”

During the “Trans Catholic Voices” breakout season at the DignityUSA conference in Boston in 2017, I heard the vulnerability of an African-American transwoman who pointed out that Pope Francis’ statements about trans people deny them of basic human dignity and perpetuates violence against them.  In her closing remarks, she asked for help from advocates and allies in the room in words that brought me to tears. “Trans lives are real lives. Trans deaths are real deaths. God works through other people. Maybe you can be those other people.”

We are those other people. It’s time we realized that.

[Source: Reverend Irene Monroe | LGBTQ Nation | May 2019]

Trans Deaths Are Real Deaths

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CNN: Killings of Trans People in US Increasing

World Health Organization: Transgender Not a Disorder

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Video: Trans Youth Share Struggles and Hopes

Let's Hear it for the Gay White Boy

Three cheers for Pete Buttigieg

Remember when the big measuring stick of a candidate's electability was how much you wanted to have a beer with them? Boy those were much better times. Nowadays, we have to weigh absurd criteria like their stances on race, gender, health care, and such. These are absolutely insane metrics to judge a politician on. Never in our history have we cared about their defense policy or financial history; we’ve always judged candidates on the meaningless things that appeal to us personally, no matter how petty and shallow. That is why I am so glad that people have decided that Pete Buttigieg is the candidate we don't like because he just isn’t gay or diverse enough.

Oh, I mean sure the sexism that Harris, Warren, and others are being subjected to is terrible, but let’s just be perfectly honest here; have you met our country? The reason that ICE is confining undocumented immigrants in hastily built cages under highway underpasses, reproductive rights are being eroded, and our democracy is dying from cancer is because too many people thought that voting for a woman who didn’t shut up when the men were talking was a bridge too far. However, I’m talking about Pete “Gay Isn’t Diversity” Buttigieg here, and by God, I love the fact that it’s not the conservatives acting horrified at voting for a gay white man, but the insane-from-sleep-deprivation-woke people out there.

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God bless you folks. Instead of focusing on his policies, so many of you have decided that being gay is just not good enough to not merely vote for, but to even give the basest levels of respect to. I appreciate the fact that your impression of gay men is entirely based off of the stereotypes of the ones in your immediate personal circle and the queens on Drag Race — in this world gays fart rainbows and glitter while giving queer studies lectures in Emma Goldman drag. While so many of you have tweeted your thumbs raw with calls for diversity, inclusion, and pointing out when discrimination occurs, one has to simply marvel at the moment that a gay man doesn’t fit into your preconceived ideas of what a gay man should act like or think about himself.

While it’s easy to understand why so many folks are eager to see a woman (possibly a Black woman!) obtain the highest position in our country outside of The Voice judge, to decide that a white gay man is just not diverse enough takes an amazing amount of cognitive dissonance. One has to assume these folks dissing Pete as same old-same old consume lots of LGBTQ media, since they're so interested in diverse voices; so certainly they're aware gay white men still suffer discrimination in this country. I mean, yes, gay white men have white privilege and all that entails (like uttering "All Lives Matter," yikes), but they’re still gay men, which means they can be legally denied a job, insurance, housing, and other protections in half of this country. They are still physically attacked, denied medical care, and suffer abuse to the point they would rather kill themselves than suffer another day of it. Even if they grow up in wealthy households in safe neighborhoods and attend great schools, they are still subjected to the pressures of heteronormativity and toxic masculinity, which cause lifelong emotional trauma and pain many turn to substance abuse to cope with.

In no way am I comparing the suffering of gay white men to those of queer women, especially POC and trans women. I know very well that white privilege exists, and it holds many benefits, but that does not ever negate the other disadvantages they have, just that their whiteness will not be one of them. In fact, some of wokest folks hating on Pete are the people who taught me that. Strange how once that becomes an inconvenience to a candidate before the first primaries even begin. The calls for diversity stop the minute that it’s not the right diversity.

It also is a marvel that this critique of Buttigieg is based around how he expresses himself as a gay man. People have critiqued that he came out for the wrong reasons, that he isn’t as in tune with the latest in queer theory, state his politics as a gay man are wrong, and posit that he hasn’t self-reflected enough. Being gay, lesbian, trans, bi, or any other thing is not done to a damn syllabus with assigned projects and reading. Diversity isn’t just showing up with a skin color, gender, or sexuality; it’s experiences too.

The LGBTQ experience and expression isn’t stamped out on a factory line in a third world country and sold at a huge mark up at a Pride booth like a rainbow flag with a socialist rose on it. LGBTQ identity is the only thing that unites us, other than that everything is fair game. We don’t all follow celebrities and fashion, nor do we know all know who Harvey Milk or Sylvia Rivera are, much less graduated with a degree in a minority studies. We’re not all socialists or Democrats; some of us are actually kind of conservative.

If your beef with Buttigieg is that he is the wrong kind of gay, then take a hike and your fetishized idea of what a gay man should be like with you. This is not some closeted conservative passing anti-LGBTQ legislation, or some gay man siding with Trump to grift some money and power out of him (Peter Thiel, cough, Richard Grenell, cough). Pete Buttigieg is a Democrat from Indiana with the ideas and opinions that come with that. Yes, he is diverse enough because, if you forget, he lived in a state run by Mike Pence, which you know, makes him an additional oppressed minority (LGBTQ Indianan is a double whammy).

He is the “right type of gay” because there really is no right type of gay to be. Now go find some other petty reason to hate the guy that doesn’t make you sound so shallow.

[Source: Amanda Kerri | Advocate Magazine | April 2019]

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South Bend Tribune: Mayor Buttigieg Marries Partner

LGBTQ Nation: Why Pete Buttigieg is Good for Gays

Gay Youth and Affirming Educators

 
Being gay has never been easy... but counselors and teachers helped

As a child, I never really understood what it meant to be gay. I never understood the strict borders between pink and blue, between dolls and race cars, between pretty dresses and sports-related t-shirts. I never understood why these boundaries existed, and why I was on the “wrong” side of the wall. Nonetheless, I kept going, and I became who I am now, someone strong, both mentally and emotionally, and someone who loves himself and who is willing to help others love themselves too.

Blog: San Diego LGBTQ Pride

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Music Video: Don't Give Up by Maggie Szabo

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Info: LGBTQ Youth

Teaching Tolerance: Creating an LGBTQ-Inclusive School Climate

My name is Daniel. I am fifteen years old and a sophomore at Point Loma High. It’s been two years that I’ve been out of the closet, and eight years knowing I like boys. Though I face challenges at school, I’m still largely accepted in school, which makes me very grateful. The largest challenges I’ve faced are stereotypical judgements like “All gay guys are insanely flamboyant and overly dramatic,” and the occasional peer who uses homosexuality to make jokes. As irritating as these problems are, I know not to take them seriously.

Being gay has never been easy, but my experience has been facilitated thanks to some of my current and previous teachers and counselors who point out anything they believe can help me, like clubs, groups, and books. Without them, I wouldn’t be who I am today, and I wouldn’t be writing this essay. My counselors have helped me through problems, from dealing with emotions to finding places where I can be myself. I truly am fortunate to have them.

As open as our school is, it is far from being perfect. Point Loma High is really great, but I believe there are more ways it could support our LGBTQ youth. One way is by having more clubs or groups that support the LGBTQ youth and community in the school. Another way I think the school could support us is by having an all school Pride Day, or Pride Week, allowing the students to wear their sexual orientations’ colors and expressing themselves. The last way I think the school could support us is by having assemblies talking about our community, sexual orientations, and to speak out when there is bullying and hate present. This would encourage the students to take us seriously, stop making jokes, and allow us to show not only our own, but the school’s support and dedication to the LGBTQ youth of today and the years to come.

At this point, I know that the determination and ambition of others along with my own can change the way schools see the youth of a different sexual orientation, and how that goal isn’t far from becoming a reality. I know that I share this wish with others, and I am eager to find out how high we can go in making this dream take shape. I know that together, we can bring the wall down, I know that together we can speak out. With pride. For pride.

[Source: Daniel | San Diego LGBTQ Pride | November 2018]

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AAMFT: Gay and Lesbian Youth

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Love Bravely: Mini LGBTQ Documentary

Info: Educational Considerations

TED Talk: Why We Need LGBTQ Education

Message From Tyler Clementi's Mom

Church teachings are used as social and political weapons to exclude, degrade and dismiss LGBTQ people

Eight years ago, my son, Tyler Clementi, died by suicide after vicious cyberbullying at Rutgers University because of his sexual orientation. He was 18 years old.

Tyler was not the first gay youth to die after cruel attacks by peers, and sadly, he wasn’t the last. Study after study continues to find that LGBTQ youth are at a higher risk for suicide than their heterosexual peers. And those raised in religious communities, many of which teach that being LGBTQ is a sin, are even more likely to attempt suicide.

Think about that. Religious communities are supposed to be a source of strength and love, as my church family was, providing comfort when my son died. But the fact remains that being a part of a religious community increases the risk of an early, tragic death for LGBTQ youth.

In sharp contrast, participation in a religious community decreases the risk of suicide for heterosexual people. What is different about the treatment of LGBTQ people in religious communities that creates such tragedies?  My family once belonged to a church that taught being LGBTQ was a sin. Like so many other LGBTQ youth, Tyler must have felt rejected, unwanted and shamed. My son did not believe he could be both Christian and gay.

When theology is used to inflict harm and exert power over vulnerable people like my son, it becomes religious bullying. Church teachings are used as social and political weapons to exclude, degrade and dismiss LGBTQ people. The irony is that religious communities are uniquely positioned not only to end bullying in their houses of worship, but also to support LGBTQ youth who face isolation and cruelty in other aspects of their lives. By acknowledging religious bullying and working to rectify it, religious communities can support some of their most marginalized members while adhering to their own teaching to love their neighbors.

It should not take yet another LGBTQ youth suicide to end religious bullying.

When he came out to me, I had to begin reconciling the teachings of my church with my unconditional love for my son. I am grateful to worship now at a church that affirms the lives of LGBTQ people. It is a church that welcomes and accepts everyone as perfectly created in the image of God, adhering to the teachings of Jesus to love and be kind to all, where no one is excluded, marginalized or treated cruelly because of who they are or whom they love.

My husband and I founded the Tyler Clementi Foundation to prevent bullying, including what happened to my son before he died. We hope to see a world where youth like Tyler are respected and treated with kindness – not only by their peers but by their churches.

I want parents to think about how our religious communities treat people who are different. Regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity, our children deserve to be taught about love and acceptance, not shame and rejection.  The choices we make about where our families worship can save lives. Don’t make those decisions lightly.

[Source: Jane Clementi | LGBTQ Nation | September 2018]
 

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CBS News: Tyler Clementi Suicide
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Huffington Post: Rutgers Student Commits Suicide

Info: Critical Incidents

Church Offers Free Mom Hugs at Pride Parade

Please just one more hug

A church in Texas gave away free “mom hugs” and “dad hugs” at a recent Pride parade. Jen Hatmaker, a conservative blogger who was unceremoniously kicked out of the Christian media world because she opposed Donald Trump’s election and supports LGBTQ equality, posted on Instagram about what her “beloved little church” was doing to spread the love at Austin Pride.

"My beloved little church went downtown to the Austin Pride Parade and gave out Free Mom Hugs, Free Dad Hugs, Free Grana Hugs, and Free Pastor Hugs like it was our paying jobs. And when I say hugs, I mean the kind a mama gives her beloved son. Our arms were never empty. We happy hugged a ton of folks, but dozens of times. I’d spot someone in the parade look our way, squint at our shirts and posters, and race into our arms. These were the dear hearts who said: I miss this...  My mom doesn’t love me anymore...  My Dad hasn’t spoken to me in three years... Please just one more hug.  You can only imagine what Pastor Hugs did to folks. So we told them over and over that they were impossibly loved and needed and precious. And we hugged until our arms fell off."

And just like anyone who goes to an LGBTQ space and offers unconditional love, the members of the Austin New Church heard terrible stories.  It’s too common for LGBTQ people to have not-so-great relationships with their parents, and too many churches spend time hating LGBTQ people instead of loving them. An open heart and some love can go a long way to healing old wounds.

[Source: Alex Bollinger | LGBTQ Nation | August 2018]

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Rainbow Riots: LGBTQ Voices From Uganda

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Open Letter to the Queer Community

Worst Question People Ask About Being Gay

Helping the hets understand

I’ve never been comfortable basing our rights on a ‘we can’t help it’ rationale. It suggests that we’re somehow pitiful things, that non-exclusively heterosexual sexual orientation is a defect instead of every other point on the infinite-points line that is normal human sexual orientation.

It also begs the denial of rights to those who do exercise any level of control over their attractions (the stuff of sexual orientation at the combined sexual, affectional, and emotional levels) if such a thing is possible or to make conditional of those rights the exercising of abstinence or other-directional control of behavior related to those attractions.

Rights are rights. They are not meant to be conditional on accidents of birth or behavior one wouldn’t expect of others. They are meant to just be, as we are meant to just be.

I’m always suspicious when someone even wants to know why we’re other than exclusively heterosexual without wanting to equally understand why people are exclusively heterosexual. I mean, when was the last time you heard such a balanced inquiry outside of a university sexology department anyway?

Worse, this be-nice-to-the-queers-because-they-can’t-help-it strategy sends a message of brokenness to our people when we should be instilling pride and strength in who we are.

The Kinsey researchers, as if they were precursors to The Matrix’s Morpheus, used to ask a question of their gay-identified subjects, “If you could take a pill that would make you not homosexual, would you?” Most in those dark days near the dawn of our fight answered that they would.

How often today do we hear the question, “Who in their right mind would choose to be gay?” Can you imagine anyone asking who in their right mind would choose to be black or Jewish or any number of other non-majority members of protected classes just because they’re oppressed?

‘Neo’-queer that I am, I would not take that pill. I prefer to live an authentic life, unplugged from the matrix of het convention, demanding in body, soul, word, and deed to be exactly the queer I am blessed to be.

If truth be known, I’m a gay supremacist, firm in the knowledge that we’re better than hets in many ways that matter to me (and were proven superior by researchers acting on behalf of the US Army, no less, trying to figure out if they could more easily tell who the queers were so they could more efficiently keep us out of the service).

Even if I wasn’t a queer supremacist and despite having suffered loss of family, jobs, and other opportunities, as well as having been subjected to anti-gay violence, including rape, due to my sexual orientation – enough of the standard reasons given for why people in their right minds wouldn’t choose to be queer to count and then some – I’d still choose to be a lesbian and it doesn’t define me as crazy.

How else, after all, would I have the spousal love of my wife that grows fuller and deeper with every day of our lives? Where would I find such a delightful subculture so rich with beauty and humor and the sort of strength forged in adversity that so fits my soul?

I love our freedom to define ourselves as we see fit and the creative diversity with which we’ve done so. If I were exclusively heterosexual, I’d be denied the depth of intimacy that comes from sharing love with someone whose body and mind responds so like mine and would be relegated to the state of never really fully grasping what the object of my affection really felt (that same feeling of always reaching, never quite there, no matter how hard they try, that hets suffer).

They may say "vive l’difference."  Although I’ll admit to feeling compassion for their loss, I say, "horsepucky! vive l’homogeneite!"  Now, don’t get me wrong, I don’t support any sort of anti-het oppression. After all, some or all of them might not be able to help it.

[Source: Marla Stevens | Bilerico Report, LGBTQ Nation | January 2018]

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Science lesson for bigots

I just saw a transphobic post that was like, "In a sexual species, females have two X chromosomes and males have an X and a Y chromosome. I'm not a bigot. It's just science."  Well, I am a science teacher, so I posted the following comment.

First of all, in a sexual species, females can be XX and males can be X, as in insects.  Females can be ZW and males can be ZZ, as in birds.  And females can be females because they developed in a warm environment and males can be males because they developed in a cool environment, as in reptiles. Females can be females because they lost a penis in a sword fighting contest, as in some flatworms. Males can be males because they were born female but changed sexes because the only male in their group died, as in parrotfish and clownfish. Males can look and act like females because they are trying to get close enough to actual females so they can mate with them, as in cuttlefish and bluegills. Or you can be one of thousands of sexes, as in slime molds and some mushrooms.

Oh, did you mean humans? Okay then. You can be male because you were born female, but you have 5-alphareductase deficiency and so you grew a penis at the age of 12. You can be female because you have an X and a Y chromosome, but you are insensitive to androgens, and so you have a female body. You can be female because you have an X and a Y chromosome, but your Y is missing the SRY gene, and so you have a female body. You can be a male because you have two X chromosomes, but one of your X's has a SRY gene, and so you have a male body. You can be male because you have two X chromosomes, but also a Y chromosome. You can be a female because you have only one X chromosome at all. And you can be a male because you have two X chromosomes, but your heart and brain are male.  And vice versa.

Don't use science to justify your bigotry.  The world is way too weird for that shit.

[Source: Science Teacher | Facebook | September 2017]

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Why Pride? An Explanation for Straight People

"Remember, straight people flaunt their straightness all day, every day, in every part of this country."

-Brandan Robertson

"When all Americans are treated as equal, no matter who they are or whom they love, we are all more free."
-President Barack Obama

June is national pride month, a month set aside to remember, celebrate, and empower queer people and our contributions to the flourishing of humanity. All across the country, LGBTQ people and our allies will be gathering for festivals, parades, parties, demonstrations, and marches that boldly proclaim that we are not ashamed of our queerness and that we will not be silent until we have achieved full freedom and equality in our society and every society around the world.
 

Yet during this month, there will also l be a lot of pushback from the heterosexual communities and individuals who just don’t understand what this whole pride thing is about. I cant tell you the number of times I have been cornered by straight people who look me in the eyes and say, “I’m okay with you all being gay, but why do you have to flaunt it in the streets? You don’t see straight people doing that!” To which I respond, “bullshit”.

I mean that in the kindest, most sincere way possible. But straight and cisgender people are the most visible people on planet earth, not just because of their sheer numbers, but because their relationships, sexuality, and gender expressions are seen as the “normative” expressions, and therefore, uplifted and repeated in every community around the country. Straight, cisgender people hold hands as they walk down the street without fear of getting accosted. They watch television shows and movies, listen to music, and read books that center on their relationships and gender expression. The majority of advertisements on billboards, websites, and television center on heterosexual and cisgender people. And our government is set up to privilege and favor heterosexual relationships above all others.

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In short, straight people flaunt their straightness all day, every day, in every part of this country. And despite the far-right narrative that the “gays” are taking over our country, for a majority of LGBTQ people in America, it is still incredibly uncomfortable at best, dangerous at worst to express ourselves in our communities. In a majority of states across our country, our rights and dignity are not fully protected by the law, and, in fact, there are fierce movements that seek to oppress and marginalize us and our relationships.

So, while we have seen tremendous progress in the fight for LGBTQ equality, inclusion, and rights in the United States, the reality is that we are incredibly far from being fully equal in every realm of society. And that is why pride is so important.

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For many LGBTQ people, pride is the one time of the year that they can be out and proud of who they are and who they love. It’s the one time of year that they can stand boldly in the streets with droves of other queer individuals, proclaiming that we are fully human and deserve to be celebrated and uplifted just like everyone else. Even in cities that are seen as LGBTQ friendly, it is still an incredibly healing experience to get to march in parades or attend festivals where thousands upon thousands of LGBTQ people are letting their lights shine before all people without fear. Pride is often the beginning of the process of healing from the trauma inflicted on us by our heterosexist, patriarchal society. Pride is a time where we step out of the shadows and declare that we will no longer forced to suppress our truest selves because of heterosexual fragility and fear.

Now, of course, in the midst of all of the deeper causes and meanings behind pride, it is also, most importantly, a time of celebration. It’s a time to party, to relax, and to let loose in public, which is something that heterosexual and cisgender people get to do every single day of the year, but something that LGBTQ people simply don’t get to do. So yes, people of all shapes, sizes, religions, ethnicities, races, and cultures will be marching through the streets shirtless, and perhaps even pantless (hello speedos!) but this has a lot less to do with LGBTQ being hyper-sexual or promiscuous. Instead, it’s a radical display of liberation and safety, a time to let our bodies and lives be seen as the beautiful displays of creativity and majesty that they are- something, again, that straight people get to see and do every single day.
 

Pride marches and festivals were started as subversive displays of light in the midst of the darkness of heternormitivity and hatred, and today, for many, if not most LGBTQ people, they still retain this important meaning and power. Though they may look like giant parties in the street, take a second and think about what it feels like to march through a city, freely expressing who you are, whom you love, and what you desire for the first time without fearing that you’ll be accosted, abused, or mocked. Think about all of the children and teenagers who know they are LGBTQ but cannot even begin to fathom taking a step out of the closet for fear of abuse from their families, churches, or peers, who look out at those celebrating pride and see a glimpse of hope that things can get better, and that they can be free, safe, and celebrated for who they are. That is the power of pride, and that’s why pride month is so damn important.

So, if you’re a straight person and you’re finding yourself perplexed by the pride celebrations taking place in your city this year, stop and remember that you get to live out and proud every single day without fear, without oppression, and without even thinking about it. That is a unique gift that majority of LGBTQ people have never gotten to experience. Think about all of the hurdles to equality that still exist in our nation, and the trauma that so many LGBTQ people have faced simply because of who they are or who they love. And as you reflect on the reality of LGBTQ people, I hope you begin to realize the importance and power of pride, and perhaps will even decide to pick up a rainbow flag and stand on the sidelines cheering on your local LGBTQ community as they fearlessly express their beauty in your community.

[Source: Brandan Robertson | Huffington Post | June 2017]

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Message to the Little Boy Playing with Barbies

I wish I could go back, knowing what I know now

When I was a little boy I loved to play with Barbies and dolls. Though my parents were supportive and loving, they could not shield me from the world. It didn’t take long for me to realize these toys weren’t meant for me, whatever that means. It didn’t take long for me to realize I risked verbal lashings or physical violence from other kids if I didn’t learn the role I was meant to play.

So, I played with Barbies and dolls in secret, behind locked doors and under covers, always scared that I would get caught. I was terrified of what it meant that I liked “girl toys” instead of those that were meant for boys, and confused about how my childlike inclinations could make grown adults so ill at ease.

I wish I could go back, knowing what I know now, and tell that little boy a few things. I wish I could tell him that he need not feel shame for doing what makes him happy, and that people being uncomfortable about what toys he plays with only speaks volumes about them, and reflects nothing about him. I wish I could tell him all of the times life was going to try to tell him to be one way, and how he always had the option to be himself. I wish I could tell him not to waste his time pretending to have crushes on girls, or forcing himself to walk with what he thought was the gait of a man, or feeling angry that these things did not come naturally to him. I wish I could tell him that while the threats of violence he feared are real, and that he would be called a ‘faggot’ more than once (lots more than once) or made to feel ‘less than’ based on something he could not control, that he would one day create a life where he felt comfortable being who he was.

I wish I could tell him that he wasn’t alone, and that he’d never been alone. I wish I could tell him there were people at that moment who were fighting and risking their lives to make things better for him, and that one day it would be his job to do the same thing for the other people who needed it.

I wish I could tell him that the world was big, and not always so scary, and it would one day open like an oyster, despite the times he tried to close it, and that he deserves love from other people, yes, but most importantly, from himself.

[Source: Seamus Kirst | Journalist, Essayist, Author | September 2017]
 

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Michael Musto: My Proud Life as a Gay Stereotype

Campy, flamboyant, artsy, glittery, and klutzy

I’ve written before about how I happen to unwittingly fulfill various clichés of the single, witty (I hope) gay man in the corner, and how I’ve gradually come to terms with my plight. But on reflection, it goes far beyond all that. In fact, I’m clearly a living, breathing monument to all kinds of gay stereotypes—just about every one you can think of, though I certainly didn’t plan any of this; in fact, I’m basically a self-made personality who grew up with no out gay role models and had to form my persona from instinct. I’m proud of myself for being out and vocal, and if I fit too neatly into certain gay slots, at least I do it my way. But there’s no denying that I’m as stereotypical as an interior decorator with a lisp and a handbag. Let me lay it all out for you, in stereotypical fashion: 

--I love show tunes! I can’t help it, but I’m a clichéd theater queen who lives for a good musical. I grew up watching excerpts from Broadway musicals on TV variety shows, longing to see them in person because I knew their glitzy spunk would lift me out of my shell and drive me way over the top. Alas, the first show I was taken to see was Man of La Mancha, a muddy, moody, very brown enterprise that wasn’t exactly what the gay doctor ordered. But in the following decade, when I caught the original productions of A Chorus Line and Chicago in the same year, my head spun from the joy, invention, and musicianship on display. That cemented my theater queen status for all time, and now there’s never a musical I miss—including the one about Tourette’s syndrome a few years back. And I stayed for Act Two!

--I live for divas! I love a good, strong, glittery female performer—any time, any place. Even back in the Broadway shows I mentioned, it was the women—Donna McKechnie, Gwen Verdon, Chita Rivera—who made my blood boil with excitement. There’s nothing more fun for me than a peppy, funny, powerful lady with pipes and personality, whether it be Judy, Barbra, Liza, Diana, Madonna, Rihanna, or Gaga. And what could be more stereotypical than that?

--I’m terrible at sports! At school, I used to dread having to go on the parallel bars or be thrown into the pool. I eventually managed to get into the school orchestra, partly so that would give me an out from having to go to gym class. But that didn’t mean my torture had ended--hardly. In the schoolyard, I was not even the last one chosen when the kids divvied up teams. After they picked everyone they wanted, they would simply leave me there, as unselected as non-organic kale! There was a brief period when I became interested in the New York Mets, mainly because it was a way to bond with my father, but watching them play was as far as I was going to go when it came to participatory sports. And as the world’s perception of gays in sports kept evolving and gay didn’t equal klutzy anymore, I stubbornly clung to my pathetic-ness, more of an old stereotype than ever. Even a game of Chess is too strenuous for me. But at least when all the gays started obsessively working out, I only went to the gym a total of four times. Dodged a stereotype that time!

--I adore campy movies. My favorite kinds of movies aren’t necessarily the Oscar winners—they’re glossy, overproduced, hyper-acted “trash” like Valley of the Dolls, Mahogany, and Mommie Dearest. Watching these godforsaken gems over and over again, I can’t even see anything wrong with them. They are pure joy and work for me on every level, from fashion show to cautionary tale and beyond. I’d go so far as to say they’re good. Stereotype, anyone?

--I live for the nightlife. Like a good (clichéd) gay, I can’t get enough of bars, even after all these years. I break the mold in that I don’t drink or dance, so I’m definitely a stranger in a strange land, but still, I ritualistically feed off the ambience of nightspots where slightly cracked but fascinating people get together to let out their ya-yas and express themselves. And if that makes me a stereotype, so be it.

So there you have it. I’m an old school gay cliché from my asymmetrically coiffed head to my ultra light loafers. And rather than crawl under a gay rock about it, I’ve decided to embrace my status because it’s not a choice, and besides, “stereotypical” behavior is often stuff that emerges as a direct result of being gay. When I was growing up, “sissies” weren’t generally chosen to play on teams (as I mentioned), which certainly dampened our interest in sports. And “sissies” like me escaped into divas and show biz and playing parts in school plays (and instruments in the orchestra), where we could pretend to be someone else, while gleefully making our own kind of music. Also, we learned to cultivate our witty, cutely catty sides in order to get positive attention and be popular at gatherings—it was always the wit of the outsider, gaining access to the mainstream through zingy intellect. And speaking of gatherings, we eventually immersed ourselves in nightlife because there, we found other like-minded, damaged but lovable weirdos who suddenly belonged because we’d created a family of fabulous freaks. If that all makes me a stereotype, so be it.

After all, some stereotypes happen to be endearing (we’re real people, not just formulas with bank accounts), as long as you bring some originality to them. And I know I do! Yes, I’m stereotypically smug too.

[Source: Michael Musto | Village Voice | July 2017]

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Why We Won't Go Back

The progress that I felt in my own life seemed to be reversed

The last decade was a time of historic progress for our country. Now, as 2016 comes to a close, we have come upon an uncertain crossroads: whether to return to a time of even greater discrimination and inequality, or to declare with one clear voice that We Won’t Go Back.

Late in the night of November 8, as I stood beneath the Jacob Javits Center’s towering glass ceiling in Manhattan alongside my husband, Nate, that crossroads came into clear view. A few steps away, a little girl was sobbing on the floor. She had spent hours coloring a map of the United States, atop which large, colorful crayon print read, “Hillary for President.” By then, the map had more red than blue, and we realized that little girl’s wishes (and more than half of the country’s) were not to be. As we exited the building amid fallen American flags and discarded “Clinton/Kaine” buttons, I unconsciously whispered, “It feels like we’re in an alternate universe.”
 

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That sentiment was certainly shared by millions of my fellow citizens November 8. But for me, the outcome of the electoral vote soon felt both very personal and real, that somehow the collective decision of more than 62 million strangers was a recalibration of everything I thought true about my country. Perhaps this was because, like many other young people, I had volunteered and worked for Barack Obama even before he decided to run for president, holding a “Draft Obama” sign on the frozen streets of Manchester, NH, working for his campaign in 2008 and 2012, and later in the White House.

Then, on New Year's Eve in 2012, I had asked my fiancé to marry me inside the historic Stonewall Inn, the site of the origin story for the modern LGBTQ movement. And just over a year before walking inside the Javits Center, I married my husband in front of our friends and family, equal in their eyes, but also equal in the eyes of the country I love.

Suddenly, on November 8, 2016, the progress that I felt in my own life seemed to be reversed by 46 percent of the electorate, and many of the reasons why are well documented.
 

 
Donald Trump is assembling one of the most anti-LGBTQ Administrations in modern American history. Jeff Sessions, Betsy DeVos, Ben Carson, James Mattis, and many others filling his Cabinet (without even mentioning the abysmal record of Vice President-elect Mike Pence) have categorically opposed equality for years. And then there’s the troubling rise of hate crimes since the election; the disconcerting spike of calls to suicide hotlines, many of them LGBTQ; and the elevation of a candidate who has personally promoted bigotry, misogyny, and division throughout his entire pursuit of elective office. Surely, these developments were more than enough to keep millions of my peers and me curled up in a fetal position for a few days in early November.

Yet in the thick of my vow never to leave my house again, I was reminded of the words of the legendary LGBTQ activist Sylvia Rivera: “Hell hath no fury like a drag queen scorned.” Said differently: We Won’t Go Back.

Surely, those four words must have motivated great Americans like Sylvia, when she rioted for justice in front of Stonewall; they must have inspired Harvey Milk when he confronted likely death to tell us that we must “never be silent”; and they surely gave James Baldwin solace when he said, bravely, “Love him and let him love you. Do you think anything else under heaven really matters?”
 

For me, We Won’t Go Back not only summed up the LGBTQ struggle to come, but also the African-American, Latino, immigrant, American, and human struggle as well. As soon as I said those four words out loud at the end of that long week in November, I again found hope. So I created a campaign with the same name to give Americans of all backgrounds the opportunity to fight for the highest ideals of the country they love.

We Won’t Go Back is now a place to contact our elected officials; to support the causes we believe in; to organize, volunteer, and get registered to vote; and to build an inclusive, hopeful future. Most importantly, I hope We Won’t Go Back enables new voices to be heard and stories to be told. Using #WeWontGoBack, you can tweet, write, or record a video telling the world why you won’t go back, what you’re fighting for, and what’s at stake for you, your family, and your community.

As one of our supporters said, “I won’t go back because I’ve fought so long to be here.” Indeed, we all have. And we’ve come too far to turn back now.

[Source: Jared Milrad | Actor, Writer, Lawyer, Entrepreneur | December 2016]

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Here’s Why We Grieve Today

We ratified hatred, fear, racism, bigotry, and intolerance

I don’t think you understand us right now. I think you think this is about politics. I think you believe this is all just sour grapes; the crocodile tears of the losing locker room with the scoreboard going against us at the buzzer. I can only tell you that you’re wrong. This is not about losing an election. This isn’t about not winning a contest. This is about two very different ways of seeing the world.

Hillary supporters believe in a diverse America; one where religion or skin color or sexual orientation or place of birth aren’t liabilities or deficiencies or moral defects. Her campaign was one of inclusion and connection and interdependency. It was about building bridges and breaking ceilings. It was about going high.
 

Trump supporters believe in a very selective America; one that is largely white and straight and Christian, and the voting verified this. Donald Trump has never made any assertions otherwise. He ran a campaign of fear and exclusion and isolation, and that’s the vision of the world those who voted for him have endorsed.

They have aligned with the wall-builder and the professed pussy-grabber, and they have co-signed his body of work, regardless of the reasons they give for their vote:

Every horrible thing Donald Trump ever said about women or Muslims or people of color has now been validated. Every profanity-laced press conference and every call to bully protestors and every ignorant diatribe has been endorsed. Every piece of anti-LGBTQ legislation Mike Pence has championed has been signed-off on. Half of our country has declared these things acceptable, noble, American.

This is the disconnect and the source of our grief today. It isn’t a political defeat that we’re lamenting, it’s a defeat for Humanity. We’re not angry that our candidate lost. We’re angry because our candidate’s losing means this country will be less safe, less kind, and less available to a huge segment of its population, and that’s just the truth.

Those who have always felt vulnerable are now left more so. Those whose voices have been silenced will be further quieted. Those who always felt marginalized will be pushed further to the periphery. Those who feared they were seen as inferior now have confirmation in actual percentages. Those things have essentially been campaign promises of Donald Trump, and so many of our fellow citizens have said this is what they want too.