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Psychology Today: Love and Relationships
He Loves Me He Loves Me Not
"Everyday I see you walk
toward me, I feel my heart speed up and I smile. You
love me for me and I love you for you. You're the best
thing in my life!"
-Random Internet Comment
"Gay and lesbian people
fall in love. We settle down. We commit our lives to one
another. We raise our children. We protect them. We try
to be good citizens."
-California Sen. Sheila
Kuehl, D-Santa Monica
"We love because it's the
only true adventure."
"No government has the
right to tell its citizens when or whom to love."
-Rita Mae Brown
“No one in America should
ever be afraid to walk down the street holding the hand
of the person they love.”
-President Barack Obama
"Straight Americans need
an education of the heart and soul. They must
understand, to begin with, how it can feel to spend
years denying your own deepest truths, to sit silently
through classes, meals, and church services while people
you love toss off remarks that brutalize your soul."
-Bruce Bawer, The
"Who would give a law to
lovers? Love is unto itself a higher law."
-Boethius, Consolation of
Philosophy, AD 524
"There's this illusion
that homosexuals have sex and heterosexuals fall in
love. That's completely untrue. Everybody wants to be
"What are you trying to
protect heterosexual marriages from? There isn't a
limited amount of love. It isn't a non-renewable
resource. If Amy and Barbara or Mike and Steve love
each other, it doesn't mean that John and Mary can't."
"I met a young man who
was wounded in love, I met another man who was wounded
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Comment on Love
What is love? According
to Merriam-Webster, love is defined as "a strong
affection for another arising out of kinship or personal
ties. It is attraction based on sexual desire. It is
affection and tenderness felt by lovers. It is
affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common
interests. It is an assurance of affection. It is warm
attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion.”
Comments gleaned from the
Urban Dictionary describe love as the most spectacular,
indescribable, deep euphoric feeling for someone.
Love is an incredibly
powerful word. When you're in love, you always want to
be together, and when you're not, you're thinking about
being together because you need that person and without
them your life is incomplete.
This love is
unconditional affection with no limits or conditions:
completely loving someone. It's when you trust the other
with your life and when you would do anything for each
other. When you love someone you want nothing more than
for them to be truly happy no matter what it takes
because that's how much you care about them and because
their needs come before your own. You hide nothing of
yourself and can tell the other anything because you
know they accept you just the way you are and vice
It's when they're the
last thing you think about before you go to sleep and
when they're the first thing you think of when you wake
up, the feeling that warms your heart and leaves you
overcome by a feeling of serenity. Love involves wanting
to show your affection and/or devotion to each other.
It's the smile on your face you get when you're thinking
about them and miss them.
Love can make you do
anything and sacrifice for what will be better in the
end. Love is intense, and passionate. Everything seems
brighter, happier and more wonderful when you're in
love. If you find it, don't let it go.
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Comment on Commitment
All I Want is You from Juno Soundtrack
Love is Love Photography Project
The psychoanalyst Erich
Fromm said that we expend too much energy on "falling in
love" and need to learn more how to "stand in love."
there is a difference between compassionate and
passionate love. Compassionate love is characterized by
mutual respect, attachment, affection, and trust.
Compassionate love usually develops out of feelings of
mutual understanding and shared respect for one another.
Passionate love is characterized by intense emotions,
sexual attraction, anxiety, and affection.
According to Thought
Catalog, "Love means not needing constant contact, in
person or via text, to feel secure. It means trusting
them in every way possible and earning their reciprocal
trust in you. Love means loving yourself, too. It means
always being your organic self and never shifting to fit
another person's standard."
According to the New
Testament, “Love is patient. Love is kind and envies no
one. Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude. It
is never selfish. It is not quick to take offence. Love
keeps no score of wrongs. It does not gloat over
another's sins, but delights in the truth. There is
nothing love cannot face. There is no limit to its
faith, its hope, and its endurance. There are three
things that last forever: faith, hope, and love. But the
greatest of them is love.”
Thomas Aquinas described
love as, "to will the good of another."
Plato defined love as an
appreciation of the beauty within a person. Plato does
not talk of physical attraction as a necessary part of
love, hence the use of the word “platonic” to mean,
"without physical attraction."
According to Sophocles,
“One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life:
That word is love.”
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In a Heartbeat: Animated Gay Love Story
Ancient Greeks: Seven Words for Love
The Ultimate Wedding Party
Short Film: Together Forever
It’s All Greek to Me
The Greek language
distinguishes at least seven different ways as to how
the word love is used. Ancient Greek has distinct words
for love: eros, philia, storge, ludus, pragma, philautia,
and agape. However, as with other languages, it has been
historically difficult to separate the meanings of these
words when used outside of their respective contexts.
Nonetheless, the senses in which these words were
generally used are as follows:
Eros - Sexual passion.
Intimate love. Romantic love. Erotic desire.
Philia - Affectionate
regard or friendship. Dispassionate virtuous love.
Brotherly love. Comradery. Loyalty to friends, family,
and community, and requires virtue, equality, and
Storge - Common or
natural empathy, like that felt by parents for their
children. Tolerance and acceptance.
Ludus - Playful love.
Flirting and teasing. Laughing with friends.
Socializing. Dancing with strangers.
Pragma – Longstanding
love. Mature love. Deep understanding that develops
between couples that have been together for a long time.
It is about making compromises to help the relationship
work over time, and showing patience and tolerance.
Philautia – Love of one’s
self. Self-esteem. The idea is that if you like
yourself and feel secure in yourself, you will have
plenty of love to give others. All friendly feelings for
others are an extension of one's feelings for one’s
Agape – Charity.
Unconditional and unselfish love. Spiritual love. Love
Laura & Fawn
Hattie & Amorie
Dick & Bob
Jan & Lauren
Jon & Robert
Octavia & Deborah
Eric & Stan
Steve & Mark
Deities of Love
Greek god of love: Eros
Greek goddess of love:
Roman god of love: Cupid
Roman goddess of love:
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Everybody Wants to Be Loved by Ingrid
Huffington Post: Characteristics of Real
Comment on Trust
What Does it Feel Like to Be in Love?
Love is insane… really.
Finally there is scientific validation for the insanity
one feels when we fall in love. Researchers have
discovered that the brain's chemistry of infatuation is
akin to mental illness, which gives new meaning to the
phrase "falling madly in love."
The research findings,
reported in National Geographic, found that the cocktail
of brain chemicals that spark romance are not the same
as the ones that foster long-term commitments. So, every
year as we celebrate Valentine's Day, we might want to
think (which is almost impossible when one's brain is
flooded with the delirium of passion) about the
longer-term consequences of our libidinous desires.
Those who have felt the
unrelenting craziness of passionate love know that
reason and reality fly out the window once one's true
love enters the scene. Work, bill paying,
responsibilities, sleep (even getting regular food) can
all fall apart, and we find we have unlimited energies
to devote to our beloved. The good news is that the
brain has a built in protection mechanism. The insanity
Researchers found that
the brains of people in love respond similarly to when
it gets a surge of dopamine. Cocaine users describe an
increasing tolerance for the drug as time goes by, and a
need for more and more of a fix, and lovers' brains do
the same thing. After a while the high just wears off.
Although the loss of the rush can be a letdown, for
those who need to hold down a job and keep the utilities
on, it is probably a good thing.
That is not to say that
passionate love cannot morph into long-term happiness.
Many couples in the studies reported that their first
blush of passion was overwhelming, but that as time went
on the irresistible urge to bed each other became
tempered by another desire, to talk to each other and
spend time having fun together in other ways. The
relationships that stand the test of time are the ones
in which the lovers discover that they actually like
each other, as well as drive each other mad with desire.
As each of you celebrate
this day of love, we encourage you to enjoy the
unquenchable thirst that our brain chemistry provides
when we find the one that turns us into that lunatic we
hardly recognize as ourselves. Relax and enjoy it. It
should be a relief to know that you are not permanently
insane, just crazy in love.
And if you're lucky in
love too, the one that drives you mad between the sheets
will be the same person that you like talk to across the
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