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Wikipedia: Gender Variance

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Gender Diversity

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Gender Fluidity

Genderqueer (gender nonconformity, gender variant, gender diverse, non-binary, gender expansive, gender ambiguous, gender atypical) is behavior or gender expression by an individual that does not match the gender norms of the gender they are perceived to be by society. A person who exhibits gender variance may be called a gender bender or a gender outlaw, and may be transgender or otherwise variant in their gender identity. In the case of transgender people, they may be perceived, or perceive themselves as, gender nonconforming before transitioning, but might not be perceived as such after transitioning. Some intersex people may also exhibit gender variance.

 

The word transgender usually has a narrower meaning and somewhat different connotations, including a non-identification with the gender assigned at birth. Transgender can be defined as an umbrella term for people whose gender identity or gender expression differs from the sex they were assigned at birth.  But, not all gender variant people identify as transgender, and not all transgender people identify as gender variant; many identify simply as men or women. Gender identity is one's internal sense of their own gender; while most people have a gender identity of a boy or a man, or a girl or a woman, gender identity for other people is more complex than two choices. Furthermore, gender expression is the external manifestation of one's gender identity, usually through "masculine," "feminine," or gender variant presentation or behavior.

 

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Gender Terminology

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Gender Non-Conformity

 

What is gender non-conformity? Gender conformity can be defined most simply as behavior and appearance that conforms to the social expectations for one’s gender. So, gender conforming women behave and appear in ways that are considered feminine. Gender conforming men behave and appear in ways that are considered masculine. Gender non-conformity, then, is behaving and appearing in ways that are considered atypical for one’s gender.

"Gender nonconforming" was among the 56 genders made available on Facebook in 2014.

What does it mean to be gender non-conforming? Childhood gender nonconformity (CGN) is a phenomenon in which prepubescent children do not conform to expected gender-related sociological or psychological patterns, or identify with the opposite sex/gender.



 

What does it mean to be gender fluid? Gender fluid is a gender identity which refers to a gender which varies over time. A gender fluid person may at any time identify as male, female, neutrois, or any other non-binary identity, or some combination of identities. Their gender can also vary at random or vary in response to different circumstances.

What is gender questioning? The questioning of one's gender, sexual identity, sexual orientation, or all three is a process of exploration by people who may be unsure, still exploring, and concerned about applying a social label to themselves for various reasons.

Gender Queer

 

What is genderqueer? Genderqueer is a term that is growing in usage, representing a blurring of the lines surrounding society’s rigid views of both gender identity and sexual orientation. Genderqueer people embrace a fluidity of gender expression that is not limiting. They may not identify as male or female, but as both, neither, or as a blend. Similarly, genderqueer is a more inclusive term with respect to sexual orientation. It does not limit a person to identifying strictly as heterosexual or homosexual.

 

What is androgyny? Androgyny is a state in which gendered behaviors, presentations and roles include aspects of both masculinity and femininity. People of any gender identity or sexual orientation can be androgynous, but it is often favored by non-binary people as a means to externally express their gender identity. At way of expressing androgyny can include dressing in way where one is unable to tell if they are male or female. People who feel that their gender identity is androgynous often identify as androgyne.

Non-Binary

 

Genderqueer, also termed non-binary or gender-expansive, is a catch-all category for gender identities that are not exclusively masculine or feminine—identities which are thus outside of the gender binary and cisnormativity. Genderqueer people may identify as one or more of the following:

--having an overlap of, or indefinite lines between, gender identity
--having two or more genders (being bigender, trigender, or pangender)
--having no gender (being agender, nongendered, genderless, genderfree or neutrois)
--moving between genders or having a fluctuating gender identity (genderfluid)
--being third gender or other-gendered, a category which includes those who do not name their gender

Some genderqueer people use that as their only description of their gender identity, while others also identify as another gender identity such as androgyne or bigender. Genderqueer people may also identify as transgender and/or nonbinary. Some genderqueer people may wish to transition, either medically or by changing their name and/or pronouns to suit their preferred gender expression. Genderqueer people can have any sexual orientation.

 



"Genderqueer", along with being an umbrella term, has been used as an adjective to refer to any people who transgress mainstream distinctions of gender, regardless of their self-defined gender identity. Androgynous is sometimes also used as a descriptive term for people in this category, but genderqueer is used to indicate that gender norms can be transgressed through a combination of masculinity and femininity, or neither.

On matters of sex and sexuality, there is no avoiding discussing gender. It is important to start by defining “gender,” and distinguishing it from “biological sex.” Too often, biological sex is thought to be synonymous with the social category of gender. Although they are consistent for the majority of the population (feminine women and masculine men), sex and gender are not consistent for a sizable number of people. And, for some individuals, the typical categories of sex (female and male) and gender (feminine and masculine) simply do not fit.

 

Wikipedia: Gender Bender

 

Without Gender

 

"Agender" is a term which can be literally translated as "without gender" or "non-gender." It can be seen either as a non-binary gender identity or as a statement of not having a gender identity. People who identify as agender may describe themselves as one or more of the following:

--Genderless or lacking gender.
--Gender neutral. This may be meant in the sense of being neither man or woman yet still having a gender.
--Neutrois or neutrally gendered.
--Having an unknown or undefinable gender; not aligning with any gender.
--Having no other words that fit their gender identity.
--Not knowing or not caring about gender, as an internal identity and/or as an external label.
--Deciding not to label their gender.
--Identifying more as a person than any gender at all.

Many agender people also identify as genderqueer, non-binary and/or transgender. However, some agender people prefer to avoid these terms, especially transgender, as they feel this implies identifying as a gender other than their assigned gender, while they in fact do not identify as any gender at all.

 

 

Agender people can have any preference for pronouns, although some prefer to avoid using gendered language about themselves as much as possible. They can also present in any way - masculine, feminine, both or neither. Agender people can experience dysphoria if they are unable to express their identity in a way they are comfortable with.

Agender people who wish to appear gender-neutral or genderless may have gender nullification surgery to achieve a body that lacks sex characteristics. Chromosome therapy is currently being studied by researchers at UC Berkeley which attempts to nullify those chromosomes which stereotypically identify the individual by a sex.

Agender people can be of any sexuality and should not be confused with being asexual.

Agender is also called genderblank, genderfree, genderless, gendervoid, non-gendered, or null gender. Agender is an identity under the nonbinary and transgender umbrella terms. Agender individuals find that they have no gender identity, although some define this more as having a gender identity that is neutral.
 

Some agender people feel that they have no gender identity, while others feel that agender is itself a gender identity. This is similar to and overlaps with the experience of being gender neutral or having a neutral gender identity.

 



As some agender people have no gender identity, it is important to not talk about nonbinary or transgender people's experiences only in the sense of gender identity.

What is Neutrois? Neutrois is a non-binary gender identity that falls under the genderqueer or transgender umbrellas. There is no one definition of Neutrois, since each person that self-identifies as such experiences their gender differently. The most common ones are: Neutral-gender, Null-gender, Neither male nor female, Genderless, Agender.

It is often said that non-gender or genderlessness is the experience of having no gender identity at all, whereas gender neutral or neutrois is the experience of having a gender identity, a gender identity which is not male or female, but neutral. However, these statements don't match the experiences of everyone who has taken up these identities as their own. This is a problem of a difference between word definitions that are prescriptivist (telling everyone how they should use a word, and saying that many people use it wrong) and descriptivist (describing how people have actually been using a word, without telling them to change).
 

Wikipedia: Gender Bender

 

Gender Bending

According to Wikipedia, a gender bender is one who genderfucks. A gender bender is a person who disrupts, "bends," "messes with," or "fucks with" expected gender roles. Gender bending is sometimes a form of social activism undertaken to destroy rigid gender roles and defy sex-role stereotypes, notably in cases where the gender-nonconforming person finds these roles oppressive. It can be a reaction to, and protest of, homophobia, transphobia or misogyny.
 

Some gender benders identify with the sex assigned them at birth, but challenge the societal norms that assign expectations of particular, gendered behavior to that sex. This rebellion can involve androgynous dress, adornment, behavior, and atypical gender roles. Gender benders may self-identify as trans or genderqueer. However, many trans people do not consider themselves "gender benders."

 

As reported in Daily Gazette (2012), "genderfuck" is a term used to describe "a person's gender identity or the act of consciously and conspicuously challenging traditional ideas of the gender binary through androgyny, hyperbole, and cross-dressing."

The Urban Dictionary defines "genderfuck" as deliberately sending mixed messages about ones sex, usually through ones dress (wearing a skirt and a beard). It is based upon the belief/idea that either gender does not exist (but only in the context of culture) or that there are multiple genders (beyond male and female), including but not limited to transgender.

 

Atypical Gender Roles

 

An atypical gender role is a gender role comprising gender-typed behaviors not typically associated with a cultural norm. Gender role stereotypes are the socially determined model which contains the cultural beliefs about what the gender roles should be. It is what a society expects men and women to think, look like, and behave. Gender role stereotypes are often based on gender norms. Examples of some atypical gender roles:
 

Househusbands  -  Men who stay at home and take care of the house and children while their partner goes to work. According to Sam Roberts of the New York Times, in 1970 four percent of American men earned less than their wives. National Public Radio reported that by 2015 this had risen to 38%.
 

Metrosexual  -  A man of any sexual orientation who has interest in style and fashion; typically well dressed and meticulously groomed.
 

Androgyne  -  An androgynous person, identifying as neither male nor female; Or presenting a gender either mixed or neutral.
 

Crossdresser  -  A person who dresses in the clothing and approximating the appearance of members of the opposite gender, in public or solely in private, without proclaiming themselves to be that gender. Cross dressers may be cisgender, or they may be trans people who have not yet transitioned.
 

Hijra  -  A (sometimes neutered) person whose anatomy is in most cases identified as male (more rarely female or intersex), but whose gender identity is neither masculine nor feminine, whose gender role includes special clothing that identifies them as a hijra, and whose gender role includes a special place in society and special occupations.
 

Khanith  -  The gynecomimetic partner in a heterogender homosexual relationship, who may retain his public status as a man, despite his departure in dress and behavior from a socio-normal male role. The clothing of these individuals must be intermediate between that of a male and a female. His social role includes the freedom to associate with women in the entire range of their social interactions, including singing with them at a wedding.

 

 

Metrosexual

 

According to Merriam-Webster, a metrosexual is usually urban heterosexual male given to enhancing his personal appearance by fastidious grooming, beauty treatments, and fashionable clothes.

 

The term "metrosexual" is a merging of the words "metropolitan" and "sexual," coined in 1994 describing a man (especially one living in an urban, post-industrial, capitalist culture) who is especially meticulous about his grooming and appearance, typically spending a significant amount of time and money on shopping as part of this. The term is thought to describe heterosexual men who adopt fashions and lifestyles stereotypically associated with homosexual men. While the term suggests that a metrosexual is heterosexual, it can refer to anyone with any sexual orientation.

 

 

The term "metrosexual" originated in an article by Mark Simpson published in 1994, in The Independent. Simpson wrote: "Metrosexual man, the single young man with a high disposable income, living or working in the city (because that's where all the best shops are), is perhaps the most promising consumer market of the decade. In the Eighties he was only to be found inside fashion magazines such as GQ. In the Nineties, he’s everywhere and he's going shopping."


However, it was not until the early 2000s when Simpson returned to the subject that the term became globally popular. In 2002, Salon.com published an article by Simpson, which described David Beckham as "the biggest metrosexual in Britain" and offered this updated definition: "The typical metrosexual is a young man with money to spend, living in or within easy reach of a metropolis, because that’s where all the best shops, clubs, gyms and hairdressers are. He might be officially gay, straight or bisexual, but this is utterly immaterial because he has clearly taken himself as his own love object and pleasure as his sexual preference."

 

Metrosexuals may be the modern incarnation of the 19th century "dandy."

 

In its soundbite diffusion through the channels of marketeers and popular media, who eagerly and constantly reminded their audience that the metrosexual was straight, the metrosexual has congealed into something more digestible for consumers: a heterosexual male who is in touch with his feminine side. He color-coordinates, cares deeply about exfoliation, and has perhaps manscaped. Men did not go to shopping malls, so consumer culture promoted the idea of a sensitive man who went to malls, bought magazines and spent freely to improve his personal appearance.

 

According to the Urban Dictionary, You might be "metrosexual" if...

--You just can't walk past a Banana Republic store without making a purchase.
--You own 20 pairs of shoes, half a dozen pairs of sunglasses, just as many watches, and carry a man-purse.
--You see a stylist instead of a barber, because barbers don't do highlights.
--You can make lamb shanks and risotto for dinner and Eggs Benedict for breakfast... all from scratch.
--You only wear Calvin Klein boxer-briefs.
--You shave more than just your face. You also exfoliate and moisturize.
--You would never, ever own a pickup truck.
--You can't imagine a day without hair styling products.
--You'd rather drink wine than beer... but you'll find out what estate and vintage first.
--Despite being flattered (even proud) that gay guys hit on you, you still find the thought of actually getting intimate with another man truly repulsive.

 


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