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Wikipedia: Gender Variance
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Mother's Story: Raising a Gender Nonconforming Child
TED Talk: Gender Fluidity
Genderqueer (gender nonconformity, gender variant,
gender diverse, non-binary, gender expansive, gender
ambiguous, gender atypical) is behavior or gender
expression by an individual that does not match the
gender norms of the gender they are perceived to be by
society. A person who exhibits gender variance may be
called a gender bender or a gender outlaw, and may be
transgender or otherwise variant in their gender
identity. In the case of transgender people, they may be
perceived, or perceive themselves as, gender
nonconforming before transitioning, but might not be
perceived as such after transitioning. Some intersex
people may also exhibit gender variance.
The word transgender usually has a narrower meaning and
somewhat different connotations, including a
non-identification with the gender assigned at birth.
Transgender can be defined as an umbrella term for
people whose gender identity or gender expression
differs from the sex they were assigned at birth. But,
not all gender variant people identify as transgender,
and not all transgender people identify as gender
variant; many identify simply as men or women. Gender
identity is one's internal sense of their own gender;
while most people have a gender identity of a boy or a
man, or a girl or a woman, gender identity for other
people is more complex than two choices. Furthermore,
gender expression is the external manifestation of one's
gender identity, usually through "masculine,"
"feminine," or gender variant presentation or behavior.
Fluidity: Short Film
Raising My Rainbow: Gender Nonconforming Kids
Young Boy's Dream of Being a Princess
Whittington Family: Ryland's Story
TED Talk: Gender is Not a Straight Line
Gender Non-Binary and
Concerns About Bullying
What is gender non-conformity? Gender conformity can be
defined most simply as behavior and appearance that
conforms to the social expectations for one’s gender.
So, gender conforming women behave and appear in ways
that are considered feminine. Gender conforming men
behave and appear in ways that are considered masculine.
Gender non-conformity, then, is behaving and appearing
in ways that are considered atypical for one’s gender.
"Gender nonconforming" was among the 56 genders made
available on Facebook in 2014.
What does it mean to be gender non-conforming? Childhood
gender nonconformity (CGN) is a phenomenon in which
prepubescent children do not conform to expected
gender-related sociological or psychological patterns,
or identify with the opposite sex/gender.
What does it mean to be gender fluid? Gender fluid is a
gender identity which refers to a gender which varies
over time. A gender fluid person may at any time
identify as male, female, neutrois, or any other
non-binary identity, or some combination of identities.
Their gender can also vary at random or vary in response
to different circumstances.
What is gender questioning? The questioning of one's
gender, sexual identity, sexual orientation, or all
three is a process of exploration by people who may be
unsure, still exploring, and concerned about applying a
social label to themselves for various reasons.
What is genderqueer? Genderqueer is a term that is
growing in usage, representing a blurring of the lines
surrounding society’s rigid views of both gender
identity and sexual orientation. Genderqueer people
embrace a fluidity of gender expression that is not
limiting. They may not identify as male or female, but
as both, neither, or as a blend. Similarly, genderqueer
is a more inclusive term with respect to sexual
orientation. It does not limit a person to identifying
strictly as heterosexual or homosexual.
What is androgyny? Androgyny is a state in which
gendered behaviors, presentations and roles include
aspects of both masculinity and femininity. People of
any gender identity or sexual orientation can be
androgynous, but it is often favored by non-binary
people as a means to externally express their gender
identity. At way of expressing androgyny can include
dressing in way where one is unable to tell if they are
male or female. People who feel that their gender
identity is androgynous often identify as androgyne.
Genderqueer, also termed non-binary or gender-expansive,
is a catch-all category for gender identities that are
not exclusively masculine or feminine—identities which
are thus outside of the gender binary and cisnormativity.
Genderqueer people may identify as one or more of the
--having an overlap of, or indefinite lines between,
--having two or more genders (being bigender, trigender,
--having no gender (being agender, nongendered,
genderless, genderfree or neutrois)
--moving between genders or having a fluctuating gender
--being third gender or other-gendered, a category which
includes those who do not name their gender
Some genderqueer people use that as their only
description of their gender identity, while others also
identify as another gender identity such as androgyne or
bigender. Genderqueer people may also identify as
transgender and/or nonbinary. Some genderqueer people
may wish to transition, either medically or by changing
their name and/or pronouns to suit their preferred
gender expression. Genderqueer people can have any
"Genderqueer", along with being an umbrella term, has
been used as an adjective to refer to any people who
transgress mainstream distinctions of gender, regardless
of their self-defined gender identity. Androgynous is
sometimes also used as a descriptive term for people in
this category, but genderqueer is used to indicate that
gender norms can be transgressed through a combination
of masculinity and femininity, or neither.
On matters of sex and sexuality, there is no avoiding
discussing gender. It is important to start by defining
“gender,” and distinguishing it from “biological sex.”
Too often, biological sex is thought to be synonymous
with the social category of gender. Although they are
consistent for the majority of the population (feminine
women and masculine men), sex and gender are not
consistent for a sizable number of people. And, for some
individuals, the typical categories of sex (female and
male) and gender (feminine and masculine) simply do not
"Agender" is a term which can be literally
translated as "without gender" or "non-gender."
It can be seen either as a non-binary gender
identity or as a statement of not having a
gender identity. People who identify as agender
may describe themselves as one or more of the
--Genderless or lacking gender.
--Gender neutral. This may be meant in the sense
of being neither man or woman yet still having a
--Neutrois or neutrally gendered.
--Having an unknown or undefinable gender; not
aligning with any gender.
--Having no other words that fit their gender
--Not knowing or not caring about gender, as an
internal identity and/or as an external label.
--Deciding not to label their gender.
--Identifying more as a person than any gender
Many agender people also identify as genderqueer,
non-binary and/or transgender. However, some
agender people prefer to avoid these terms,
especially transgender, as they feel this
implies identifying as a gender other than their
assigned gender, while they in fact do not
identify as any gender at all.
Agender people can have any preference for
pronouns, although some prefer to avoid using
gendered language about themselves as much as
possible. They can also present in any way -
masculine, feminine, both or neither. Agender
people can experience dysphoria if they are
unable to express their identity in a way they
are comfortable with.
Agender people who wish to appear gender-neutral
or genderless may have gender nullification
surgery to achieve a body that lacks sex
characteristics. Chromosome therapy is currently
being studied by researchers at UC Berkeley
which attempts to nullify those chromosomes
which stereotypically identify the individual by
Agender people can be of any sexuality and
should not be confused with being asexual.
Agender is also called genderblank, genderfree,
genderless, gendervoid, non-gendered, or null
gender. Agender is an identity under the
nonbinary and transgender umbrella terms.
Agender individuals find that they have no
gender identity, although some define this more
as having a gender identity that is neutral.
Some agender people feel that they have no
gender identity, while others feel that agender
is itself a gender identity. This is similar to
and overlaps with the experience of being gender
neutral or having a neutral gender identity.
As some agender people have no gender identity,
it is important to not talk about nonbinary or
transgender people's experiences only in the
sense of gender identity.
What is Neutrois? Neutrois is a non-binary
gender identity that falls under the genderqueer
or transgender umbrellas. There is no one
definition of Neutrois, since each person that
self-identifies as such experiences their gender
differently. The most common ones are:
Neutral-gender, Null-gender, Neither male nor
female, Genderless, Agender.
It is often said that non-gender or
genderlessness is the experience of having no
gender identity at all, whereas gender neutral
or neutrois is the experience of having a gender
identity, a gender identity which is not male or
female, but neutral. However, these statements
don't match the experiences of everyone who has
taken up these identities as their own. This is
a problem of a difference between word
definitions that are prescriptivist (telling
everyone how they should use a word, and saying
that many people use it wrong) and descriptivist
(describing how people have actually been using
a word, without telling them to change).
According to Wikipedia, a gender bender is one
who genderfucks. A gender bender is a person who
disrupts, "bends," "messes with," or "fucks
with" expected gender roles. Gender bending is
sometimes a form of social activism undertaken
to destroy rigid gender roles and defy sex-role
stereotypes, notably in cases where the
gender-nonconforming person finds these roles
oppressive. It can be a reaction to, and protest
of, homophobia, transphobia or misogyny.
Some gender benders identify with the sex
assigned them at birth, but challenge the
societal norms that assign expectations of
particular, gendered behavior to that sex. This
rebellion can involve androgynous dress,
adornment, behavior, and atypical gender roles.
Gender benders may self-identify as trans or
genderqueer. However, many trans people do not
consider themselves "gender benders."
As reported in Daily Gazette (2012), "genderfuck" is a term used to
describe "a person's gender identity or the act
of consciously and conspicuously challenging
traditional ideas of the gender binary through
androgyny, hyperbole, and cross-dressing."
The Urban Dictionary defines "genderfuck" as
deliberately sending mixed messages about ones
sex, usually through ones dress (wearing a skirt
and a beard). It is based upon the belief/idea
that either gender does not exist (but only in
the context of culture) or that there are
multiple genders (beyond male and female),
including but not limited to transgender.
atypical gender role is a gender role comprising
gender-typed behaviors not typically associated
with a cultural norm. Gender role stereotypes
are the socially determined model which contains
the cultural beliefs about what the gender roles
should be. It is what a society expects men and
women to think, look like, and behave. Gender
role stereotypes are often based on gender
norms. Examples of some atypical gender roles:
Househusbands - Men who stay at home and take
care of the house and children while their
partner goes to work. According to Sam Roberts
of the New York Times, in 1970 four percent of
American men earned less than their wives.
National Public Radio reported that by 2015 this
had risen to 38%.
Metrosexual - A man of any sexual orientation
who has interest in style and fashion; typically
well dressed and meticulously groomed.
Androgyne - An androgynous person, identifying
as neither male nor female; Or presenting a
gender either mixed or neutral.
Crossdresser - A person who dresses in the
clothing and approximating the appearance of
members of the opposite gender, in public or
solely in private, without proclaiming
themselves to be that gender. Cross dressers may
be cisgender, or they may be trans people who
have not yet transitioned.
Hijra - A (sometimes neutered) person whose
anatomy is in most cases identified as male
(more rarely female or intersex), but whose
gender identity is neither masculine nor
feminine, whose gender role includes special
clothing that identifies them as a hijra, and
whose gender role includes a special place in
society and special occupations.
Khanith - The gynecomimetic partner in a
heterogender homosexual relationship, who may
retain his public status as a man, despite his
departure in dress and behavior from a
socio-normal male role. The clothing of these
individuals must be intermediate between that of
a male and a female. His social role includes
the freedom to associate with women in the
entire range of their social interactions,
including singing with them at a wedding.
According to Merriam-Webster, a metrosexual is
usually urban heterosexual male given to
enhancing his personal appearance by fastidious
grooming, beauty treatments, and fashionable
The term "metrosexual" is a merging of the words
"metropolitan" and "sexual," coined in 1994
describing a man (especially one living in an
urban, post-industrial, capitalist culture) who
is especially meticulous about his grooming and
appearance, typically spending a significant
amount of time and money on shopping as part of
this. The term is thought to describe
heterosexual men who adopt fashions and
lifestyles stereotypically associated with
homosexual men. While the term suggests that a
metrosexual is heterosexual, it can refer to
anyone with any sexual orientation.
The term "metrosexual" originated in an article
by Mark Simpson published in 1994,
in The Independent. Simpson wrote: "Metrosexual
man, the single young man with a high disposable
income, living or working in the city (because
that's where all the best shops are), is perhaps
the most promising consumer market of the
decade. In the Eighties he was only to be found
inside fashion magazines such as GQ. In the
Nineties, he’s everywhere and he's going
However, it was not until the early 2000s when
Simpson returned to the subject that the term
became globally popular. In 2002, Salon.com
published an article by Simpson, which described
David Beckham as "the biggest metrosexual in
Britain" and offered this updated definition:
"The typical metrosexual is a young man with
money to spend, living in or within easy reach
of a metropolis, because that’s where all the
best shops, clubs, gyms and hairdressers are. He
might be officially gay, straight or bisexual,
but this is utterly immaterial because he has
clearly taken himself as his own love object and
pleasure as his sexual preference."
Metrosexuals may be the modern incarnation of
the 19th century "dandy."
its soundbite diffusion through the channels of
marketeers and popular media, who eagerly and
constantly reminded their audience that the
metrosexual was straight, the metrosexual has
congealed into something more digestible for
consumers: a heterosexual male who is in touch
with his feminine side. He color-coordinates,
cares deeply about exfoliation, and has perhaps manscaped. Men did not go to shopping malls, so
consumer culture promoted the idea of a
sensitive man who went to malls, bought
magazines and spent freely to improve his
According to the Urban Dictionary, You might be
--You just can't walk past a Banana Republic
store without making a purchase.
--You own 20 pairs of shoes, half a dozen pairs
of sunglasses, just as many watches, and carry a man-purse.
--You see a stylist instead of a barber, because
barbers don't do highlights.
--You can make lamb shanks and risotto for
dinner and Eggs Benedict for breakfast... all
--You only wear Calvin Klein boxer-briefs.
--You shave more than just your face. You also
exfoliate and moisturize.
--You would never, ever own a pickup truck.
--You can't imagine a day without hair styling
--You'd rather drink wine than beer... but
you'll find out what estate and vintage first.
--Despite being flattered (even proud) that gay
guys hit on you, you still find the thought of
actually getting intimate with another man truly
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